ManchesterGirl Posted February 5, 2014 Posted February 5, 2014 Hello all! I signed up just to post this because of what just happened to me today- thought maybe I could save some people from going through the exact same horrible thing. In a nutshell, got dumped over three months ago- went STRICT NC from that moment. Today, I got an email from LinkedIn saying '(ex) has accepted your invitation to connect'. Needless to say I completely freaked out (and also got yelled at by two of my friends who saw the connection come up on their newsfeed! Fortunately they believed me). I've been a mess all day because I DO NOT FOR A SECOND want him to have his ego stroked, or think I've broken down, or to think I'm okay with what he did. I am not. I wracked my brains trying to think of how this could have happened. Then I did a little research. Turns out LinkedIn will send invites to people in your address book without your consent. It just randomly does this. Because I gave LinkedIn access to my email address book (waaay before he and I broke up, and waay before I removed his arse from my life), it must have still had his email address on record. Mystery solved. Here's the article proving this on the LinkedIn support site: It is sending out connection requests on it's own! - LinkedIn Help Center It includes a way to fix this. I just wanted to let you all know this problem exists so that you don't experience the same thing. This forum has been so helpful, and my healing has come so far. I cannot believe I have to deal with this now. But what do i do now with his connection? If I block him again, I'll look flaky and psychotic- like I set out to zing him on purpose. But I don't want the door open- I can't go back there with him again. Any advice would really be appreciated. Thanks!
Art_Critic Posted February 5, 2014 Posted February 5, 2014 (edited) If your ex has no business being on your linkedin account then just delete him..remove him from your connections.. done... If you would like to have him on for networking and professional reasons then leave him on.. easy peasy.... Edited February 5, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator 1
David87 Posted February 5, 2014 Posted February 5, 2014 Just let it be, don't block him. It's not your fault that this happened.
whichwayisup Posted February 5, 2014 Posted February 5, 2014 But what do i do now with his connection? If I block him again, I'll look flaky and psychotic- like I set out to zing him on purpose. But I don't want the door open- I can't go back there with him again. Delete him. Then block him and put it out of your head. He is going to think whatever he wants, you know the truth and that's all that matters here.
Winter blue Posted February 6, 2014 Posted February 6, 2014 I don't think you can block someone on LinkedIn, you can only 'remove' a connection and this person being removed will not be able to re-add you unless you want to add them.
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