Guitarisgood Posted February 6, 2014 Posted February 6, 2014 I randomly messaged her after thinking what the heck one day and as we both had work in the arvo, to go grab a bite after lunch. First up, she seems like the super shy type so I think I have work cut out for me if I really want to take things further. She was super keen after being bored all day. When I turned up to pick her up, she looked great and funnily heavily make-up'd for a simple meet up. When her phone went off she picked it up and quickly told me it was simply her sisters ex whom she saw as a brother etc etc. After that, the phone stayed forever in her pocket. She spent the majority of our little meet up continually asking questions as did I retort the same. She enjoyed me giving her a massage and while enjoying my touch, still seemed a little withdrawn here and there. She would not let me leave when we sat down to relax under a tree even though we both had work and as I pulled her up to go, she was surprised at how fast time had gone. We shared a lot in common and awkward silences was replaced by her singing to the car cd player. When I dropped her off, she did not leave without saying her thanks and exchanges of stuff. But she also said thanks for 'hanging out' today (I know, this was not actually a date but yeah). I am obviously keen to ask her out to dinner proper but just want to garner peoples opinion of how things went today. I find it hard to read people that are shy and more withdrawn and whether there is any interest there. Furthermore, she's a couple years younger than me at 18 and I've never dated younger before.
soccerrprp Posted February 6, 2014 Posted February 6, 2014 It went well. She was singing....you don't sing unless you're feeling good.
HappyLove Posted February 6, 2014 Posted February 6, 2014 You should definitely CALL her up and ask out to dinner. The only thing kind of creepy I thought was the massage because you even mentioned she seemed 'withdrawn here & there'. When you take her to dinner I wouldn't do something like that again. Let her get to know you first. Good luck.
soccerrprp Posted February 6, 2014 Posted February 6, 2014 You should definitely CALL her up and ask out to dinner. The only thing kind of creepy I thought was the massage because you even mentioned she seemed 'withdrawn here & there'. When you take her to dinner I wouldn't do something like that again. Let her get to know you first. Good luck. I can see this being a little TOO forward. This is good advice, but it was clear that she enjoyed it, right? I doubt she thought it was creepy, but ask her out for dinner.
Author Guitarisgood Posted February 6, 2014 Author Posted February 6, 2014 Thanks guys, just haven't dated a while now so a bit rusty. Regarding the massage, she'd walked in front of me along the pier so I'd simply put my hands to guide her to the lookout and started giving her a massage and she enjoyed it ans told me not to stop.
Author Guitarisgood Posted February 6, 2014 Author Posted February 6, 2014 My heart just sank, had a casual browse of her facebook profile and there's posts over the last month of her being out with another guy and heart emoticons etc used. That basically spells she is seeing someone doesn't it... Is there any point in me asking any more?
HappyLove Posted February 6, 2014 Posted February 6, 2014 My heart just sank, had a casual browse of her facebook profile and there's posts over the last month of her being out with another guy and heart emoticons etc used. That basically spells she is seeing someone doesn't it... Is there any point in me asking any more? I say just ask, you never know. Even if she says no she will know you are interested in her, incase things don't work out with the other guy. I say don't assume and just ask. I doubt she'll bite you. I mean she went out with you once recently right? I think we get too afraid of hearing the word no. If it's a no you can bring closure to this and start looking elsewhere.
ray.alb Posted February 6, 2014 Posted February 6, 2014 hey! sounds very clear to me, that she likes you. Actually there is nothing to lose for you. You should go for it, before the fire between you burns out:D keep us up-to-date!
Author Guitarisgood Posted February 6, 2014 Author Posted February 6, 2014 well her relationship status is still single so guess I'll just take a punt. How long should I wait before I give her a buzz?
Phantom888 Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 Call her NOW! why wait and risk her going to dinner with someone else first? Remember, if you are attracted to her, chances there are other guys thinking the same. Sounds like she is comfortable near you. That's a good sign! Strike while the iron is hot!! 1
Author Guitarisgood Posted February 7, 2014 Author Posted February 7, 2014 Well that was wishful thinking. Another rejection to add to the pile in as many weeks. Looking back, maybe my infatuation blinded my sight clearly to notice the signs that things weren't going as well as I thought! Cheers regardless all.
ray.alb Posted February 11, 2014 Posted February 11, 2014 how come? what did she say? any explaining?
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