clewless Posted February 5, 2014 Posted February 5, 2014 I met this woman about 4-5 months ago, who had just arrived in my country on a student visa for 2 years. She said she had a boyfriend living overseas, but they both travelled a lot and rarely saw each other. We happened to fall in love together and she went to see her bf last week. She just got back and said she hadn't told him about us, but they decided to go their own ways after he comes to my country to visit her here in a few months. She said she 'couldn't love two people at once' and wanted to wait until they parted in April until anything else happened. I felt rejected cause she basically chose him over me - I had expected her to at least tell him, but she didn't. She also tells me I have to wait until they are through, and I am just supposed to be her second choice and sit and wait like a good dog... I need some help seeing if I have missed anything here? I have tried to just give the facts and my feelings... I know it all sounds wrong, but she says she loves me like she has never felt before, and I feel the same, so I just wonder why she can't just tell him and why she thinks it's ok to make me suffer and be tortured waiting for her because of him - maybe I am a sucker that has 'loser' written all over my forehead that she thinks she can just treat me like 'second-best' and I will wait like an idiot? Sorry if I sound crazy and defensive... I just had the talk with her
forever_lost Posted February 5, 2014 Posted February 5, 2014 It might help to put yourself in his shoes. If she had abruptly left and started dating this other guy from overseas, how would you feel? It's not like she doesn't have ANY feelings for this guy, and she just needs to get out of it with minimized drama before she begins something else. If it's meant to be, you should be patient and let her naturally come to you. Know it's hard, but you don't want this to bring out a side of you you'll regret showing later.
Author clewless Posted February 5, 2014 Author Posted February 5, 2014 Thanks, that's good advice... I unfortunately think she just didn't love me that much... I think I've just been duped and dumped
hea Posted February 5, 2014 Posted February 5, 2014 so she's cheating on her bf with you? Do you really want to be a part of that? Someone else's heart break, and then also to be with a cheater? She probably having her cake and eating it too. 1
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