QSavage Posted February 5, 2014 Posted February 5, 2014 I am new here by the way, so how is everyone doing. I am in a bit of a situation and I don't know what to do. I'm only 26 and still in school. I am a rather laid back, some might say shy or quiet, but once you talk to me I open up and conversation is great. About 2 months ago I started a new job as a stock guy for a clothing store. In my department, I work with all females. This one female I work with in particular is 21 years old and is fairly outgoing person. I am attracted to her and somewhat intrigued by her. I have a uncommon first name, so the first time the assistant manager introduced us, she smirked and lightly shook her head and said " Ok, I like that". Don't know what that meant, but I smiled back and politely said hi. That same day while I was in the stock room, she came up and started to hum to herself, you know like when a person wants to talk, but they want you to say something first? So i chatted her up a bit and everything was cool. Not sure if it was that same day we met or the second time we worked together, but the manager asked if i could stay a half an hour later. I agreed and was getting ready to tell my ride to come 30 mins later than expected but she offered (I didn't ask) to drop me home, seeing as my car was in the shop. We talked all the way home, conversation was great then she brought up her boyfriend out of the blue, but I played it cool. After that I would catch her looking at me a couple times and whenever we talk our eyes are deadlocked on each other. Sometimes she would initiate conversation, sometimes I would, but we always talked. Sometimes when we would talk she would just drop her boyfriend into the conversation, I took it as her warning that she is taken, but she would flirt and tease me a little, but i took it with a grain a salt seeing as she is very outgoing. Also when I started the job, it was seasonal position but upon talking to some of the receiving guys I found out that both my manager ( which I already knew the manager liked how I work) and this same girl "loved me" (their words) and guaranteed that I would get hired on permanent, which I did. The second time she dropped me off at my house, before we left the store she said she was hungry like 5 times in one sentence,so I offered to buy dinner if she wanted to stop and she said no, but in a weird way. Because she has a boyfriend I fell back a little not to much, but I wasn't as responsive to her teasing me. One day she came in to work night shift, and I said hello to her, but she didn't respond. I assumed she didn't hear me so I said hello again, still no response. I said it a third time and after what seemed like a 3 second pause she finally turned around and gave me a cold " hey whats up". Literally 1 second later my friends who work receiving came walking up and she greeted them and was friendly. I was dumbfounded by what just happened, I try to leave as quickly as possible, but my friend was talking my ear off and I could see her out of my peripherals deadlocked on me. My friend even made some corny joke while he was talking to another employee that was there, and she laughed, but it sounded fake. That was a Friday, on Monday i was off so I called the store to find out my hours for the that week and she picked up. I greeted her and she politely greeted me back. Then she asked if I had just called her cellphone, because it rang right before I called the store phone and no one answered. She knew I didn't have a her number, I don't know what that was about, but she was talking very fast. We said goodbye after she told me my hours and hung up. Ever since then It has gotten pretty awkward between us, every time we are in the same space you can feel some tension. Some days are better then others, some days she will come over and tease me a little, comment on how nice I look that day. Most days she will act like I'm not there,ignore me, hug and flirt with the receiving guys (which she has known longer than me, i understand) right in front me. Actually interrupted a conversation I was having with one of the receiving guys and started to flirt with one of them right in front of me. I still catch her sometimes looking at me, but she rarely will initiate conversation. She talks to everyone so freely, but with me it is a whole different story. It is starting to make working there uncomfortable. What's this girls deal? Is she interested or not? Or is she just seeking attention from guys? Sorry for it being to long, but this is just a quick version.
PegNosePete Posted February 5, 2014 Posted February 5, 2014 She is just attention seeking. What probably happened is that her boyfriend found out about you (either because she told him, or let slip, or he saw you getting a lift or w/e). So he told her to stop hanging around you, which is why she is acting weird. But whatever - she's taken dude. Step away.
ExpatInItaly Posted February 5, 2014 Posted February 5, 2014 You nailed it - she's looking for attention. She has a boyfriend. Nothing else really matters, really. She's probably realizing that flirting with a co-worker is not a great idea when you're in a relationship. Back way off and don't reciprocate any flirty behaviour. Keep it professional.
Author QSavage Posted February 5, 2014 Author Posted February 5, 2014 Appreciate it guys thank you, I kinda had that feeling.
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