Brielle1 Posted February 6, 2014 Posted February 6, 2014 So guys and gals... When is it acceptable for woman to text first? Haven't had a 'date', tho he's put it out there he would like to take me out--both of our schedules are full for the next 3wks or so. So far, we've only hung out in a group setting, the first time we met. I don't hear from every day, longest he'll go quite is about 36hrs. We've been going back and forth for a few wks now. I don't want to seem desperate & want to give him a litttttle challenge here lol. Prob should hold off on sending him a text, huh?
soccerrprp Posted February 6, 2014 Posted February 6, 2014 So guys and gals... When is it acceptable for woman to text first? Haven't had a 'date', tho he's put it out there he would like to take me out--both of our schedules are full for the next 3wks or so. So far, we've only hung out in a group setting, the first time we met. I don't hear from every day, longest he'll go quite is about 36hrs. We've been going back and forth for a few wks now. I don't want to seem desperate & want to give him a litttttle challenge here lol. Prob should hold off on sending him a text, huh? No. Why hold off? Don't make this into a challenge, game. I know that most guys would be fine and "cool" with a girl/woman that asks first. It's an ego booster and not that common. 1
Phantom888 Posted February 6, 2014 Posted February 6, 2014 There is no rule. If you want to text him, do it. I find it strange that if he were interested, why would he go 36 hours of no contact? People usually want to stay in touch if they are interested.
winny Posted February 6, 2014 Posted February 6, 2014 I would say if he has initiated 5 times then u initiate the 6th time. But only if u feel he is genuinely interested. Going 3 days without contact means he is not that interested or since u have not had any dates so he doesn't want to invest much...
Keenly Posted February 6, 2014 Posted February 6, 2014 I would be delighted to get a first text from a girl. 3
winny Posted February 6, 2014 Posted February 6, 2014 If somebody is interested n wants to talk to you what's wrong if they reach out to you.... A genuine guy would appreciate the effort not think that u r desperate. But in initial stages it is better that u initiate less than him. But do initiate sometimes.
Barbarossa Posted February 6, 2014 Posted February 6, 2014 I agree with keenly getting a first text from a girl is awesome it shows she's interested
winny Posted February 6, 2014 Posted February 6, 2014 I just messaged someone first on the OLD site and he replied. So am gonna quiz him how he feels about it... LOL And what would be his thought about me if I asked his number first n texted him first Will he think of me any less. I will clear this once n for all before I start talking .. LOL
LovelyDay Posted February 6, 2014 Posted February 6, 2014 Yeah if you want to text him, text him. It's 2014!
Imajerk17 Posted February 6, 2014 Posted February 6, 2014 (edited) When is it safe for the female to text first? It's safe for a woman to text first during every full moon. And maybe every new moon too. And oh yeah, the first Friday of every month. Any other time she does this though G-d kills a kitten in her name. Seriously what kind of question is this? We don't know your guy OP.... Edited February 6, 2014 by Imajerk17 1
acrosstheuniverse Posted February 6, 2014 Posted February 6, 2014 Whenever you want to. If he's into you, he'll be delighted to receive it. If he isn't, you've lost nothing, because he isn't into you anyway. 2
d0nnivain Posted February 6, 2014 Posted February 6, 2014 Sending 1-2 texts is no big deal. It doesn't matter who initiates. Sending 1-2 texts an hour is desperate. Go ahead & reach out. Understand that the advise someone gave you -- let him send 5-6 texts before you send 1 -- is game playing. Play at your own risk. Keeping score like that will drive you nuts.
Author Brielle1 Posted February 6, 2014 Author Posted February 6, 2014 Another reason I'm a little skeptical to text is because I was the one who reached out to him initially. A mutual friend told me this guy thought I was attractive & didn't even attempt to flirt because he knew I was 'out if his league'. As much as it turns me off to hear that term used by a guy, I blew it off and approached him anyway. (I sent him a text from our friends phone and gave him my number). I'm shy when it comes to men, so I went out of my comfort zone here! I'm pretty sure he'd be cool if I sent him a text. I'm just wondering if he's even interested. I've never had to guess if a guy was into me or not--- I'm all mixed up with this one!
Author Brielle1 Posted February 6, 2014 Author Posted February 6, 2014 When is it safe for the female to text first? It's safe for a woman to text first during every full moon. And maybe every new moon too. And oh yeah, the first Friday of every month. Any other time she does this though G-d kills a kitten in her name. Seriously what kind of question is this? We don't know your guy OP.... Seriously, thanks for rubbing it in Trust me I feel silly asking, but these days, it seems like there are unspoken rules when it comes to dating. And this chick right here is clueless! Lol aw well I'm going to be a big girlY and just text this guy. Just another clear indicator that I'm terrified of rejection. Yep. I need to work on this!
LovelyDay Posted February 6, 2014 Posted February 6, 2014 Nahh, there's only rules if you think there are. As long as you respect someone's boundaries, do what you feel is right! 1
almond Posted February 6, 2014 Posted February 6, 2014 ^ Exactly. Don't over-think things, and don't worry about other people's "rules" when it comes to your personal affairs and communication. If you two are compatible, you are fine. when i go fishing, i like to actually fish, bait the hook, throw it in the water and catch an actual fish if i spend all the time prepping the boat, filling it with gas, filling up the cooler with beer and putting the boat in the water only to go out to the lake/river/ocean and fish start just jumping in the boat, at first i would be excited, probably laugh but it would wear off quickly. what was the point in going fishing when the fish just jumped in the boat. where was the "chase" there are fisherman that would surely enjoy going out and praying that something just jumps in their boat and be happy, even if its a minnow. personally id throw the minnow back and hope i catch something better, but if you want to be a minnow op, go for it... Lol, throw it back and hope you "catch" something "better?" Because a girl sends a first text after multiple conversations? Because she didn't play hard to get for long enough? You evaluate future partners and their worth on how disinterested they act in the beginning? Odd. Guess some people are just out there to play. Others are genuinely wanting to get to know the person, not just chasing an ego boost. OP - text him if you want to. If you're not looking to be someone's latest trophy fish, then you have nothing to lose
Elias33 Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 It is 2014. The words chase and courtship should be buried by now. Guys don't buy these games anymore. Talk whenever you want to. What's the deal here. 1
MrCastle Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 Believe it or not women aren't the only ones who need validation. Sometimes men would like to know whether or not a woman likes them as opposed to doing all the work and never fully knowing how she feels. Text him.
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