MissBee Posted February 5, 2014 Posted February 5, 2014 (edited) Who's done it? How did it go? Was it fun? Awkward? My friend's charity is hosting a speed dating event for Valentine's Day and I registered for the sake of supporting the charity. I plan to attend the event and you don't have to speed date if you don't want to but another friend who is gung-ho about that aspect is encouraging me to do it with her. I'm thinking why not, but I'm admittedly apprehensive and nervous that it will be extremely awkward! I'm socially competent and not at all socially awkward lol, however I am a bit reserved sometimes and take some time to warm up in some social settings and tend to dislike networking events because it always feels pretentious or artificial and I feel like this speed dating thing may have that vibe. Also, the element of choosing people and getting "chosen" at the end, or not, just seems uncomfortable. But I'm trying to be open to it and I know it's not that serious. I feel like I'll need a drink beforehand to make me feel less self-conscious about a potentially awkward process lol. Any tips from someone who's done it? Edited February 5, 2014 by MissBee
mammasita Posted February 5, 2014 Posted February 5, 2014 A girlfriend and I did it a few years ago and had a great time. Just go into it with NO expectations and have fun. The host of the event will (should) only give out your information if you have a mutual match so you don't have to worry about creepers. Usually the women stay seated and the men move around. Definitley have a drink or two to get your conversation juices flowing LOL. 1
truth_seeker Posted February 5, 2014 Posted February 5, 2014 Did it twice. Mixed results. Two memorable parts: 1) The Angry Guy: This guy during the intermission flipped out at the bar. He sat there spouting off how he'll never meet a good woman and was disgusted with the women he was matched up with. "Where are all the good women?!" Pretty comical. 2) The "I'm too good for you" Woman: We sit down and she gives me this look like I did not meet her standards. I got the hint and proceeded to take all of the 8 minutes to tear her down and humble her. "So, you're on your third job in a year? You are broke? You have no direction in life? Wow! I'm surprised you're single!" Of course, she didn't get I was being sarcastic. Idiot.
Emilia Posted February 5, 2014 Posted February 5, 2014 Did it twice. Mixed results. Two memorable parts: 1) The Angry Guy: This guy during the intermission flipped out at the bar. He sat there spouting off how he'll never meet a good woman and was disgusted with the women he was matched up with. "Where are all the good women?!" Pretty comical. 2) The "I'm too good for you" Woman: We sit down and she gives me this look like I did not meet her standards. I got the hint and proceeded to take all of the 8 minutes to tear her down and humble her. "So, you're on your third job in a year? You are broke? You have no direction in life? Wow! I'm surprised you're single!" Of course, she didn't get I was being sarcastic. Idiot. Sounds like you were The Angry Guy. 5
Author MissBee Posted February 5, 2014 Author Posted February 5, 2014 A girlfriend and I did it a few years ago and had a great time. Just go into it with NO expectations and have fun. The host of the event will (should) only give out your information if you have a mutual match so you don't have to worry about creepers. Usually the women stay seated and the men move around. Definitley have a drink or two to get your conversation juices flowing LOL. The women stay seated? Sounds better already lol! Good advice. I will head to the bar straight away.
d0nnivain Posted February 5, 2014 Posted February 5, 2014 I wanted to. I signed up but it kept getting cancelled because they never had enough men. I have done speed networking . . . it's similar. If there are more than 10 pairs it got confusing & overwhelming to keep people straight. You will hear a lot of the same info a lot. You will repeat the same stuff about yourself. The commercial services recommend you come up with a unique, pithy Q that sets you apart. It should be something that invites the other person to talk. Had I ever gotten to go, mine was going to be How do you feel about roller coasters? I figured that would tell me something about their risk tolerance, sense of adventure & whether they had any sense of whimsy. Also if I got a one word response, I'd know they weren't for me.
hasaquestion Posted February 5, 2014 Posted February 5, 2014 Who's done it? How did it go? Was it fun? Awkward? My friend's charity is hosting a speed dating event for Valentine's Day and I registered for the sake of supporting the charity. I plan to attend the event and you don't have to speed date if you don't want to but another friend who is gung-ho about that aspect is encouraging me to do it with her. I'm thinking why not, but I'm admittedly apprehensive and nervous that it will be extremely awkward! I'm socially competent and not at all socially awkward lol, however I am a bit reserved sometimes and take some time to warm up in some social settings and tend to dislike networking events because it always feels pretentious or artificial and I feel like this speed dating thing may have that vibe. Also, the element of choosing people and getting "chosen" at the end, or not, just seems uncomfortable. But I'm trying to be open to it and I know it's not that serious. I feel like I'll need a drink beforehand to make me feel less self-conscious about a potentially awkward process lol. Any tips from someone who's done it? I did a charity speed dating event once. I think you'll enjoy it overall. There will be some great/funny conversations and there will be a few people who will make you want to waterboard yourself. I don't know if its a good place to meet people (when I did it there was never anyone who I found interesting) but its fun.
truth_seeker Posted February 5, 2014 Posted February 5, 2014 Sounds like you were The Angry Guy. Not true! 1
Author MissBee Posted February 5, 2014 Author Posted February 5, 2014 I did a charity speed dating event once. I think you'll enjoy it overall. There will be some great/funny conversations and there will be a few people who will make you want to waterboard yourself. I don't know if its a good place to meet people (when I did it there was never anyone who I found interesting) but its fun. Yea I'm not at all looking at this as a night to "find my husband" or even next boyfriend lol or anything like that. I don't in fact really expect it to turn into anything, I am just hoping for it to be more fun than it is awkward, and if it works out like that, then I'm happy! If I happen to connect with someone it will be a nice surprise.
Author MissBee Posted February 5, 2014 Author Posted February 5, 2014 I wanted to. I signed up but it kept getting cancelled because they never had enough men. I have done speed networking . . . it's similar. If there are more than 10 pairs it got confusing & overwhelming to keep people straight. You will hear a lot of the same info a lot. You will repeat the same stuff about yourself. The commercial services recommend you come up with a unique, pithy Q that sets you apart. It should be something that invites the other person to talk. Had I ever gotten to go, mine was going to be How do you feel about roller coasters? I figured that would tell me something about their risk tolerance, sense of adventure & whether they had any sense of whimsy. Also if I got a one word response, I'd know they weren't for me. Pithy question seems like an interesting idea. I might try that! 1
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