FortunateSon Posted February 5, 2014 Posted February 5, 2014 So I have been communicating with a promising woman via OLD. She said she is interested in meeting for drinks but when I asked what her schedule looked like for the week she said "honestly I just got back from 2 weeks away and tomorrow is my first day back in the office. Can we see how the start of the week pans out and maybe set something up later?" This was 3 days ago, I have not heard back from her. I have noticed she is constantly active online. Should I send her a follow up message?
Philosoraptor Posted February 5, 2014 Posted February 5, 2014 You can shoot her a message just to know for sure if you want; but if she's got the time to be online checking messages she could have easily caught up with you as well.
PegNosePete Posted February 5, 2014 Posted February 5, 2014 she said "honestly I just got back from 2 weeks away and tomorrow is my first day back in the office. Can we see how the start of the week pans out and maybe set something up later?" This was 3 days ago, I have not heard back from her. Didn't you reply to that? Why not say "sure, let me know when things settle down a bit, looking forward to it!"... but then if you've left it 3 days already she'll probably assume you've lost interest by now. By the way a lot of OLD have mobile apps which make it look like you're online all the time. Just because she shows online doesn't mean she's active. 1
Author FortunateSon Posted February 5, 2014 Author Posted February 5, 2014 Yes, I initially replied to let me know when she is settled and we can set something up. I was thinking of shooting her a quick note about going out for a drink on a specific day?
PegNosePete Posted February 5, 2014 Posted February 5, 2014 Oh if you already said something similar to what I suggested, then the ball is in her court. If she chooses not to hit it back then it's unlikely another message from you will change her mind.
FitChick Posted February 5, 2014 Posted February 5, 2014 By the way a lot of OLD have mobile apps which make it look like you're online all the time. Just because she shows online doesn't mean she's active. Clever ruse to make it look like a site with more active members. Not like others where you see the last time they were online was in 2005.
Author FortunateSon Posted February 11, 2014 Author Posted February 11, 2014 So I sent this woman a follow up message trying to confirm a date and she responded that next week would work better which I thought was promising? I sent her another message a couple days later trying confirm a date and have gotten nothing back. IT's been 2 days? Typically I wouldn't get bent out of shape about a possible online date but she seemed to "tick all of the boxes" so to speak. She appears to be very active online and even viewed my profile again. Should I cut my loses here?
Pinch Posted February 11, 2014 Posted February 11, 2014 Stop using a check list to find someone first off.If a woman at a bar did this would you still go up to her every time you noticed her and asked her over and over to go on a date.Sure hope not.Delete her No contact should do it.Its easy to make time for someone you like, it shouldn't be a chore.Care about the ones that care about you.
Phantom888 Posted February 11, 2014 Posted February 11, 2014 So I sent this woman a follow up message trying to confirm a date and she responded that next week would work better which I thought was promising? I sent her another message a couple days later trying confirm a date and have gotten nothing back. IT's been 2 days? Typically I wouldn't get bent out of shape about a possible online date but she seemed to "tick all of the boxes" so to speak. She appears to be very active online and even viewed my profile again. Should I cut my loses here? Sorry. It doesn't take two days to answer, "Let's meet on Friday!". That took me 3 seconds to type. She is likely talking to a bunch of guys, and is trying to see how she can juggle all the dates on such a busy schedule. You are likely on the lower priority of her list. That's my observation. 1
Author FortunateSon Posted February 11, 2014 Author Posted February 11, 2014 This is what I was thinking, thank you for reaffirming my thoughts. I don't do the "shotgun" approach with OLD, time to refocus on someone else! 1
Phantom888 Posted February 11, 2014 Posted February 11, 2014 This is what I was thinking, thank you for reaffirming my thoughts. I don't do the "shotgun" approach with OLD, time to refocus on someone else! It gets easier over time. Don't fret over rejections. Everyone gets rejected every so often. You are only seeking ONE, so take your time. Best of luck! 1
SunnySide0418 Posted February 11, 2014 Posted February 11, 2014 This is what I was thinking, thank you for reaffirming my thoughts. I don't do the "shotgun" approach with OLD, time to refocus on someone else! OR ... keep in mind women get inundated with emails so it's possible you just got lost in the crowd. I'd give it one more shot and ask for a specific night to meet for drinks. Not a weekend though.. You have nothing to lose.
Author FortunateSon Posted February 11, 2014 Author Posted February 11, 2014 She looks to be very attractive, I am sure she gets quite a few emails. I have a busy week coming up, maybe I will shoot her one last email later this week about a specific night next week. She said she wants to meet, I should probably take her at her word until told otherwise. OLD can be FRUSTRATING!!
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