freetolove Posted February 6, 2014 Posted February 6, 2014 My BF is from Germany and when we first met he told me that he was going to the in the US. After some pressure, he told me that he doesn't see him building a life here because he is all alone (he has very large family in Europe and he is close to). We've been dating for almost 3 months. He says he's madly in love with me. I like him a lot as well. I'm in my 30s and he's 40s. I'm at a point in my life where I'm ready to settle down. He did not say anything about me moving to Germany so I was going to break up with him today. THoughts? I really like the guy and haven't found anyone like him in years but it also looks like a dead end.
theonlyjuan Posted February 6, 2014 Posted February 6, 2014 If he is set on moving and hasn't asked you to, move on. Maybe bring it up to him first? You can't really blame him for wanting to move back
FitChick Posted February 6, 2014 Posted February 6, 2014 For you to move to Germany legally you'd have to get married, which is unlikely after three months unless he wants to continue via long distance. Of course if you don't want to move to Germany there would be no point in continuing.
Eau Claire Posted February 6, 2014 Posted February 6, 2014 If he is planning on moving without your input, you are not than important in his life. Even if he didnt move back , how could you now ever feel secure? My boyfriend is not American but he makes me his number one priority in life...period. The only priority over one's partner should be minor aged children and, even then, some happy medium can be made.
Author freetolove Posted February 7, 2014 Author Posted February 7, 2014 the break up ended up not happening. we talked about it but it didn't get resolved. it just ended with how much we cared about each other. he says he want to see what happens. I'm a little stuck. =(
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