avoforastig Posted February 6, 2014 Posted February 6, 2014 I know this is difficult to assess for a variety if reasons but I am curious what the response rates for online dating typically are. I'm a 30 yo guy. I'm a busy professional and just don't meet a huge number of single women in my day to day life. I thought it would be helpful so I thought trying a popular free site might be helpful. I seem to only get a response to my messages maybe 1 in 15-20. I'm not sure if it'd just a numbers game or if I am doing something wrong. Any experienced online daters able to provide advice?
deathandtaxes Posted February 6, 2014 Posted February 6, 2014 My experience has been about 1 in 10 for match. It's a numbers game. I would only message those women I thought were attractive and that I thought had good profiles and that we might have things in common. I did not do the shotgun approach of messaging tons of women the same thing over and over. It's really hit or miss. You have to be what they're looking for right at that moment.
Smthn_Like_Olivia Posted February 6, 2014 Posted February 6, 2014 If you check out the forums on that popular free site, 1 in 15-20 is a pretty good response rate for guys. Decent looking women can get bombarded with messages so a lot tend to be more picky in who they choose to respond to.
Tayken Posted February 6, 2014 Posted February 6, 2014 If you check out the forums on that popular free site, 1 in 15-20 is a pretty good response rate for guys. Decent looking women can get bombarded with messages so a lot tend to be more picky in who they choose to respond to. And it will seem a lot of these women end up not making the best judgement, and find themselves back on this site OLD is brutal, and it helps if you are honest and have a decent well thought out profile with some substance. Some stupid guys think taking their shirts off, or putting pictures of them and their truck up is enough. The women are just as bad with their provocative pictures showing boobs, ass and lingerie I have been fortunate with OLD thus far though, it might be due to the age group you are after.....mine is usually the late 30s to early 50s Some deals were closed after 1st date and some went into second dates
cynthia888 Posted February 6, 2014 Posted February 6, 2014 I've spend several years online dating before finally giving up on it. But nonetheless, I guess I'm experienced. I think it's a good venue to meet people. I would not be alarmed if you do not get a response from everyone. I find females inboxes are absolutely flooded with messages. It's very overwhelming. Out of 100 messages, I used to reply to maybe 15. What is your approach? My advice is say something witty opposed to the usual "hi how are you". There's too many of those messages and you need to say something to make you stand out from the rest.
Tayken Posted February 6, 2014 Posted February 6, 2014 Also...don't send a pic of your junk to a woman, am told by some women that they have collections of what guys have sent them, and they aren't that flattering anyway My post to the women always come as a breathe of fresh air...according to the women I message
WP4046 Posted February 6, 2014 Posted February 6, 2014 I know this is difficult to assess for a variety if reasons but I am curious what the response rates for online dating typically are. I'm a 30 yo guy. I'm a busy professional and just don't meet a huge number of single women in my day to day life. I thought it would be helpful so I thought trying a popular free site might be helpful. I seem to only get a response to my messages maybe 1 in 15-20. I'm not sure if it'd just a numbers game or if I am doing something wrong. Any experienced online daters able to provide advice? If you don't have appealing pics you won't get messages. I was trying out some new pics tonight and I didn't get one response at all LOL If the pics don't stand out then it's a wrap
chillsup123 Posted February 6, 2014 Posted February 6, 2014 Online dating is literally a shopping mall. Most of the time they look how attractive you look and then proceed to look at your actual profile if they like how you look. Girls do it, i did it.
WP4046 Posted February 6, 2014 Posted February 6, 2014 Online dating is literally a shopping mall. Most of the time they look how attractive you look and then proceed to look at your actual profile if they like how you look. Girls do it, i did it. Girls try to pretend like they don't do it
WP4046 Posted February 6, 2014 Posted February 6, 2014 I've spend several years online dating before finally giving up on it. But nonetheless, I guess I'm experienced. I think it's a good venue to meet people. I would not be alarmed if you do not get a response from everyone. I find females inboxes are absolutely flooded with messages. It's very overwhelming. Out of 100 messages, I used to reply to maybe 15. What is your approach? My advice is say something witty opposed to the usual "hi how are you". There's too many of those messages and you need to say something to make you stand out from the rest. If she likes your photo all you have to say is "hi"
leafguy Posted February 6, 2014 Posted February 6, 2014 I have been on match and plentyoffish for about two months. I have found that my response rate on match has been far better than on the other. POF I might get 1/15 where as match, I have been about 50%. It has only translated into 4 dates so far. The first I thought went well, where as she didn't, next two were cut short by me due to various reasons. The last one has resulted in a second date with both parties seemingly interested. I don't tend to agree with the other posters about being unique. I think what it boils down to is that attractive females can have their pick of the litter so to speak. Most won't blink at a moderately attractive guy until they either get burned a few times, or realize the ones that are most attractive with the gym photos tend to be dumber than a fence post and can't hold any type of semi intelligent conversation. I have used the Hi, how are you line more often than trying to be creative. My best approach has simply been that as a greeting, followed by a couple small paragraphs citing similarities and opening up with a few questions about them. I don't believe in the shot gun approach either, so each email is personal if they take the time to read them, they will realize it as it is well versed and grammatically correct. As far as numbers go, I have tended to email a couple every other day or so to get the ball rolling and tend to back off a bit as I am talking to a few. Some will tell you this doesn't work for them, others will agree with me. This has just been the approach I have personally found to be most successful thus far. Do what works for you and as one poster said, sometimes timing and circumstance are everything. Right place right time can do wonders.
WP4046 Posted February 6, 2014 Posted February 6, 2014 I have been on match and plentyoffish for about two months. I have found that my response rate on match has been far better than on the other. POF I might get 1/15 where as match, I have been about 50%. It has only translated into 4 dates so far. The first I thought went well, where as she didn't, next two were cut short by me due to various reasons. The last one has resulted in a second date with both parties seemingly interested. I don't tend to agree with the other posters about being unique. I think what it boils down to is that attractive females can have their pick of the litter so to speak. Most won't blink at a moderately attractive guy until they either get burned a few times, or realize the ones that are most attractive with the gym photos tend to be dumber than a fence post and can't hold any type of semi intelligent conversation. I have used the Hi, how are you line more often than trying to be creative. My best approach has simply been that as a greeting, followed by a couple small paragraphs citing similarities and opening up with a few questions about them. I don't believe in the shot gun approach either, so each email is personal if they take the time to read them, they will realize it as it is well versed and grammatically correct. As far as numbers go, I have tended to email a couple every other day or so to get the ball rolling and tend to back off a bit as I am talking to a few. Some will tell you this doesn't work for them, others will agree with me. This has just been the approach I have personally found to be most successful thus far. Do what works for you and as one poster said, sometimes timing and circumstance are everything. Right place right time can do wonders. Unattractive females can have their pick of the liter too
WP4046 Posted February 6, 2014 Posted February 6, 2014 I've deleted both of my online dating accounts and feel great about it! I was not impressed at all by the level of attractiveness of gals on the sites, first of all. Second of all, it's an enormous time sink just scrolling through the profiles in and of itself; reading the profiles is also time consuming and laborious. Cut your losses now and have some conversations with real people, face to face. That's what i like about POF. You don't have to do a lot of browsing because if you click "Online Now" all the women pics will come up at the same time. So it's more of a picture search instead of profile search
D-Lish Posted February 6, 2014 Posted February 6, 2014 (edited) As a woman doing OLD, I get maybe 30-40 messages a day. I respond to one in 200. It's gotten out of hand with sexual propositions. When I first did online dating 8 years ago, I met way more quality people- it's become a circus over the past few years. I don't approach OLD with any sort of expectations. A very sad thing that has transpired from the explosion of social media is that no one does a cold approach in person anymore. People are becoming more and more lazy- because it's far too easy to shoot messages off from behind a computer then approach someone in person. A guy came up to me at work the other day and handed me a piece of paper with his phone number on it and told me to call him if interested- I was impressed- that rarely happens anymore. Edited February 6, 2014 by D-Lish
WP4046 Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 As a woman doing OLD, I get maybe 30-40 messages a day. I respond to one in 200. It's gotten out of hand with sexual propositions. When I first did online dating 8 years ago, I met way more quality people- it's become a circus over the past few years. I don't approach OLD with any sort of expectations. A very sad thing that has transpired from the explosion of social media is that no one does a cold approach in person anymore. People are becoming more and more lazy- because it's far too easy to shoot messages off from behind a computer then approach someone in person. A guy came up to me at work the other day and handed me a piece of paper with his phone number on it and told me to call him if interested- I was impressed- that rarely happens anymore. Why would a man take online dating seriously when it's tons of people on the site? I bet if you did get a respectful message from a guy you would think he is weird lol
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