chillsup123 Posted February 6, 2014 Posted February 6, 2014 So I signed up on a dating website just to see how it goes. This cute girl messages meand we exchange a few messages and I ask her if she wants to meet up. She agrees and we also exchange numbers. She was also pretty involved in the messages and engaged in them. From what I already know she's pretty busy. I told her that I might be free next weekend or this weekend and she told me to let her know. I texted her the next day later in the day and this was our convo. Me: Hey , how was your day? Her: Good thanks!(: who's this? Me: It's Bob Her: Sorry, last name? Me: You messaged me on the dating site... we exchanged numbers... It's Stephanie right? Her: Yeah! Hey (: Me: Lol. Well i just wanted to see how your day went that's all. Was about to drift away into sleep but the loud msg notification woke me up lol. Anyways I think I might be free this weekend. I made up the names. She didn't respond after that last message which is a bit of a statement I guess. Next day I message her that I'm free on the weekend so we should meet up. An hour passes and she still hasn't tested me back. I go on the dating site and notice that she was online a couple minutes ago or something. Another hour has passed and my phone dies and I cant find my charger anywhere. I'm extremely busy with school so I couldn't go buy a new one so I message her on the site. She replies in like 30 minutes and I told her about my phone dying and told her thst I texted her and she should just message me on the site. She replied with okay. I just reply with what I texted her and that we should meet up or not. She replies with seeing if she has work and if she doesn't shed love to. I then tell her to let me know because I'd really like to meet you. She replied with "okay, I will! Same! " Is she playing games or what... I'm just curious and confused. Also when I gave her my number I told her to feel free to text whenever. Then she gave me her number and said " same to you!" Is she giving me controk because she's just very busy? She does a lot of things by the way. Promoter, volunteers at hospital, buncha othet things.
deathandtaxes Posted February 6, 2014 Posted February 6, 2014 No games. She doesn't sound very interested. You also come across as too passive. Be assertive! Ask her out for a specific activity on a specific night at a specific time.
Author chillsup123 Posted February 6, 2014 Author Posted February 6, 2014 (edited) No games. She doesn't sound very interested. You also come across as too passive. Be assertive! Ask her out for a specific activity on a specific night at a specific time. I kind of made it sound like she wasnt interested lol. We had an engaging conversation when she first messaged me. She told me about what places she works at and everything without me even asking about it. I already told her the place we could go to around where she lives and she said, "I'll have to see if i have work, but if not I'd love to(:" then i told her, "Alright, let me know because i really would like to meet you." She replied with "Alright, I will! Same!(:" Edited February 6, 2014 by chillsup123
SunnySide0418 Posted February 6, 2014 Posted February 6, 2014 If she's interested she'll let you know if she's free like she said. You have to understand women are inundated with emails so she is probably exploring other options and texting with other guys. Obviously, since she asked your last name! That would have turned me off but that's just me. See what happens.
Author chillsup123 Posted February 6, 2014 Author Posted February 6, 2014 If she's interested she'll let you know if she's free like she said. You have to understand women are inundated with emails so she is probably exploring other options and texting with other guys. Obviously, since she asked your last name! That would have turned me off but that's just me. See what happens. That's cuz she's a promoter for clubs, and has a lot of other jobs to do like she told me. Shes the very talkative type so she must have a lot of friends which really doesn't bother me because i asked her what shes looking for, and she told me she'd like to find a relationship but if all she finds is friends that's cool too. But her not putting my number in her phone right off the bat is a bit... meh... idk lol. Didn't even remember my name... seems like shes just playing with me idk.
SunnySide0418 Posted February 6, 2014 Posted February 6, 2014 Yeah, that's what I was saying. You'd think she'd put your number in her phone. But ... everyone is different. You asked her out and she said she'll let you know. When did you ask her out for? The thing with online dating is a guy has to somehoe stand out from the rest or he's just kind of one of the many.
deathandtaxes Posted February 6, 2014 Posted February 6, 2014 I kind of made it sound like she wasnt interested lol. We had an engaging conversation when she first messaged me. She told me about what places she works at and everything without me even asking about it. I already told her the place we could go to around where she lives and she said, "I'll have to see if i have work, but if not I'd love to(:" then i told her, "Alright, let me know because i really would like to meet you." She replied with "Alright, I will! Same!(:" You're being too passive. "Let me know"? Passive. When I said she's not interested, she's not interested in going out. You may have had messages back and forth, but right now she's blowing you off. And you're not even properly asking her out.
Author chillsup123 Posted February 6, 2014 Author Posted February 6, 2014 You're being too passive. "Let me know"? Passive. When I said she's not interested, she's not interested in going out. You may have had messages back and forth, but right now she's blowing you off. And you're not even properly asking her out. How else would you respond to, "I have to see if i have work, if not I'd love to" I don't get how else you would respond to that without saying let me know. I already found a place that we could go and told her about it. It's not even asking her out, it's just meeting up with her. But i guess it's all the same in the end. Also her images are private on the website, and she messaged ME first by attaching the images of her self into the message so she obviously finds me attractive. She has literally nothing on her profile other then for the date which is, "make me laugh"
deathandtaxes Posted February 6, 2014 Posted February 6, 2014 I wouldn't waste another minute with this one. She messages first. That's a good sign. But she hasn't given you a solid availability. That's a bad sign. I think she just might like the attention. I say stop texting and write her off.
Author chillsup123 Posted February 6, 2014 Author Posted February 6, 2014 I wouldn't waste another minute with this one. She messages first. That's a good sign. But she hasn't given you a solid availability. That's a bad sign. I think she just might like the attention. I say stop texting and write her off. Well when i asked her what's her schedule like, she said it varies. She doesn't go to school for now, but has a bunch of different jobs and what not. So i can see how it varies. She basically gave me control of when we should meet up. Whatever, I'll wait till the weekend and hopefully she will let me know.
deathandtaxes Posted February 6, 2014 Posted February 6, 2014 Well when i asked her what's her schedule like, she said it varies. She doesn't go to school for now, but has a bunch of different jobs and what not. So i can see how it varies. She basically gave me control of when we should meet up. Whatever, I'll wait till the weekend and hopefully she will let me know. How long should it take her to find out if she's busy for anything? Here's the thing - if she was interested in meeting you, she would find a nice spot in her schedule and let you know. Like right now.
Author chillsup123 Posted February 6, 2014 Author Posted February 6, 2014 How long should it take her to find out if she's busy for anything? Here's the thing - if she was interested in meeting you, she would find a nice spot in her schedule and let you know. Like right now. Lol. Not everybody has an opening in their schedule right off the bat. They have to go to work or whatever they do and see if they have an off day. She told me right off the bat to let her know when I'm free because her schedule varies. I let her know so she'll hopefully get back to me. She volunteers at a hospital, works at a pet store or something, gives tattoos, and shes a promoter for clubs and what not. She told me shes pretty talkative, so she must have a lot of friends. I could see her not having an open day right off the bat just thinking about it. Whatever, like i said, i hope she'll get back to me. There is a bit of confusion going on in my head and at the same time it seems like she is interested but maybe isnt sure... idk. There is a meet me feature or whatever on the site, and she said that she wanted to meet me on that feature also.
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