maestrok Posted February 6, 2014 Posted February 6, 2014 This guy and I go to the same school. We have been in the same class since last semester. But this is a big class and our assigned seats are not that close to each other. And we have practically no mutual friends. So we never had a chance to natually get to know each other. He is also always with his group of friends so I can't really approach him. I am usually by myself but he hasn't really initiate anything either. I can see that would be kinda weird for either of us to abruptly walk upto the other and start introducing oneself though. So the fact is we have all this eye contact going on for a few months without never getting to know each other. I am starting to think maybe eye contact doesn't mean much in thia case and i am seeing/feeling what i want to see/feel (i think he's cute ) What do you guys think/suggest??
spiderowl Posted February 6, 2014 Posted February 6, 2014 Smile at him a few times when you catch his eye. See if he makes any move to get to know you. If he doesn't, he's probably not that interested. However, see how he is with friends and other girls - if he seems incredibly shy, then it may still be worth getting talking to him. He may not have had a girlfriend before and is very shy.
salparadise Posted February 6, 2014 Posted February 6, 2014 What do you guys think/suggest?? Pass him a note... Carpe diem. Starbucks, 7pm tonight.
Author maestrok Posted February 6, 2014 Author Posted February 6, 2014 Smile at him a few times when you catch his eye. See if he makes any move to get to know you. If he doesn't, he's probably not that interested. However, see how he is with friends and other girls - if he seems incredibly shy, then it may still be worth getting talking to him. He may not have had a girlfriend before and is very shy. I mean he has a lot of friend both girls and guys. So i dont think he is shy. Man maybe you are right. The fact that he didnt make any move until now means he is not THAT interested. Just curious, would a guy pick up on the hint that a girl is interested in him from her trying to make eye contacts and smiling at him? Or would he think shes just being friendly?
Stvnssam Posted February 6, 2014 Posted February 6, 2014 Guys are quite simple creatures sometimes here are a few tricks to help you catch his attention if that's what you really want: Eye contact works but do it differently if you are looking at him and he catches you, smile, blush and look away that way he knows you're interested. Don't hold the stare too long if he is looking back at you it will seem too desperate. Be confident a guy is more attracted to girls that have confidence in themselves. Let him see you have a laugh with your friends, if you make a fool out of yourself for any reason laugh at yourself, don't get embarrassed and hide. If he sees your confident, funny have lots of friends and know how to have fun it'd be him trying to catch a glimpse of you. Good Luck
newmoon Posted February 6, 2014 Posted February 6, 2014 well, to answer your question, eye contact doesn't always indicate interest. don't you sometimes just stare at people for other reasons: they remind you of someone, you love their style/clothes, you are imagining being with them, etc. it can mean lots of things and even at school/work I find myself looking at people for prolonged periods just to study and observe. unless you (or he) makes some overt move it's nothing more than staring. if you have a class together why don't you ask him for his notes - that would be a great opening for you to talk to him and isn't embarrassing at all. "hi, my name is _____, do you think I can borrow your notes from last Monday?" simple, easy, and gets you into a short convo.
Frank2thepoint Posted February 6, 2014 Posted February 6, 2014 Write on a piece of paper that you think he is cute and that you'd like it if he asked you out. Crumple up said piece of paper into a ball, then throw it at him. Then tell him to read the note. Sometimes you have to be primal about these things folks.
truth_seeker Posted February 6, 2014 Posted February 6, 2014 I would think if a person on different occasions stares at you, they have interest in knowing you, are attracted you. Only times I would say no to this is if they have a problem with you and are looking to get you.
salparadise Posted February 6, 2014 Posted February 6, 2014 I mean he has a lot of friend both girls and guys. So i dont think he is shy. Being sociable with established friends is not the same as being able to make the approach. I think he's shy when it comes to you. Man maybe you are right. The fact that he didnt make any move until now means he is not THAT interested. Wrong- it means he has a barrier; an emotional wall that he needs to punch through. He probably goes home thinking to himself, "I totally blew it today- she's making eye contact and I still couldn't get up the nerve. Just curious, would a guy pick up on the hint that a girl is interested in him from her trying to make eye contacts and smiling at him? Or would he think shes just being friendly? Yes, he understands what it means, but the more invested he feels the scarier it becomes. He probably sees it as a one-shot opportunity and any little perceived insecurity (he feels that talking will out his insecurities) or stumble will mean he'll look like a fool to the person he most wants to impress. His autonomic nervous system is way overstimulated. You can take the pressure off by making the first move. I can't tell you how many times in my life I wished a woman would do that... and some of them did. I always respected them for it. Be bold in one sense, demure in another. For example, take his arm after class and say, will you walk me to my car. Then lead the conversation a bit until he settles down and takes over.
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