tired girl Posted February 6, 2014 Posted February 6, 2014 Saw this article on another forum and thought it had a lot of great info on affairs and why they happen. Wanted to see what others thought about it here. http://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/200910/beyond-betrayal-life-after-infidelity
Realist3 Posted February 6, 2014 Posted February 6, 2014 I thought the article was blah... I kept thinking what he finally stated "generalization is both irritating and inaccurate." The whole article is a gross generalization. 1
Furious Posted February 6, 2014 Posted February 6, 2014 Saw this article on another forum and thought it had a lot of great info on affairs and why they happen. Wanted to see what others thought about it here. http://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/200910/beyond-betrayal-life-after-infidelity The article is illuminating. Frank Pittman, along with Shirley Glass, shed practical light on infidelity. Unfortunately, those while in an affair, will not agree with, or more often than not, will dismiss his observations. For the majority of those in affairs they believe they are the exception and that their affair is unique. What I find interesting, is that the common link is not so much the actual affair, but the poor coping skills or mindset of those who do cross the line into infidelity and how ill prepared they are for the consequences that unfold.
Spark1111 Posted February 6, 2014 Posted February 6, 2014 Absolutely adore the late, great Dr. Frank Pittman! His practical and common sense approach to infidelity helped me immensely. he hasn't also stated that romance and romanticists have killed more marriages than anything else.....that belief that you should have a lifetime of limerance is in his opinion, absurd and bordering immature. You should have security, support and respect, according to him. marriage gives you a basis of those resources to grow and become a happy, productive and authentic....ADULT. 1
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