initforreal Posted February 6, 2014 Posted February 6, 2014 Hi there. I've been dating this guy for about a month now. We have already talked & decided that neither of us wants to see other people. We only live about 30 min apart but have only seen each 5 times. We text constantly every day. We've only spoken on the phone twice. He's not a phone talker. I really really like him. He has said he likes me, too. We aren't flirty through text that often. I dont know how to be. It scares me that it will push him away. I just found out two nights ago that my ex husband text my new bf when he first found out we were talking. My ex is the one who told me, not my bf. I was furious. He has since threatened to call him again. I asked him not to, and he says he hasn't & won't. But last night as my bg & I were texting & making plans for this weekend he became in a bad mood. I asked if he was ok & he said "just frustrated" & I asked with me & he said no. He really didn't text much after that, so I ended it with good night. I text my usual good morning text this morning &never heard from him, which is really odd because he always texts back, even if it's "U too" cuz he's running late. We check in with each other in the afternoons while at work to see how each others days are going. So, I'm hoping he will text me. If not, I will try again tonight & see what's going on. It makes me feel ok since he said it wasn't me. I called & asked my ex if he called or text him & he said no. Am I worried for nothing? I was thinking about going over to his house tonight to warn him that my ex has been threatening to call him. Good or bad idea? I'm so confused. He's constantly on my mind & I'm trying not to be clingy. We both iniate conversation, so it's not one sided. Any help would be appreciated!
d0nnivain Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 Why the heck would your EX insert himself in the middle of this? Although it's not your fault you need to apologize to the new guy for EXs behavior. Make sure the new guy doesn't think you condone this. I would also write a snail mail letter to the EX & tell him to butt the heck out. Send it certified mail & keep a copy. If you remember your EXs lawyer's name, copy that person. Just talk to your new guy as if nothing else is wrong. Don't over analyze & be calm.
mammasita Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 HOW in the EFF did your EX get this guys number? 2
ExpatInItaly Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 Dafuq? How did you ex-husband get the new's guy's telephone number?
Phantom888 Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 Your ex sounds like an unstable weird dude, and no man wants a woman with such an unstable ex. I mean, after a month, he hardly knows you....so he is likely just gonna go no contact with you, and let things fizzle away. That's what I would do.
veggirl Posted February 8, 2014 Posted February 8, 2014 Yep he wants to avoid drama and unfortunately you have shown him that you bring drama to the table (your ex calling him?! Seriously wtf). I doubt you will hear from him again and at this point you can't change the fact that he thinks you = drama, any attempt to will probably just make you look crazy to him. Gotta let this one go and next time don't let your ex find out.
BradJacobs Posted February 8, 2014 Posted February 8, 2014 I was thinking about going over to his house tonight to warn him that my ex has been threatening to call him. Good or bad idea? I'm so confused. He's constantly on my mind & I'm trying not to be clingy. Did you stop in or not? This isn't that big of a deal in my opinion. It's so easy to block numbers nowadays that it's a minor annoyance, if an annoyance at all.
mammasita Posted February 8, 2014 Posted February 8, 2014 Im still wondering how ex got the number. That will make things clear. Did OP give it to ex husband? Were OP and ex hanging out and he went thru her phone. If so WHY? Is OP not legally divorced (they still live together) and just claiming her "ex husband" is crazy? I think thats the key to this mystery.
Author initforreal Posted February 9, 2014 Author Posted February 9, 2014 We are divorced, and my ex went online to see who I was texting or talking to. He googled every number, and when saw how often my bf & I talked he got really jealous. My bf & I are fine. We talked that afternoon & he's coming over tonight to watch movies. My ex wants to works things out, but I have no interest in that. He keeps asking all kinds of questions about my bf. I tell him I'm not going to talk with him about him. It's none of his business. He didn't want mt til I started dating. I have since changed my password online so he can't see anyone I talk to. I just think it's kinda weird my bf never brought up my ex text him?? Maybe my ex is lieing? Do I ask my bf about it or just let it go. I really like this guy & don't want my ex to ruin things between us.
mammasita Posted February 9, 2014 Posted February 9, 2014 Tell your bf to block the number! Easy enough. Good luck!
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