potestatum Posted February 5, 2014 Posted February 5, 2014 Hello there friends! I am new in this forum. To be honest I was reading the stories and the guides here but I was not registered. I recently broke up (2 weeks ago). I was feeling that I had to tell her how I was feeling for a last time. So, I tried to be with her again, tell her I will change and make things better for us - basically I begged, but nothing. My ex suggested to stay friends and I agreed. Moreover she said that if what we had was strong enough, we may be together in the future. Now, I am convinced that the way to go is NC. The problem is what do I do when is her birthday or her exam results are out? Do I say Happy Birthday / Congrats to her or not? I feel that it is wrong not to do that. We were together for more than 5 years. In addition, we are going to the same sport centre and there is a chance to meet. It is very difficult to change sport centre so what do you suggest? If I meet her should I just say hi and leave? Thanks for your time!!
Philosoraptor Posted February 5, 2014 Posted February 5, 2014 If you go NC, you go NC. That means it doesn't matter what the occasion is, you don't contact and you don't look her up. You delete contacts, focus on yourself, and move on with your life. She's pretty much told you she doesn't want to be with you romantically, but she's also done what is necessary to keep you around emotionally so she doesn't have to feel guilty and can even have you around as an ego boost if necessary. If you cross her in public and she says hello, then you can be cordial. But don't chase her down if she doesn't talk to you.
Author potestatum Posted February 6, 2014 Author Posted February 6, 2014 If you go NC, you go NC. That means it doesn't matter what the occasion is, you don't contact and you don't look her up. You delete contacts, focus on yourself, and move on with your life. She's pretty much told you she doesn't want to be with you romantically, but she's also done what is necessary to keep you around emotionally so she doesn't have to feel guilty and can even have you around as an ego boost if necessary. If you cross her in public and she says hello, then you can be cordial. But don't chase her down if she doesn't talk to you. Thanks for the reply. I just do not feel good. I am really sad about our break up. we were together for 6 years and she is not in love with me. I feel I could do things to keep her in love with me. I feel that it is my fault. And that's what she said basically (that i had made mistakes). I can't stop thinking of her and that she is not in my life anymore!
Author potestatum Posted February 7, 2014 Author Posted February 7, 2014 Guys I need your help. I might see her tomorrow in a bar I will go. I will try to avoid her. However, she might come to talk to me and try to small-talk with me. Because it is going to be at a bar, it is going to bereally hard to leave without talking to her, or just by saying "hi" because there is not a lot of things that I can say to leave. What should I do? How can I end the conversation quickly?
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