Grae64 Posted February 5, 2014 Posted February 5, 2014 So need some insight and thoughts on this. Have dated a great guy for the last 1 1/2 years. Everything between us "seemed" fine, no fights, no major issues or minor ones that I was aware of until last week. We have always given each other our "space" throughout our relationship, not smothering in anyway. We spent a lot of time together between Christmas and New Years, then he had surgery right after the first of the year and I stayed at his house for about a week to help take care of him, his son & daughter & house. His surgery was on his right arm so he was pretty much out of commission for that time, driving, working, etc. The last day I saw him which was a week ago Sunday, he took me home from staying the weekend at this house, we were perfectly fine! Kisses goodbye, talk to you a little later, normal. Text with him on Monday, nothing Tuesday, Wednesday morning text about his daughter's upcoming birthday party - everything fine and normal! Wednesday night there was some type of blow up between his oldest son & daughter and their scheduling. I called to find out if his daughter needed picked up and he was very rude and short on the phone "I'll take care of it, don't worry about it" and hung up. First time EVER I have heard him like this towards me. Thursday morning I left him a VM to see how he was doing, no call back, Thursday late afternoon I called again - no answer. A few minutes later I get a text saying something to the effect of "I got your message, I am having issues with my daughter and am really consumed with this right now, not very good company, I need some space I hope you can understand." WOW!!! Shot in the gut. I went to talk to him and he was not happy to see me, said if he had wanted to talk about it he would have told me. I simply asked if this "space" had anything to do with us and if this was a temporary or permanent thing. He said he didn't know that he hadn't been happy with his life in general for awhile and needed time to sort things out. I have given him his space, no calls, texts, etc. How long do I continue this and what are the general thoughts???
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