danny8630 Posted January 16, 2005 Posted January 16, 2005 Our relationship is 'boring'. How do i or we bring light into our relationship. She says we do the same thing everytime we see each other. I look at other couples and wonder how they do it....its so difficult to do(relationships)
devilsgirl00 Posted January 17, 2005 Posted January 17, 2005 i'm going threw the same thing, but this dude is boring to me and we do the same things all the time. if you want more excitement, start doing things out the ordinary or just for no reason, go for long walks, take risk, make it exciting. and if she doesn't like that then tell her to come up with some things to do. and if she's like any confused female she'll say " i don't know ". Just be spontaneous and its going to go for the better. for your first experiment, (if you live alone just you and her) put candles around the whole house everywhere, have some music playing when she comes over, make a trail with something good leading into the bathroom and give her a back rub, then YOU dry her off, and you can go from there on your own. thats what i would do if i was a dude.
Author danny8630 Posted January 17, 2005 Author Posted January 17, 2005 that is a hot idea. But we dont live together. I come up with things to do like go look at the stars on the beach or shoot some pool or go for a walk downtown and she is like "nah, dont wanna". I would then ask "well then what would you like to do?". her response would be "::shrug:: i dunno".....i mean come on, that is such a dead end. Today, we are practing NC because of what happened the night before. No big deal
hooghie Posted January 17, 2005 Posted January 17, 2005 Could it be that the problem is that you guys just don't have fun together anymore? It takes 2 people to make a relationship work- if she is bored and doesn't like your ideas, why can't she come up with new ones? There is so much out there to experience in life. My bf and I are/were together for almost 3 years (broke up last night for other reasons), but we always seemed to find new things to do or try together, but even if we did the same things- we had fun because we love hanging out together and enjoy eachothers company so much. I think you need to determine if she is bored with YOU or with what you do during your time together. If it is the latter, you can salvage it by trying new things- whether it's picking up a new hobby like skiing or cooking together or finding new places to travel to. If she is bored with YOU, there is not much you can do about it. good luck...
hugznkisses21 Posted January 17, 2005 Posted January 17, 2005 I agree with a little of both..... Sometimes u need to spice things up a bit but i also agree when u really enjoy someone company u can be doing anything. Me and my bf can do absolutly nothing and we are enjoying our time together and having fun...doing NOTHING....and we never have ideas to do things....lol but every once in a while we need to go out and have a good night either with eachother or friends.....u only love once if u are always bored with eacother u are missing out on life
Author danny8630 Posted January 18, 2005 Author Posted January 18, 2005 yeah....i would love to go skiing but snow is unable to get where i am(south florida). So you think florida, water. My family does have a boat however, the water and air is cold so that is kind've pointles. I was doing some thinking and it seems that we just see each other too much/too often. Every other day of visitation would be more appropriate because there will always be that sense of "i miss them" which ultimately draws two together
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