pickflicker Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 Well the reason for me putting the qualifier in my profile (and not listing myself as bisexual), is because I've seen women who have done the same. Soooo yeah. Well, then if those women jump off a cliff, yada yada yada. Put whatever you want. But you'll have to deal with women feeling that they've been duped if you then confess your sexual preferences to them. I certainly would.
Syreeni Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 LovelyDay, First, I'd like to say, I like the umbrella term being Bisexual. It's lost a lot of it's confusion and negativity over the last 20 years. Its become a widely recognized and accepted term for a person that is sexually attracted to both genders. What's not to like abut all of that? If you identify with the sub identification, Pansexual...great. But there is no reason to not also, and on certain things, leave Bisexual as the broad term, Pansexual as the specific term. Besides, it gives you the opportunity to be another person advocating understanding for Bisexuality and helping others understand all the sub identifications that fall under that. I'm going to use the term Bisexual. 1. Its proper. 2. I like it, a lot 3. Been using it for so many happy years 4. It means, in the simplest way what I want to say-- A person that is sexually attracted to both genders. This is in no way meaning that you cannot ignore the Bisexual term or that I am ignoring your usage of Pansexual as your identifier. You do whatever you makes you happy. I'm going to use it in reference to you and Bisexuality in general and talk about my opinions on using it. Strangely enough, I am exactly the type of woman you are looking for...so we may be hard to find, but we exist. I'm a Hetero female, that is very open to dating Bi males. By very open, I even mean I prefer to however, it is also a bit of a niche group so I end up with Hetero. But in all the years I've been around only 3 guys that ever hit on me were Bi. 2 just wanted ONS (military guys) and the other ended up as a BF for almost 5 years. Just wanted to give you a little positive outlook that some of us ladies think man on man is HOT. Besides, I'm a "fruit fly" , not only is it hot...but it's also really, really normal for me. Has been for over 20 years. Not sure how old you are...but in addition to the OLD, you might want yo peruse gay bars/clubs looking for the FF in the middle of the gay entourage. We are usually very open to dating a Bi male. We will be startled when being hit on, and may need convincing since we are not used to being hit on when fully emersed in our entourage...but, you gotta go where we nest to find us. With the gay community being so close knit...you could probably ask someone to activate a phone tree, getting you numbers of others like me. Anyways, my suggestion is to use Bisexual in the header and Pansexual in the descriptive body. Queer male looking for female --- that is going to be misunderstood. Even by me, and I'm your target audience! I would bypass it and be mad, because I would assume it was some Jack@ss troll type that was being "typical" and making a dig at gay males as well as females ( some guy that has been rejected and blames the ladies, thinking he's not getting attention because women only want "romantic" males, not " real" males like him). I wouldn't even click on it. If you put Bisexual male looking for females...I would click and read. And be totally on board with Pansexual and your 95/5 dating history. Obviously, its always good to mention you are looking for a LTR, not a fling or ONS. There are a few of us, but yeah, its a bit of a niche group. Outside of the gay community, and even a little within it...queer has a derogatory connotation that will probably never go away or be heard any other way. I disagree with you about the negativity regarding Bisexual. Through the last 20 plus years, I've seen it go from what you stated, to a widely used accepted term. Fully understood as its intended to be. There will always be people of the masses that think all sorts of dumb things, pigeonholing Non- Hetero people. Its best to ignore or even better, educate. That's why it concerns me that you seem to reject the wonderful word Bisexual as your Umbrella term for Pansexual. But, you do whatever you feel most comfortable with...just figured you might want to hear an opinion/advice from your target audience as well as a long time supporter of the community, although I'm pretty sure I earned my place in it simply by osmosis. As a side note: you said " kids from Southie". I do believe you live nearish my neck of the woods, dear LovelyDay. Too bad I'm probably old enough to be your mother! And too bad that I've been out of the bar/club scene far to long to be able to play cupid for you. However, in a few months a friend from my home state is coming to visit and we will be going to P- town. You been? FF will be making pilgrimages with their GE. Readers, please forgive repeated thoughts and anything else I flubbed. Way too tired to care about going over this at the moment. I need a bed. I can be horrified in the morning. 1
Author LovelyDay Posted February 7, 2014 Author Posted February 7, 2014 Well, then if those women jump off a cliff, yada yada yada. Put whatever you want. But you'll have to deal with women feeling that they've been duped if you then confess your sexual preferences to them. I certainly would. Again, I'm stating it in my profile what my background is. I've for a while now have either listed myself as bisexual or have mentioned it in my profile.
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