irc333 Posted February 5, 2014 Share Posted February 5, 2014 This is kind of a puzzler, and not to sound raciist, when I was reading this person's profile, she lives very local to me (for a change) and expresses she's Christian and seeks the same. I live in a rural area so she'd be seriously limiting herself. I'm just about to email her , when I noticed her Headliner saying "Black men ONLY apply". She's obviously a Caucasian woman as stated in her profile, but why ONLY that race and not her own? (or open to all?) Link to post Share on other sites
Tayken Posted February 5, 2014 Share Posted February 5, 2014 She's obviously a Caucasian woman as stated in her profile, but why ONLY that race and not her own? (or open to all?) It's her preference and she sounds like a woman that knows what she wants.....she is entitled to that, and last time I checked, it's acceptable. There are Black women too who only date White guys. There are those gamblers that also hold the mantra..."Always bet on Black", don't know if it applies in the dating world? Link to post Share on other sites
mammasita Posted February 5, 2014 Share Posted February 5, 2014 I've never understood that because I don't see race or color when I date - I see attraction and chemistry. She's obviously narrowing her dating pool, but whatever.....more for everyone else. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
gaius Posted February 5, 2014 Share Posted February 5, 2014 If she's heavyset or has a fat arse she might get way more attention from black guys than white and feel more comfortable with it. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
CarrieT Posted February 5, 2014 Share Posted February 5, 2014 She's obviously a Caucasian woman as stated in her profile, but why ONLY that race and not her own? (or open to all?) The same reason that tons of White Men only want Asian Women, many Black Men only want White Women, or any other proclivity of this ilk... Happens all the time. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
normal person Posted February 5, 2014 Share Posted February 5, 2014 Everyone has preferences for reasons they may or may not be able to help, explain, or justify. Personally, I've never seen much sense in arguing over it. The heart wants what it wants and trying to rationalize something like that is usually pretty fruitless. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Author irc333 Posted February 5, 2014 Author Share Posted February 5, 2014 The same reason that tons of White Men only want Asian Women, many Black Men only want White Women, or any other proclivity of this ilk... Happens all the time. Yeah, chances are it's some kind of fetish, perhaps this phase in their lives will come and go. Link to post Share on other sites
joystickd Posted February 5, 2014 Share Posted February 5, 2014 That is just her preference. There is no need to analyze why. If you want to know why ask her. I'm Black and I absolutely don't date Black women. I have my reasons. The thing is we all have preferences. How would you feel if someone posted about a preference you have on here? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
joystickd Posted February 5, 2014 Share Posted February 5, 2014 Yeah, chances are it's some kind of fetish, perhaps this phase in their lives will come and go. Usually it's never like that. They usually want to be in relationships with Black men. Trust me when you meet one that it's a fetish you will know and it usually consists of their husband watching 3 Link to post Share on other sites
joystickd Posted February 5, 2014 Share Posted February 5, 2014 If she's heavyset or has a fat arse she might get way more attention from black guys than white and feel more comfortable with it. Having fun with stereotypes? 7 Link to post Share on other sites
CarrieT Posted February 5, 2014 Share Posted February 5, 2014 Yeah, chances are it's some kind of fetish, perhaps this phase in their lives will come and go. Why do you think that? Most people have their preferences set fairly early in life - often for inexplicable reasons. I knew a guy who was engaged to a beautiful Caucasian woman but had frequent and damaging affairs with Asian women. He was one of those sad - I hate to say - racists people who stereotyped a particular race to the extent that he felt he could never have an Asian wife. That would be "beneath him." Yet that was what he was drawn to and it tormented him on a very bizarre level as I watched him cheat on his fiancé. I had to end the friendship with him as I thought his actions wrong on so many levels. But I hear that now, 20+ years later, he still has those Asian desires but is divorced. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author irc333 Posted February 5, 2014 Author Share Posted February 5, 2014 That is just her preference. There is no need to analyze why. If you want to know why ask her. I'm Black and I absolutely don't date Black women. I have my reasons. What are your reasons? Link to post Share on other sites
pickflicker Posted February 5, 2014 Share Posted February 5, 2014 Yeah, chances are it's some kind of fetish, perhaps this phase in their lives will come and go. Not necessarily. I get black men contacting me on my profile and I'm not interested. I'm not attracted to them. I'm not being racist, I'm just not interested at all. Same as Middle Eastern men. They contact me, I ignore contact. I prefer dating white men. It just is what it is. I haven't gone as far as putting it on my profile, because it's easier to just ignore contact, but I'm attracted to what I'm attracted to. Link to post Share on other sites
joystickd Posted February 5, 2014 Share Posted February 5, 2014 Why do you think that? Most people have their preferences set fairly early in life - often for inexplicable reasons. I know for me all the way until 25 I only wanted to date black women but none would date me. I had the worse luck in the world. I had thought about women outside my race but felt weird about it for a long time. After being depressed about no luck with women I looked back and thought about it and saw my problem was dating my own race. Hell I went to an HBCU and had no success. I think all the stuggling just got me out with black women. I just don't see many of them as attractive anymore. Link to post Share on other sites
Tayla Posted February 5, 2014 Share Posted February 5, 2014 Its called discriminating taste for a reason. Pretty sure "excluding a race" falls under that dynamic. Oddly my mind stays in two ranges, of age and consent, and they are human race. Not a fan of mentalities that limit thru nationality and faith.Boggles my mind to an extent the lengths a human will go to to appear superior just because they "only date (insert discriminating verbage)". They closed their hearts and eyes. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
joystickd Posted February 5, 2014 Share Posted February 5, 2014 Its called discriminating taste for a reason. Pretty sure "excluding a race" falls under that dynamic. Oddly my mind stays in two ranges, of age and consent, and they are human race. Not a fan of mentalities that limit thru nationality and faith.Boggles my mind to an extent the lengths a human will go to to appear superior just because they "only date (insert discriminating verbage)". They closed their hearts and eyes. Feeling superior. Thats not always the case. I just gravitated towards women that were more into me. It just happened to be all groups except black. Is that a problem for you? Seems you want to feel superior by bragging about not being limited 3 Link to post Share on other sites
pickflicker Posted February 5, 2014 Share Posted February 5, 2014 Its called discriminating taste for a reason. Pretty sure "excluding a race" falls under that dynamic. Oddly my mind stays in two ranges, of age and consent, and they are human race. Not a fan of mentalities that limit thru nationality and faith.Boggles my mind to an extent the lengths a human will go to to appear superior just because they "only date (insert discriminating verbage)". They closed their hearts and eyes. I don't see it as any different from not being interested in dating a really fat guy. I'm not attracted to it. I'm have dozens of friends from all different nationalities, and I love them, but I don't want to f*ck them. I'm not going to date someone I'm not attracted to, because there's no point. I get a ton of emotional fulfillment from my friends and my family. Probably too much, which is probably what contributes to my 'meh' attitude to dating. There are people I'm attracted to, and people I'm not attracted to. It is what it is. Re: religion, there is absolutely no point me dating someone who believes in God, when I don't. Not only am I doing myself a disservice, but I'm doing them a disservice too. And I've tried. Oh, how I have tried. But love most certainly does not conquer all. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Misfortune Posted February 5, 2014 Share Posted February 5, 2014 I only date females :/ Am I a ...phobe? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author irc333 Posted February 5, 2014 Author Share Posted February 5, 2014 Remember this scene from ? LOL Link to post Share on other sites
Tayken Posted February 6, 2014 Share Posted February 6, 2014 If she's heavyset or has a fat arse she might get way more attention from black guys than white and feel more comfortable with it. Wow....talk about a stereotype, that only Black men like heavy and fat ass women? I prefer dating white men. It just is what it is. I haven't gone as far as putting it on my profile. How is that working out for ya...Perhaps you should just put it on your profile, tis a dating site after all???? Link to post Share on other sites
Tayla Posted February 6, 2014 Share Posted February 6, 2014 Feeling superior. Thats not always the case. I just gravitated towards women that were more into me. It just happened to be all groups except black. Is that a problem for you? Seems you want to feel superior by bragging about not being limited Realistic is different then superior. I'm 100 per cent fine with my opinion , thanks though for caring to ask? Be cool life will get us all in the end. Link to post Share on other sites
Tayla Posted February 6, 2014 Share Posted February 6, 2014 I don't see it as any different from not being interested in dating a really fat guy. I'm not attracted to it. I'm have dozens of friends from all different nationalities, and I love them, but I don't want to f*ck them. I'm not going to date someone I'm not attracted to, because there's no point. I get a ton of emotional fulfillment from my friends and my family. Probably too much, which is probably what contributes to my 'meh' attitude to dating. There are people I'm attracted to, and people I'm not attracted to. It is what it is. Re: religion, there is absolutely no point me dating someone who believes in God, when I don't. Not only am I doing myself a disservice, but I'm doing them a disservice too. And I've tried. Oh, how I have tried. But love most certainly does not conquer all.. If that is how you feel so be it. My perspective stands. It's when a person hits a nerve that they react. My opinion with facts was not meant to harm. Stay well, we all have a place in this world. Link to post Share on other sites
pickflicker Posted February 6, 2014 Share Posted February 6, 2014 How is that working out for ya...Perhaps you should just put it on your profile, tis a dating site after all???? It works fine. I don't want for any attention, and do very well, thank you. Link to post Share on other sites
pickflicker Posted February 6, 2014 Share Posted February 6, 2014 . If that is how you feel so be it. My perspective stands. It's when a person hits a nerve that they react. My opinion with facts was not meant to harm. Stay well, we all have a place in this world. Your comment was directly pointed and designed to ruffle feathers and make me defend my actions. Please don't pretend it was anything else. Link to post Share on other sites
Keenly Posted February 6, 2014 Share Posted February 6, 2014 Nothing to see here. Nothing wrong with it either. I only am attracted physically and sexually to white girls. I mean... I'd never just put that in my profile, but I'm sure that limits her message pool, in a good way. Nothing racist about having dating preferences. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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