ExposedBrick Posted February 6, 2014 Posted February 6, 2014 I had recently dated a woman for three months and really thought she might be the one. Very quickly, we had become close and we were spending nearly every day together. I was very excited to see her every day. I very much was falling in love with her. Unfortunately, things came to an end after discovering she had a somewhat troublesome anger management issue. Since then, I have dated two different women. I went on three dates with each of them. The first woman was physically attractive and we had a lot in common, but we seemed to lack a sense of conversational chemistry. Its possible she may just be a reserved or quiet person. However, I decided to break things off after three dates. The second woman had a wonderful personality but I just found her to be more of a friend. Physical attraction was minimal and kissing her felt forced, so again I decided to break things off after a few dates. Both of these later two women had great qualities but they just didn't excite me like the woman I mentioned at the beginning of this post. I'm now wondering if maybe I didn't give things a fair chance since I was still disappointed about the failure with the first woman. I'm very tempted to contact the first woman I dated again, especially since she seemed great on paper. I just feel confused and hopeless. I didn't want to string these women along. However, after a few dates with each, I just felt very indifferent. I felt nothing like I did towards previous woman I dated for longer periods. I'm not sure if I'm still hung up on the girl from the beginning of the post and just need a break from dating or if the two newer woman just weren't right. Any advice?
winny Posted February 6, 2014 Posted February 6, 2014 I hope you didn't disappear on the 2nd and 3rd women and broke things up in the proper way. To answer your question, I think you are feeling tempted to go back to first woman because the second and third didn't turn out as per your expectation. But you have think whether the reason why you broke up with her was silly or really something important. And what is the guarantee that it won't crop up again. Give a few days break and evaluate your feelings again. The recent disappointments maybe clouding your head and giving you all wrong ideas. 1
Author ExposedBrick Posted February 6, 2014 Author Posted February 6, 2014 I was actually not considering going back to the anger management woman. I thought about given the second woman another chance. With the second woman, I really didn't have the best conversations with though. I think I might just be thinking desperately at the moment. Do you think excitement about your mate should continue to build quickly or does it take time sometimes? In my two most successful relationships, I felt like I knew almost immediately I wanted to be with that person.
deathandtaxes Posted February 6, 2014 Posted February 6, 2014 The first woman, with the anger management issues, is your safety net right now. Move on. You ended things for a reason.
winny Posted February 6, 2014 Posted February 6, 2014 I was actually not considering going back to the anger management woman. I thought about given the second woman another chance. With the second woman, I really didn't have the best conversations with though. I think I might just be thinking desperately at the moment. Do you think excitement about your mate should continue to build quickly or does it take time sometimes? In my two most successful relationships, I felt like I knew almost immediately I wanted to be with that person. So you have broken up with the second and third or not??? You cannot break up and then go back as per your wish! Am a gal and I know in 2-3 meetings whether I want to continue or not. But I don't decide on a committed relationship in 2-3 dates just that whether I can be exclusive and spend more time and energy on this person and see whether we can be committed in future.
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