venus1173 Posted February 5, 2014 Posted February 5, 2014 Me and this guy were dating for 4 months and it was going well until about a month ago. I started picking fight for no reason and accusing him of wanting other women. One night he told me he was done and that I was too much drama for him and that was that. He told me that I gotta find what makes me happy because I didnt want to be happy. I now realized that yes, it was my fault because I pushed him away. I broke 2 weeks of NC and apologized for my part. He said "thanks". A part of me wants to text back saying no problem. I'm trying to resist the urge because I don't want to get my hopes up.
EdG Posted February 5, 2014 Posted February 5, 2014 Firstly I think you did the right think by apologising. He'll recognise and accept that, he'll be thinking about it. By apologising you realise it's not acceptable behaviour and therefore behaviour you don't want to continue with. He'll then realise it's not a part of who you are/intend to be - which is great. I wouldn't text back saying "no problem". He won't text back to that and there is little point in just saying, "no problem". He'll then just think you're apologised to start up conversation, which isn't right. Leave it where it is for now, but if you have something more to say in the future then don't hold back from saying it as long as it's meaningful.
RDawg Posted February 5, 2014 Posted February 5, 2014 Get your hopes up? You apologised, he said thanks.. even if you do tell him no problem how is that going to get your hopes up? I reckon when someone dumps you because of a mistake you made, or a character flaw that you have (in your case unjustified jealousy?) you get one chance, and only one chance, to apologise, acknowledge your fault, commit to change and express a desire to reconcile. Have you done that? Did you tell him you're sorry and want another chance? Sorry to say it but it sounds like he is done with you. If you asked him for another chance when you apologised then you have done all you can do. If you didn't ask for another chance and you really want one then ask him. That way you will know you have done all you can. If you don't get an answer or if he says no then just follow the standard move on, no contact, delete delete advice.. 1
Author venus1173 Posted February 5, 2014 Author Posted February 5, 2014 Thanks Guys. No, I did not say I wanted to reconcile when I apologized When I sent it I was genuinely sorry of my behavior I didnt want him to think that I was just apologizing because I had an ulterior motive. 1
David87 Posted February 5, 2014 Posted February 5, 2014 It's a good thing that you apologise for your behavior. Leave it as it is and move on.
Author venus1173 Posted February 9, 2014 Author Posted February 9, 2014 Get your hopes up? You apologised, he said thanks.. even if you do tell him no problem how is that going to get your hopes up? I reckon when someone dumps you because of a mistake you made, or a character flaw that you have (in your case unjustified jealousy?) you get one chance, and only one chance, to apologise, acknowledge your fault, commit to change and express a desire to reconcile. Have you done that? Did you tell him you're sorry and want another chance? Sorry to say it but it sounds like he is done with you. If you asked him for another chance when you apologised then you have done all you can do. If you didn't ask for another chance and you really want one then ask him. That way you will know you have done all you can. If you don't get an answer or if he says no then just follow the standard move on, no contact, delete delete advice.. I did what you suggested and he said yes, but wants to take it slow. Funny thing I've been missing him and he said he's been staring at my pics in his phone. We'll see how this goes.
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