Author irc333 Posted February 7, 2014 Author Posted February 7, 2014 Seriously? In my experience the vast majority of white women express a preference for dating white men...have a look at the racial preferences white women highlight on their profiles on such sites as match.com I know, and I might add, she says she's a woman of God seeking the same in a man. For a person who is of this belief system, I find it rather unusual to date only a single race. If she's Christian like she says she is, wouldn't that be hypocritical? That being said shouldn't she be open to dating any race?
GorillaTheater Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 If she's Christian like she says she is, wouldn't that be hypocritical? That being said shouldn't she be open to dating any race? Physical attraction has zip to do with spiritual beliefs. I'm not real clear on why you have a problem with this. If you're a white guy, there's no scarcity of women who go for white guys. It's only the dumbass white guys who have problems, so don't be one of those. 4
SteveC80 Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 Alot of young girls get a black fetish either a mandingo fantasy or they think black men are cool bcause of the way pop media portrays them they usually grow out of it 1
soccerrprp Posted February 8, 2014 Posted February 8, 2014 I know, and I might add, she says she's a woman of God seeking the same in a man. For a person who is of this belief system, I find it rather unusual to date only a single race. If she's Christian like she says she is, wouldn't that be hypocritical? That being said shouldn't she be open to dating any race? irc333, Have you been hiding in a basement all your life? Bigotry has been alive and well since the inception of christianity. Today, there are plenty of christian bigots who believe that people of differing ethnic groups should not be together. I do agree that such bigots are hypocrites and if you believe in hell, will find themselves there, but toss away the idea that religious folks are any more progressive or sensitive. If fact, they tend to be the least in terms of race though we are all made in god's image. 1
joystickd Posted February 8, 2014 Posted February 8, 2014 I know, and I might add, she says she's a woman of God seeking the same in a man. For a person who is of this belief system, I find it rather unusual to date only a single race. If she's Christian like she says she is, wouldn't that be hypocritical? That being said shouldn't she be open to dating any race? That is her preference. It doesn't mean she hates other races. It just means there is something about Black men likes and sees them as someone she wants to be in a relationship with. Would you find it unusual if she only wanted to date white men, short men, or even fat men? There are people in the bible that date outside of their race or ethnic group. Moses for instance didn't marry a Hebrew. The problem I think that happened her was that you were interested in this woman and when you saw that statement it bothered you because you realized you didn't have a chance. 3
preraph Posted February 8, 2014 Posted February 8, 2014 I know a beautiful young woman who is the same way. It might even be her profile. She grew up in the south and I'm assuming she grew up more socialized to black people because while she has a few white girlfriends, her bf interests are black.
Allumere Posted February 8, 2014 Posted February 8, 2014 (edited) I know, and I might add, she says she's a woman of God seeking the same in a man. For a person who is of this belief system, I find it rather unusual to date only a single race. If she's Christian like she says she is, wouldn't that be hypocritical? That being said shouldn't she be open to dating any race? It is simply preference. Could be based on attraction, could be based on experience. Some guys like boobs, some gals like big arms....its just a thing. As far as being Christian that doesn't mean "all are welcome" in that attraction is attraction. I know in many instances it is recommended to look past appearances etc., get to know the person and where they fall in their relationship with God but if there is no attraction ya can't force it. I have been contacted by many different men...and honestly, I am only attractive to plan ole white mutts. A few I went on dates with were HOT....but I just didn't feel it. To each his/her peach Edited February 8, 2014 by Allumere
silicone Posted February 8, 2014 Posted February 8, 2014 foreach ($postArray as $post) { $post = str_replace('preference', 'requirement', $post); } For those of you who don't understand that, I'm replacing the word 'preference' with 'requirement' in every post. Reason for this? The female in question specified ONLY - that is not a preference and is a requirement.
KathyM Posted February 8, 2014 Posted February 8, 2014 As others have said, it's simply a preference, and she is certainly entitled to her preferences, just as some people have preferences regarding weight, height, education, job status, etc. I know a Caucasian woman who has a preference for black men, and has only dated black men, and is now married to one and has children with him. Of course, that exclusive preference does limit a person's dating pool, but everyone has their own individual taste in who they are attracted to.
KathyM Posted February 8, 2014 Posted February 8, 2014 And as far as the Christian aspect, it's a bit befuddling to me why people think that because a person is a Christian, they are not entitled to have any criteria for who they are attracted to or who they want to be in a relationship with, and that they are somehow obligated because of their Christian status, to date everyone and anyone regardless of any factors and regardless of whether they are attracted to the person.
soccerrprp Posted February 8, 2014 Posted February 8, 2014 And as far as the Christian aspect, it's a bit befuddling to me why people think that because a person is a Christian, they are not entitled to have any criteria for who they are attracted to or who they want to be in a relationship with, and that they are somehow obligated because of their Christian status, to date everyone and anyone regardless of any factors and regardless of whether they are attracted to the person. Good point KathyM. We all have preferences, but I suspected that the OP thought more of Christians than they deserve. I was simply pointing out that Christians are not more open to being "open" about dating and quite capable of being bigots. But, good point.
KathyM Posted February 8, 2014 Posted February 8, 2014 Good point KathyM. We all have preferences, but I suspected that the OP thought more of Christians than they deserve. I was simply pointing out that Christians are not more open to being "open" about dating and quite capable of being bigots. But, good point. So he thought that because she is a Christian, that she should be interested in dating anyone, and not have any criteria as to who she is attracted to. Hmm. Well, it doesn't work that way. Christians have preferences as to who they are attracted to, just like everybody else.
Imajerk17 Posted February 8, 2014 Posted February 8, 2014 (edited) irc, you spend an inordinate amount of time concerning yourself with the dating habits of women--women in Meetup who SAY don't want to date guys there, women who did their profiles "wrong", ect. But you seem to spend about NO time figuring out how YOU can become more successful with dating. You instead keep posting thread after thread wondering why women don't seem to approach dating the way YOU think they ought to. Hell it's what 95% (100%?) of the threads you write are about. Have you ever given this any thought? Edited February 8, 2014 by Imajerk17 8
lollipopspot Posted February 8, 2014 Posted February 8, 2014 In my mind it's probably cultural. She might appreciate what she understands about black culture, or thinks that growing up black in America gives one a different awareness that she appreciates. Like you said though, "on paper" might be different than if she actually met someone in person who didn't meet her criteria, but she found attractive. I'm attracted to any race, but if pressed I'd probably have a slight preference to date within my own ethnicity, only because of greater understanding of experience. It's one less thing to have any conflict about. If there was another culture or subset of culture I really related to or admired, I'd probably seek that out. I'm guessing she has a strong affinity to her vision of black culture. Or maybe it's just physical, but I can't relate as well to that, because I'm not as visually driven as a lot of people.
jcrew11 Posted February 9, 2014 Posted February 9, 2014 irc, you spend an inordinate amount of time concerning yourself with the dating habits of women--women in Meetup who SAY don't want to date guys there, women who did their profiles "wrong", ect. But you seem to spend about NO time figuring out how YOU can become more successful with dating. You instead keep posting thread after thread wondering why women don't seem to approach dating the way YOU think they ought to. Hell it's what 95% (100%?) of the threads you write are about. Have you ever given this any thought? Hah, exactly. I think singles often become bitter at failing, and start to blame others for their failures, instead of looking at themselves and wondering if there is anything he can change or improve to become more successful with women. In a way, he is trying to figure out why these women don't like him or give some sort of excuse that they don't want to date his type. But to put it plainly, he is failing at dating because he is trying to look at it "logically" instead of focusing on creating "chemistry" and seduction. I think he mentioned he is a shorter guy, so logically many women turn down shorter guys. It sucks, but not the end of the world. His "dating pool" is certainly smaller than a 6'2 blonde guy. Women often talk just to talk, and say whatever they feel like in the moment. Sometimes they are poor excuses, but words are just words. In dating, generating chemistry is far more important than trying to analyze a woman's profile and fit her desired perfect man.
Thegreatestthing Posted February 10, 2014 Posted February 10, 2014 I see it alot on OLD it's either says no black men,or black men only. Pretty strange.maybe something sexual,who knows. I only like Eastern European guys,like no matter how hard I try I cannot get attracted sexually or otherwise to British,Irish,Anglo etc guys,or black guys,or Italian etc etc just nothing happens to me at all.but when I'm with russisan,polish,Ukrainian etc guys we just always fit amazingly and I'm highly highly attracted. I'm white and 1/4 black,but I had my DNA tested a few years ago - I did it twice and I came up as Eastern European both times, so I guess that explains it.ha As far as I knew previous I didn't have any eastern euro ancestry. This is kind of a puzzler, and not to sound raciist, when I was reading this person's profile, she lives very local to me (for a change) and expresses she's Christian and seeks the same. I live in a rural area so she'd be seriously limiting herself. I'm just about to email her , when I noticed her Headliner saying "Black men ONLY apply". She's obviously a Caucasian woman as stated in her profile, but why ONLY that race and not her own? (or open to all?)
notyouraveragebabe Posted February 11, 2014 Posted February 11, 2014 This is kind of a puzzler, and not to sound raciist, when I was reading this person's profile, she lives very local to me (for a change) and expresses she's Christian and seeks the same. I live in a rural area so she'd be seriously limiting herself. I'm just about to email her , when I noticed her Headliner saying "Black men ONLY apply". She's obviously a Caucasian woman as stated in her profile, but why ONLY that race and not her own? (or open to all?) Just put brown paint on your body maybe she will like you for the effort. LOL ok I can't help it. Well if she's attracted to black men then you're SOL. Or tell her your penis may be larger. haha. Well I'm only attracted to certain races. I'm not racist at all, but you like what you like.
amaysngrace Posted February 11, 2014 Posted February 11, 2014 Robert De Niro had three wives and they're all black. Now that's just a fun little fact!
FitChick Posted February 11, 2014 Posted February 11, 2014 The OP creates endless threads revolving around this same theme: women who live near him who are attracted to men who look nothing like him.
Tayken Posted February 12, 2014 Posted February 12, 2014 Could your own preferences be regarded as a fetish though since you discount men who don't fulfil superficial criteria? Watch out, she will have a go at you for calling her out on the xenophobia behaviour.
Tayken Posted February 12, 2014 Posted February 12, 2014 Could your own preferences be regarded as a fetish though since you discount men who don't fulfil superficial criteria? Watch out, she will have a go at you for calling her out on the xenophobia behaviour. I mean how is that preference working out for her
Author irc333 Posted February 12, 2014 Author Posted February 12, 2014 Good point KathyM. We all have preferences, but I suspected that the OP thought more of Christians than they deserve. I was simply pointing out that Christians are not more open to being "open" about dating and quite capable of being bigots. But, good point. Yes, I found that quite ironic. I recall having gone to Christian singles groups/events and not one black person would be at them or you'd see one show up on occasion, but then you'd never see them again. If this woman with the profile attempted to meet men in real life, chances are she wouldn't meet a single black man through those circles.
Author irc333 Posted February 12, 2014 Author Posted February 12, 2014 I actually have a couple of male friends that don't date Latina women. Considering this area has a HIGH population of them, that's kind of cutting off a lot of options. I find their reason to be rather irrational...why? "They all have hot tempters" Apparently, they've dated Latin women and all their experiences were attributed to a stereotype. "Sure, I'll just cut my nose to spite my face when dating" I'm sure this is the case with this woman. Apparently, perhaps she had a bad experience with a white guy(s)?
Emilia Posted February 12, 2014 Posted February 12, 2014 I'm sure this is the case with this woman. Apparently, perhaps she had a bad experience with a white guy(s)? She finds black men more physically attractive. I have a preference for darker skin. It's not some kind of exclusive thing, my current interest is a white man but I find darker features (skin, eyes, hair) aesthetically more pleasing. Or maybe she wants to make sure the guy is well endowed
BikerAccnt Posted February 12, 2014 Posted February 12, 2014 Robert De Niro had three wives and they're all black. Now that's just a fun little fact! Having three wives is nothing to be too proud of... You'd think he'd have figured out a way to make one of them happy enough to stick around./
Recommended Posts