udelgirl Posted January 16, 2005 Posted January 16, 2005 So I just started dating this guy but we've gotten really spiritually close over a month...he's really serious about our future but I'm a little hestitant. He sent me an email ending with "Sincerely yours" but when does one reply back with "Love, <insert name here>"? I don't want to lead him on or anything, but I still feel strongly for him... is it too strong of a word to use when ending a semi-casual email/letter? Any feedback would be nice, as this is sort of my first time dating (even though I'm in college..)... thanks in advance!
jellybean Posted January 16, 2005 Posted January 16, 2005 Originally posted by udelgirl So I just started dating this guy but we've gotten really spiritually close over a month...he's really serious about our future but I'm a little hestitant. He sent me an email ending with "Sincerely yours" but when does one reply back with "Love, <insert name here>"? I don't want to lead him on or anything, but I still feel strongly for him... is it too strong of a word to use when ending a semi-casual email/letter? Any feedback would be nice, as this is sort of my first time dating (even though I'm in college..)... thanks in advance! I think it's okay for you to reply back with "Love, udelgirl"...what I think is a little weird is : the guy you're dating signing "Sincerely yours" If in doubt, just sign "take care, udelgirl".....
kanga Posted January 16, 2005 Posted January 16, 2005 I wouldn't sign off with love until it's used in real life. After someone says it, then I thnk it's fair game. I've always been one to overanaylze these kinds of things, and maybe others don't, but it's better to be safe than appear clingy or whatever it is that saying love looks like. I prefer just signing off with -My name or my initial. You could also taste the water with something a bit more casual like "love ya"
HeartSprinkles Posted January 16, 2005 Posted January 16, 2005 You should use love...love is never wrong!
Author udelgirl Posted January 16, 2005 Author Posted January 16, 2005 This guy is actually really clingy himself, and is very unsure of how I think of him... I think he's avoiding saying 'Love' just b/c he think it might scare me off...? We haven't said love in real life but we show each other a great deal of (mental) affection. We're both uber-conservative so maybe that's why he's avoiding using 'Love'?
kanga Posted January 16, 2005 Posted January 16, 2005 Then go with it. If it feels like the right thing to say and the right time to say it. I'm really much to casual in emails to sign off with much other than my name, an inital, take care, see you later, etc. He may not think anything of it.
HeartSprinkles Posted January 17, 2005 Posted January 17, 2005 He probably isn't obsessing about this as much as you are. He most likely won't even take notice of your written sign off. BUT, if he is clingy, i mean really uber-clingy then you might want to head the other way and just be friends b/c clingy men/boys spell really bad news!!!!! My last BF was super clingy, and I am more conservative and i like to do my own thing. Let's just say that he is now out of the picture. Clingy men also make for really messy break-ups!!!
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