Moonwalker1982 Posted February 5, 2014 Posted February 5, 2014 (edited) Hi all, I am a 31 year old guy and i am not ashamed to admit that my last real relationship with a girl was in 2008 and it ended there, it lasted three years. Ever since then i have tried hooking up with women, asking them out on a date but really....it never really happened. I guess i just wasn't ready for it yet and i also wasn't feeling 100% well, in the sense of somewhat of a depression, when my father passed away. I am starting to see the good things in life again though and i am definitely 100% open for something now. With that i mean meeting nice women in my life and who knows what might come of it. Now on to the current....situation. Most of the time i do my grocery shopping at a certain supermarket, simply because i like the place and they got what i need. For quite a while now, i think it already stems back from late last year, a very nice looking lady working at the checkout counter seems to be giving me signals. With that i mean, when i stand in line with my groceries and she is helping the customer in front of me, she glances at me. When it is my turn to hand over the groceries and pay her, she greets me with a lovely smile and seems to act more friendly towards me compared to how she does with other customers. When it is time to leave and i say ''good day to you'' she smiles again and the look on her face makes it seem to me that she's interested in me. I cannot get this nice lady out of my mind and i think it is time i do something. It is time that i at least say something else than the usual ''Hi''. Now i am far from a good small talker, let alone that this store is always crowded and if i started chatting her up, it would annoy the customers behind me and cause trouble for her. I need something, a word or line...that makes it clear i like her too. (although i am not 100% sure she IS interested in me, but these 'signals' sure make it seem like so). Last year on Valentines Day this supermarket organized a thing they called Supermarket Dating, basically they give the customers a basket with a rose in it and you just go shopping and who knows..you might find your next girlfriend there. At that time i decided to partake in that, but nothing happened, so i gave the rose to a lady behind the checkout counter, but with no further intentions. For me it would be perfect if they organize this again, cause then i will give the rose to her and say something like...''I've been looking around here, but you are the one i want to give this rose to. '' Maybe from there ask her out for a cup of coffee or just leave it at that for the day. However, it doesn't seem like they will organize it again this time. I have all kinds of nice lines in my head that i would have no problem saying to her, if i was that guy that had such self confidence and wasn't afraid and simply had a lot of guts, but i don't. I'd go up to her and ask....''That Supermarket Dating thing, is that gonna happen again next week? Cause in that case, if there's a rose in the basket, i want to give it to you, cause you are one of the most beautiful ladies i've ever seen, and i would ask you out for a cup of coffee.'' . Things like that i would say then...although i am not sure if that is a good thing to do. But i am not gonna do that anyway. Long story short/Too long, didn't read... I think these are clear signals she's interested in me. Very crowded store, even though i am not a big smalltalker, wouldn't even be possible anyway. So i need advice on how to proceed. Should i just simply ask how she's doing? Let's say these turn out to be no signals at all, it be pretty embarassing if i'd go all the way to introduce myself and basically say thing any regular customer wouldn't say. From now on i am going to work on my socializing skills. It's not that i am terrible at conversations with people. I never have trouble talking to people that are significantly older than me, but when it's a girl around my age, and especially if i am interested in her...the challenging parts enter. But i am gonna go do things from on now. Visit concerts and shows and just talk to people. Work on those skills. Thanks people Edited February 5, 2014 by Moonwalker1982
hasaquestion Posted February 5, 2014 Posted February 5, 2014 You're making too big a deal out of this. You don't need to try and spring a bundle of flowers on her like a B-list romantic comedy. Just talk to her in the checkout line. If she's as interested in you as you think she is, she'll laugh and smile and give you her number. Mussolini isn't going to have her shot for holding up Aisle 12. And if she doesn't, she wasn't interested like you thought she was. 2
ExpatInItaly Posted February 5, 2014 Posted February 5, 2014 Hi all, I am a 31 year old guy and i am not ashamed to admit that my last real relationship with a girl was in 2008 and it ended there, it lasted three years. Ever since then i have tried hooking up with women, asking them out on a date but really....it never really happened. I guess i just wasn't ready for it yet and i also wasn't feeling 100% well, in the sense of somewhat of a depression, when my father passed away. I am starting to see the good things in life again though and i am definitely 100% open for something now. With that i mean meeting nice women in my life and who knows what might come of it. Now on to the current....situation. Most of the time i do my grocery shopping at a certain supermarket, simply because i like the place and they got what i need. For quite a while now, i think it already stems back from late last year, a very nice looking lady working at the checkout counter seems to be giving me signals. With that i mean, when i stand in line with my groceries and she is helping the customer in front of me, she glances at me. When it is my turn to hand over the groceries and pay her, she greets me with a lovely smile and seems to act more friendly towards me compared to how she does with other customers. When it is time to leave and i say ''good day to you'' she smiles again and the look on her face makes it seem to me that she's interested in me. I cannot get this nice lady out of my mind and i think it is time i do something. It is time that i at least say something else than the usual ''Hi''. Now i am far from a good small talker, let alone that this store is always crowded and if i started chatting her up, it would annoy the customers behind me and cause trouble for her. I need something, a word or line...that makes it clear i like her too. (although i am not 100% sure she IS interested in me, but these 'signals' sure make it seem like so). Last year on Valentines Day this supermarket organized a thing they called Supermarket Dating, basically they give the customers a basket with a rose in it and you just go shopping and who knows..you might find your next girlfriend there. At that time i decided to partake in that, but nothing happened, so i gave the rose to a lady behind the checkout counter, but with no further intentions. For me it would be perfect if they organize this again, cause then i will give the rose to her and say something like...''I've been looking around here, but you are the one i want to give this rose to. '' Maybe from there ask her out for a cup of coffee or just leave it at that for the day. However, it doesn't seem like they will organize it again this time. I have all kinds of nice lines in my head that i would have no problem saying to her, if i was that guy that had such self confidence and wasn't afraid and simply had a lot of guts, but i don't. I'd go up to her and ask....''That Supermarket Dating thing, is that gonna happen again next week? Cause in that case, if there's a rose in the basket, i want to give it to you, cause you are one of the most beautiful ladies i've ever seen, and i would ask you out for a cup of coffee.'' . Things like that i would say then...although i am not sure if that is a good thing to do. But i am not gonna do that anyway. Long story short/Too long, didn't read... I think these are clear signals she's interested in me. Very crowded store, even though i am not a big smalltalker, wouldn't even be possible anyway. So i need advice on how to proceed. Should i just simply ask how she's doing? Let's say these turn out to be no signals at all, it be pretty embarassing if i'd go all the way to introduce myself and basically say thing any regular customer wouldn't say. From now on i am going to work on my socializing skills. It's not that i am terrible at conversations with people. I never have trouble talking to people that are significantly older than me, but when it's a girl around my age, and especially if i am interested in her...the challenging parts enter. But i am gonna go do things from on now. Visit concerts and shows and just talk to people. Work on those skills. Thanks people Hm. Can you be more specific? I ask because, well, it's her job to be friendly to the customers. But you might be right in sensing something more. What does she say or do with you that's different from other customers? 1
Author Moonwalker1982 Posted February 5, 2014 Author Posted February 5, 2014 (edited) You're making too big a deal out of this. You don't need to try and spring a bundle of flowers on her like a B-list romantic comedy. Just talk to her in the checkout line. If she's as interested in you as you think she is, she'll laugh and smile and give you her number. Mussolini isn't going to have her shot for holding up Aisle 12. And if she doesn't, she wasn't interested like you thought she was. Yeah i tend to do that. Make a big deal out of things that shouldn't be made into one. It really is not a bad idea to just talk to her, but the problem at the moment is..what is a good thing to say? I guess even simply asking her how she's doing today will do? You got any examples for me? Or do you basically mean i should simply ask her out right on the spot, even though we barely spoken to eachother? Hm. Can you be more specific? I ask because, well, it's her job to be friendly to the customers. But you might be right in sensing something more. What does she say or do with you that's different from other customers? I have to be honest with you here, we have barely spoken. So far it has been mostly she glancing at me and giving me a certain look when i say 'good day to you' when i leave the place. I forgot to mention that the other day i did some shopping there and my bankcard was failing to work, i then simply said...well...looks like i need to get a new bankcard. And she briefly laughed about that. While it clearly wasn't funny. So while they ain't words, it's the looks that she gives me when i stand in line, when she greets me and asks me if i'd like to have the receit to all my groceries and after i grab my bag with groceries and say ''good day''. I do realize that i could be completely wrong and that it isn't her intention to give 'signals'. That's why i think i should just take it easy, just do my grocery shopping there, greet her and ask how she's doing. I've read about body language and how you can find out a whole lot if you are simply conversating with a girl. It probably is best to just do that....instead of getting way too worked up about it. Which i truly don't want, not my intention. A good friend of mine gave me some advice. He says i should buy a cinema voucher (our cinema's offer them as gifts for someone) go to the lady, tell her i like her and that i was wondering if she'd like to go see a movie with me. I appreciate the advice, but personally i think it's probably a bit too much. Like i said, i should just say a bit more than the usual ''hi'' , like '' How are you doing?'' and we'll see if any smalltalk comes from that. She might be surprised that i ask her that and i doubt many customers in general ask her how she's doing, but it will also show her that i am at least remotely interested in her. Your post is way too long. Even the short version is too long. I agree about the first, but not the second. That part isn't long at all. When i visit forums and post there, my posts always tend to be rather long, it is what it is. I also wanted to cover everything in that very first post. Edited February 5, 2014 by Moonwalker1982
ExpatInItaly Posted February 6, 2014 Posted February 6, 2014 Yeah i tend to do that. Make a big deal out of things that shouldn't be made into one. It really is not a bad idea to just talk to her, but the problem at the moment is..what is a good thing to say? I guess even simply asking her how she's doing today will do? You got any examples for me? Or do you basically mean i should simply ask her out right on the spot, even though we barely spoken to eachother? I have to be honest with you here, we have barely spoken. So far it has been mostly she glancing at me and giving me a certain look when i say 'good day to you' when i leave the place. I forgot to mention that the other day i did some shopping there and my bankcard was failing to work, i then simply said...well...looks like i need to get a new bankcard. And she briefly laughed about that. While it clearly wasn't funny. So while they ain't words, it's the looks that she gives me when i stand in line, when she greets me and asks me if i'd like to have the receit to all my groceries and after i grab my bag with groceries and say ''good day''. I do realize that i could be completely wrong and that it isn't her intention to give 'signals'. That's why i think i should just take it easy, just do my grocery shopping there, greet her and ask how she's doing. I've read about body language and how you can find out a whole lot if you are simply conversating with a girl. It probably is best to just do that....instead of getting way too worked up about it. Which i truly don't want, not my intention. A good friend of mine gave me some advice. He says i should buy a cinema voucher (our cinema's offer them as gifts for someone) go to the lady, tell her i like her and that i was wondering if she'd like to go see a movie with me. I appreciate the advice, but personally i think it's probably a bit too much. Like i said, i should just say a bit more than the usual ''hi'' , like '' How are you doing?'' and we'll see if any smalltalk comes from that. She might be surprised that i ask her that and i doubt many customers in general ask her how she's doing, but it will also show her that i am at least remotely interested in her. I agree about the first, but not the second. That part isn't long at all. When i visit forums and post there, my posts always tend to be rather long, it is what it is. I also wanted to cover everything in that very first post. I would not offer the vouchers, considering you've barely spoken to her. You're right, it is too much. For all you know, she could already be in a relationship. Instead, maybe ask if she knows a good coffee shop nearby. Suggest that she join you sometime?
hasaquestion Posted February 6, 2014 Posted February 6, 2014 Yeah i tend to do that. Make a big deal out of things that shouldn't be made into one. It really is not a bad idea to just talk to her, but the problem at the moment is..what is a good thing to say? I guess even simply asking her how she's doing today will do? You got any examples for me? Or do you basically mean i should simply ask her out right on the spot, even though we barely spoken to eachother? JUST TALK TO HER, Weather, the things in your shopping cart, the cover of the People magazine that sits next to the cash register. It doesn't even matter what you say. I'm not saying you should rant about extolling the virtues of the Third Reich. But if she thinks you're attractive and likes your demeanor, she'll say yes. Otherwise she she'll say no. She's not making her mind up because of anything you said.
Author Moonwalker1982 Posted February 6, 2014 Author Posted February 6, 2014 (edited) I would not offer the vouchers, considering you've barely spoken to her. You're right, it is too much. For all you know, she could already be in a relationship. Instead, maybe ask if she knows a good coffee shop nearby. Suggest that she join you sometime? JUST TALK TO HER, Weather, the things in your shopping cart, the cover of the People magazine that sits next to the cash register. It doesn't even matter what you say. I'm not saying you should rant about extolling the virtues of the Third Reich. But if she thinks you're attractive and likes your demeanor, she'll say yes. Otherwise she she'll say no. She's not making her mind up because of anything you said. Thanks guys, i appreciate this. I actually thought about things like the weather and stuff like that, but then quickly thought, **** that..why talk about the weather when she's inside the store all day, why would she care. But i now see what you mean, any normal subject would be ok. I now see that i have been making things unecessarily difficult for myself, when it is so simple. Another pal of mine chimed in and said that i would look like a very confident person if i just give her a note with my phonenumber on it, wink and smile at her and then leave the place. It's short and simple, could be nice. But i like the idea more of just talking to her, about anything....and it doesn't even have to be long. From there i'll see. So I've received several different pieces of advice and i appreciate it. I promise i won't get too worked up about stuff like this anymore, and i should not overthink things so much. I especially should not make things so overly difficult when it is not necessary. Edited February 6, 2014 by Moonwalker1982
loopsy Posted February 6, 2014 Posted February 6, 2014 I have passed by an attractive man for a long time now. I see him a few times a week. He seems to notice when I walk in and I know I'm noticing him when he walks in. We seem to take turns pretending not to notice the other and looking away quickly. It's not the kind of place where people typically make small talk. Nothing happens. Introduce yourself. Ask her how her day is going. Do that for a few times and then if the mood strikes you, ask her what time she gets off work and if she'd like to go have dinner or drinks after work. Personally, if a cute guy I've been noticing for a while starts to talk, I'd be very happy. Go for it. 1
Author Moonwalker1982 Posted February 6, 2014 Author Posted February 6, 2014 (edited) I have passed by an attractive man for a long time now. I see him a few times a week. He seems to notice when I walk in and I know I'm noticing him when he walks in. We seem to take turns pretending not to notice the other and looking away quickly. It's not the kind of place where people typically make small talk. Nothing happens. Introduce yourself. Ask her how her day is going. Do that for a few times and then if the mood strikes you, ask her what time she gets off work and if she'd like to go have dinner or drinks after work. Personally, if a cute guy I've been noticing for a while starts to talk, I'd be very happy. Go for it. I went there today again cause i need food for my dog. Things went a bit wrong for her with a customer in front of me and this took up more time and thus the lineup got bigger. I didn't want to take up too much time, so i just made a friendly remark like...''I'm sure the dog will be happy now''. I'm just gonna take it easy and each time i go there for shopping and she is there too, i'll say something different. Next time i could ask her how she's doing. That way i socialize a little first, instead of asking her out, out of the blue. This is better. Also.... I've been following some videos on Youtube of a guy called Stephan Erdman. He has some very very good tips. He said one very good way to instantly feel positive, uplifted and good is to just think about that you are going to give a friendly comment to someone and this will probably make their day a bit better, cause everybody likes friendly comments or compliments. So what i have been doing two or three times since yesterday is just talk to myself, as crazy as that may sound i don't give a ****, lol. I am someone who easily makes a big deal when it is absolutely not necessary, i worry too quickly and so on. So basically i sat down and walked around in my living room, thinking and talking about positive things. I thought to myself...''dude, think more positively. Smile more and greet random people more. Compliment some people, everybody likes a compliment. Be yourself, be happy, show this and people will notice.'' and so on and so forth. If this is a bit crazy, again i don't care, cause this truly made me feel incredibly happy and uplifted and very positive. I had to get medicines for my dog today so i went to the pet doctor. I had a very pleasant and positive conversation with the woman that was helping me to get the medicines. She said something and i replied to it and before i knew it, it turned into a very nice little talk, just friendly and cool. If i had been there and acted all negative or down...i doubt she would have spoken to me like that. People notice a positive energy...i guess. I want to be more outgoing with people in general and i am gonna work on that. I always thought those Youtube lifecoaches and what not were nonsense, but this truly was a good tip by that guy. Edited February 6, 2014 by Moonwalker1982 1
ChatroomHero Posted February 6, 2014 Posted February 6, 2014 Next time you go buy 4 boxes of condoms, multiple kinds of lotions and lubes, 2 boxes of wine and 3 bottles of sleeping pills. Put it on the counter and tell her, "Slow night. I'm staying home alone tonight". If she leaves with you, you are in.
Author Moonwalker1982 Posted February 6, 2014 Author Posted February 6, 2014 Next time you go buy 4 boxes of condoms, multiple kinds of lotions and lubes, 2 boxes of wine and 3 bottles of sleeping pills. Put it on the counter and tell her, "Slow night. I'm staying home alone tonight". If she leaves with you, you are in. Ok that one was pretty damn hilarious. But i think i will pass on this one.
Noproblem Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 Go for it, ask her personal questions... Baby steps until it's valentine and do it, unless she is on a date already -_- Best of luck from the bottom of my heart
Author Moonwalker1982 Posted February 7, 2014 Author Posted February 7, 2014 Go for it, ask her personal questions... Baby steps until it's valentine and do it, unless she is on a date already -_- Best of luck from the bottom of my heart You've written probably 20 - 30 pages of replies and responses. I haven't read your replies, but based upon other's (reasonably concise) answers, it seems like your situation is that she looked at you, you think she's in love, or may be, but you're afraid to talk to her. Talk to her and ask her out. If she agrees, great. If not, move on. Otherwise, you're creating a fantasy world in your head to entertain yourself, with no tangible real world results to back it up. It sounds so easy when you guys say it, and even if i say it to myself it sounds damn easy. But i'm sure we've all been there, you are confident and you are pretty certain you are simply going for the 'kill' lol...you know what i mean, and then when it is time to do so...you say something totally different. Nothing bad or unfriendly, but not the exact thing you wanted to ask. It would be the best to ask this when there are little to no customers in line. I am sure it will be quite more comfortable for me, but for her as well. Really though, i find it a better idea to not overly rush anything. Next time i go there i might ask how she's doing or simply tell her that she is looking beautiful today. Or any kind of compliment..that way if i ask her out next week or so, it won't be so unexpected and/or awkward. Yesterday i read on a site, basically 30 women said something, tips for guys in general, one woman said that girls not often give signals, but when they do, that lots of guys don't respond to these, in return the girl stops giving the signals. I'll be the one that does respond. And if she says yes...great, but if not, no big deal. I'll just smile and say no problem and move on. 1
Author Moonwalker1982 Posted February 8, 2014 Author Posted February 8, 2014 Yup, as I suspected, you are far more interested in creating a fantasy/delusion in your head that she is in love in order to boost your ego. You refuse to act since it would shatter this delusion. Sorry but you are completely wrong on that. If anything, i have plenty of doubts that these signals were even 'valid' , i may have all imagined it. That's why i figured...it's probably best to make some small talk or just say something else than the usual ''hi'' so that next time i go there and ask her out, i am not some complete stranger she never spoke to. Not trying to boost my ego at all, not really sure where you got that from. But it is pretty clear you couldn't be more wrong about me. The possibility of she being interested is just as big that she's not.
loopsy Posted February 8, 2014 Posted February 8, 2014 An egotistical guy would just assume she's into him and plunge forward. And, if she said no, he'd work out some reason it's her fault and she's flawed and ... "next". For most of the rest of us, we're not totally sure if the 'signals' are interest or just someone who is polite and friendly. It's hard to take that risk because you worry you'll look like a dope if she wasn't really interested. But, without the risk, there is no possibility of gain. If you want more in life, you have to risk more. So said the woman who is not taking a risk and approaching the interesting man she thinks might be interested in her as well. Compliments will be a more clear signal to her and a way to gauge her interest level. Telling her she looks pretty or that you love her smile might work. If she blushes a little or looks away, keep buying groceries and talking her up for a few days and then ask her out.
Author Moonwalker1982 Posted February 8, 2014 Author Posted February 8, 2014 (edited) But you have "clear signals she's interested," lol. Stop speculating here, go DO SOMETHING! If she's interested, great. If not, she's just saved you some time. Win win. I did say i think these are clear signals. And i mostly meant the times she glanced at me while helping the customer in front of me. I never said for a fact these were clear signals, cause as you can see...i am in doubt myself about it too. Someone with a big ego will do what anything and everything necessary to protect their conception of self. In OP's case, a LACK of action will protect his ego, ie his conception of self as desired and wanted since taking action might threaten this perception. Someone without ego won't care if they are "rejected" since they don't need to protect their self concept from the onslaught of reality. They enjoy socializing and meeting new people without the risk of their ego/self concept being threatened. OP's main problem is that he fails to take action. Do what a normal, happy person would. That's all you can do. edit: I read through your descriptions of her, and you are reading WAY too much into these interactions. The checkout clerks all have a work script, and she is performing on cue. It doesn't matter: go talk to her and if you sense there is enough interest, get her contact info. Only you can get the timing right and only you can gather the courage to take action. Good luck. I guess i wished in that sense that i had a bigger ego then, but it seems i don't. I honestly don't believe i am that affraid of rejection man, it's mostly that i need to pick up my balls, have the guts to simply go for it, ask it. If i get rejected i will just say too bad and move on. Hell, i will still even go there for my shopping, of course. I agree that it's definitely possible that i am reading too much into these interactions with her. It's something i am trying to lower in the future, i tend to overthink things too often, but i will get there. All i do know is that other checkout women don't act this way to me. Compliments will be a more clear signal to her and a way to gauge her interest level. Telling her she looks pretty or that you love her smile might work. If she blushes a little or looks away, keep buying groceries and talking her up for a few days and then ask her out. I agree with that. I was thinking of doing that. First ask how she's doing, cause in this supermarket or any in my town they don't ask the customer how he/she is doing and vice versa. So me asking how she is doing already gets her out of the 'work' mindstate i guess. With that i mean.....all these customers just saying ''hi'' , paying for the groceries and ''bye'' off they go. But here comes a customer and asks how she is doing, she'll be out of 'work-mode' for a brief moment to answer that. It's just nice IMO. And i might follow that up with a compliment or the next time, kinda like ''You sure look beautiful today'' or ''(The reason)I always come to this checkout counter, (is) so i will see that pretty smile again'' Just some examples i think would be fine. Edited February 8, 2014 by Moonwalker1982
Author Moonwalker1982 Posted March 22, 2014 Author Posted March 22, 2014 Hi guys, Instead of creating a new thread which is absolutely not nessecary, i decided to bump this one. No nothing huge has happened but i just wanted to say a few things. Ever since my last message here i have not seen the lady at the supermarket anymore, until yesterday and today. After i did some shopping a few times there and i didn't see her anymore i was like ''ah well, better luck next time.'' But then yesterday i noticed she was back, and i decided to talk a little. I had some discount stamps for the store, so i simply asked her about it. I noticed that she was clearly blushing like crazy and she was being really nice. When i left the store...it had given me a good feeling, i liked what happened, as small as it was. Today she was there again and i decided to simply ask her how she was doing. Now this may sound so effin' simple and small for many people, but this is a big step for me and i found out that people were completely right all along that you simply have to TALK. It all went so easy and smooth yesterday because i was not working myself up about anything anymore. People are completely right that its best NOT to put words and lines in your head and use them when you want to talk to that particular lady. Just say something nice. The simply ' Hi how are you doing' is always good, cause i saw that she really liked it that i asked her how she was doing. I bet very little checkout women get asked that. I am just gonna go from here, compliment her a little and eventually ask her for some coffee. Even if there's always the possibility of rejection, although i don't believe she blushed so much like that for nothing,lol, it's all good. Sorry if the text is too long, i am not good at keeping things brief. 1
GemmaUK Posted March 22, 2014 Posted March 22, 2014 Hi guys, Instead of creating a new thread which is absolutely not nessecary, i decided to bump this one. No nothing huge has happened but i just wanted to say a few things. Ever since my last message here i have not seen the lady at the supermarket anymore, until yesterday and today. After i did some shopping a few times there and i didn't see her anymore i was like ''ah well, better luck next time.'' But then yesterday i noticed she was back, and i decided to talk a little. I had some discount stamps for the store, so i simply asked her about it. I noticed that she was clearly blushing like crazy and she was being really nice. When i left the store...it had given me a good feeling, i liked what happened, as small as it was. Today she was there again and i decided to simply ask her how she was doing. Now this may sound so effin' simple and small for many people, but this is a big step for me and i found out that people were completely right all along that you simply have to TALK. It all went so easy and smooth yesterday because i was not working myself up about anything anymore. People are completely right that its best NOT to put words and lines in your head and use them when you want to talk to that particular lady. Just say something nice. The simply ' Hi how are you doing' is always good, cause i saw that she really liked it that i asked her how she was doing. I bet very little checkout women get asked that. I am just gonna go from here, compliment her a little and eventually ask her for some coffee. Even if there's always the possibility of rejection, although i don't believe she blushed so much like that for nothing,lol, it's all good. Sorry if the text is too long, i am not good at keeping things brief. You know, there is nothing wrong with being attracted to someone. There is nothing wrong in asking them out for a coffee. I'm female (and straight) and had a good old chat with the female at the checkout today. She is the kind of woman I would like for a friend. Over analysing messes up potential good times. Fear of rejection does the same. I find a man more attractive if he asks me out rather than never does but tries to be over nice so that I am supposed to do or say something to green light him. I was with a guy for 14 years from age 22. I asked him out. It was a night at karaoke with me and two of my female friends. He said he probably couldn't make it as he was playing badminton after work and probably couldn't get a lft as the place was in the sticks. He did make it...along with his sports bag with his work clothes and a set of night out clothes. He went and got changed out of his sports gear before he came and found me. Take a risk. Blushing is a good sign! Be discreet though. You say it's busy in there. Get served..go away from the till, have paper and a pen and write her a note as if it is spur of the moment. On the note write something like 'You have a lovely smile and I would like to get to know you better. You're also cute when you blush.. Send me a text so I have your number and I can or call you (and then write your number). Wait and pass it to her quietly when she is not doing the payment part for another customer. Mainly, make it impromptu looking and don't have a note written. Stop after being served in her view (a few tills down but no more than maybe 2/3) but away from the tills to write it. Be natural..even if it's a 'plan'..
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