Ariduenas Posted February 5, 2014 Posted February 5, 2014 I met this guy a few weeks ago. He was introduced by my best friend's boyfriend. My friend told me he really liked me so I decided to give him a chance a started talking to him. We went on double dates with our friends and texted a lot. It was always clear that we liked each other. He was married for 4 months but that relationship didn't work out. He was definitely hurt after that and now he filed divorce and he's waiting on the papers. A week ago, almost two weeks he came over to my place and I had some people over. We tried having sex but it didn't really work out, and again it was made clear that we liked each other and that we where on the same page (HE SAID IT) After that incident he was acting very weird and wasn't really talking to me so I gave him space but after a few days I decided to ask him straight up if he wasn't interested so I could leave him alone. His answer was: "the more I think about it the more I feel I have to take care of my past before I can start something new" now he even told my friend that he really likes me but he wants to take care of everything before we start something. Thing is he's not really making any efforts to talk to me and it seems to me that he's not interested but I could be wrong. Any thoughts?
David87 Posted February 5, 2014 Posted February 5, 2014 I met this guy a few weeks ago. He was introduced by my best friend's boyfriend. My friend told me he really liked me so I decided to give him a chance a started talking to him. We went on double dates with our friends and texted a lot. It was always clear that we liked each other. He was married for 4 months but that relationship didn't work out. He was definitely hurt after that and now he filed divorce and he's waiting on the papers. A week ago, almost two weeks he came over to my place and I had some people over. We tried having sex but it didn't really work out, and again it was made clear that we liked each other and that we where on the same page (HE SAID IT) After that incident he was acting very weird and wasn't really talking to me so I gave him space but after a few days I decided to ask him straight up if he wasn't interested so I could leave him alone. His answer was: "the more I think about it the more I feel I have to take care of my past before I can start something new" now he even told my friend that he really likes me but he wants to take care of everything before we start something. Thing is he's not really making any efforts to talk to me and it seems to me that he's not interested but I could be wrong. Any thoughts? He's not ready to date yet, a part of him wants to do it but the other part doesn't.
justlife Posted February 5, 2014 Posted February 5, 2014 With my current girlfriend, when I met her she had been seeing someone back home, but we became so so close and did stuff that it was inevitable we'd eventually get together. We were best friends. She always used to tell me that she had to see out this thing at home first, but after a few weeks she eventually broke it off and couldn't have been more committed to me. My point is some people take a while to let go of older stuff, not necessarily because they like them more than you, but because they feel they owe them a certain amount of respect/care and want to make sure everything is sorted. I hung in there for about a month, still seeing her almost everyday, talking all the time and every now doing "stuff", and I couldn't be happier that I did. If you think there is something there between you, wait around. If he doesn't make much of an effort talking then be careful, though. Make sure there is definitely something there before waiting around. Otherwise you're just leaving yourself to get hurt. Sometimes you have to take that risk, though!
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