Danger Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 (edited) Dogberry -- Your statements that she brought up her past & seems to be bragging about it to the point where you had to ask her to stop, changes the equation. It's one thing to have sown some wild oats as a kid. It's another to be bragging about morally questionable choices 20+ years later in the context of a new relationship. I'd reconsider your relationship with her on the grounds that she has some odd / inappropriate boundaries now as opposed to how she acted as a child. It almost sounds as though she's looking to run wild again. If she is, fine. She's an adult & she can make her own choices. Your choice is whether you want to take the ride with her. As for the question on men having the same risk based on partner count....I do not know, do not care, and find it completely irrelevant for addressing the OPs concerns since he is not dating a man. The fact that Tara called me bitter and then went on to question whether it is the same for men belies her intent to make the issue one of sex versus sex as opposed to addressing the OP`s concerns. I have no interest in engaging in a war, but I have every right to present my logic and values without Tara taking it to a personal level with insults. Like it or not, men assign a lower value to women with high partner counts. It is just reality and does not warrant insults. Edited February 7, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Discussion of studies redacted
GoreSP Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 (edited) You have every right to not want a partner who has a lot of partners but please let's stop the shaming of highly sexual women. There is nothing wrong with what they are doing. Edited February 7, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
melell Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 I personally would be reluctant. But that is just personal. I have been with very few people, not because of lack of opportunity, or that I am not highly sexed, it is just because I find the idea of it uncomfortable. Multiple partners is something that really doesn't appeal to me, in my mind I just imagine this animalistic scenario, same with clubs and what not, girls doing mating dances, guys wanting to mate, for some reason it just doesn't sit well with me. I am always a bit thrown back when I have a friend or partner who has overly indulged in that respect, I just don't quite get it. At the same time there is nothing wrong about people that have different views, or have had different experiences- you learn lots! I would be reluctant, but wouldn't turn someone away as a result. I say try your very best to not be judgmental, and find out for yourself rather than going with assumptions. 2
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