sweet_pea Posted February 9, 2014 Posted February 9, 2014 Just a thought...my H had an EA/PA nearly 5 years ago. I didn't want to know ANY of the details. I knew that I would end up comparing myself to her. Was she pretty? Smarter? Funnier? Sexier? What was it that he saw in HER? I knew I would drive myself nuts. I focused on WHY he cheated, not WHO he cheated with. The WHO was irrelevant to me. That being said, maybe that wasn't such a great strategy after all. I'm now in EA turned PA. It's been going on over a year. From BW to mOW. Like others have said, move on. Divorce her and find someone worthy of your loyalty. But just because it is irrelevant to you, does not mean it'll be irrelevant for this poster or anyone else. I'm sure it won't be irrelevant for your H if he finds out who you've been cheating on him with. Sometimes for people the WHO AND the WHY are important. And I think that if it's important for them and if it helps them, then they should know.
SugarHibiscus Posted February 9, 2014 Posted February 9, 2014 Sweet Pea- I couldn't agree with you more. I can't figure out where in my post I implied that the OP should feel the same way I do. If it's important for him, go for it. I was just offering my experience and my thinking.
road Posted February 9, 2014 Posted February 9, 2014 That being said, maybe that wasn't such a great strategy after all. I'm now in EA turned PA. It's been going on over a year. From BW to mOW. She didn't cheat, her husband did. So her having a EA/PA is not cheating? Then what do you say is cheating?
SugarHibiscus Posted February 9, 2014 Posted February 9, 2014 I think she got my story confused. I AM currently cheating. He cheated on me in the past.
janedoe67 Posted February 9, 2014 Posted February 9, 2014 When a WW will not say who the OM it is because it is someone the BH knows. Making it a double betrayal. I have found this to be generally true as well.
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