Tquaza Posted February 6, 2014 Posted February 6, 2014 So I've been dating this girl for 4 months now. We've been friends for years and now were finally in a relationship. But we've started to realize it doesn't feel like a normal relationship. It feels like were "friends with benefits". We both really love each other but we joke around a lot and if people saw how we acted no one would guess were dating. We hit each other, call each other names, if i see a hot girl sometimes ill say something like "wow shes really hot" to make her jealous and she'll do the same sometimes. Point is I guess we don't act like a couple. We do have out romantic moments very often though. We say I love you, cuddle, etc. I guess I'd just like to know what people think about our relationship and if its normal or ok to be this way.
winny Posted February 6, 2014 Posted February 6, 2014 Yes it is normal. My friends like this even after marriage
ExpatInItaly Posted February 6, 2014 Posted February 6, 2014 So I've been dating this girl for 4 months now. We've been friends for years and now were finally in a relationship. But we've started to realize it doesn't feel like a normal relationship. It feels like were "friends with benefits". We both really love each other but we joke around a lot and if people saw how we acted no one would guess were dating. We hit each other, call each other names, if i see a hot girl sometimes ill say something like "wow shes really hot" to make her jealous and she'll do the same sometimes. Point is I guess we don't act like a couple. We do have out romantic moments very often though. We say I love you, cuddle, etc. I guess I'd just like to know what people think about our relationship and if its normal or ok to be this way. For me, the above behaviour is juvenile. I wouldn't put up with that crap. However, if you're both okay with it, then who cares what anyone else thinks? Do you feel something is missing?
Shepp Posted February 6, 2014 Posted February 6, 2014 Me and my gf were firends for a long time first, and even though i reallyliked her for most of that time, I still think when your relationship comes form the dynamic of friends there's a part of that dynamic that will always be present....personally I dont see that As a bad thing - I get to be genuine friends with my girlfriend, a lot of guys don't. But yeah of course there's the so of our realtionship that's more romantic, the longer were together the more memory's pile up I that category. And We parent together now so there's the side of our relationship that's much more adult and mature. But nothing will ever erase the side of our realtionship that comes from friends, from her burning my eyebrow off as my high school lab partner and then crying with laughter everytime I tried to frown, from me changing the passcode on her phone to wind her up and from us playing truth or dare around a campfire. So maybe there's a side of our realtionship that the outside world doesn't quite get but how could they understand where we are now if they never saw where we came from?
ray.alb Posted February 6, 2014 Posted February 6, 2014 so where#s the problem? does that make you or your girlfriend unhappy or something? if not, then stop worring and enjoy that your girlfriend is your best friend at the same time:) what perplexes me a little is, that you want to make er jealous...does that propably mean you don't feel loved by her? You need to be honest to yourself about that...because if you want someone to be jealous, it actually means you are not getting enough attention or love, so you are trying to get some love by her being jealous
Emilieya Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 So I've been dating this girl for 4 months now. We've been friends for years and now were finally in a relationship. But we've started to realize it doesn't feel like a normal relationship. It feels like were "friends with benefits". We both really love each other but we joke around a lot and if people saw how we acted no one would guess were dating. We hit each other, call each other names, if i see a hot girl sometimes ill say something like "wow shes really hot" to make her jealous and she'll do the same sometimes. Point is I guess we don't act like a couple. We do have out romantic moments very often though. We say I love you, cuddle, etc. I guess I'd just like to know what people think about our relationship and if its normal or ok to be this way. I think that it is normal but if you want to change this and you want you're relationship to feel more like a serious relationship than you could try to steer it into that direction. Stop with the comments about other girls, be more romantic, hold her more, laugh and be happy but don't joke around as much. If you make these changes i'm sure you're girlfriend will notice and do the same. Good luck with everything
ChessPieceFace Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 Your relationship sounds healthy to me ... healthier than what most people post about on here anyway.
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