k10k Posted February 5, 2014 Posted February 5, 2014 Arg.. I just received a call from a number which I recognize as his - moment of weakness - I answered it and then it just went silent. Says "missed call" on my phone, so he disconnected before I said "hello". He probably just dialed me by mistake or something right?? My first instinct was to text him "did you just try to call?" - but I've posted here instead. Stupid, now his number is back on my phone and I have to delete it again. My heart started beating really fast, hate the effect that this still has one me.
StringsAttached Posted February 5, 2014 Posted February 5, 2014 Arg.. I just received a call from a number which I recognize as his - moment of weakness - I answered it and then it just went silent. Says "missed call" on my phone, so he disconnected before I said "hello". He probably just dialed me by mistake or something right?? My first instinct was to text him "did you just try to call?" - but I've posted here instead. Stupid, now his number is back on my phone and I have to delete it again. My heart started beating really fast, hate the effect that this still has one me. Could be he's drunk and wants to contact you. Could be he accidentally called. You run the risk of trying to find out. My advice is to forget it ever happened. It'll save you time and pain. lol the heart beat thing happens to me every time too. When your heart doesn't beat fast anymore when thinking/stalking/receiving missed calls from him. That's when you pick up his phone. But by then would you even care?
Author k10k Posted February 5, 2014 Author Posted February 5, 2014 Thanks Strings - I'll just forget about it as you say. Glad to hear I'm not the only one whose heart beats out of control like that, guess it's that flight or fight reaction that kicks in.. a sign that I'm still rather vulnerable to all this.
Author k10k Posted February 5, 2014 Author Posted February 5, 2014 Flip.. he just called again.. ignore right?
RDawg Posted February 5, 2014 Posted February 5, 2014 What? And hung up again? That's very weird. I vote phone him back and ask him what's going on. You are so fresh into your recovery so it wont set you back too much and it could make some interesting reading for the rest of us. Please?
Author k10k Posted February 5, 2014 Author Posted February 5, 2014 Ok, not exactly leading by example here.. but I phoned back. He said he was sorry, thought the calls didn't go through, he wasn't coping very well and was having a bad moment. Said he misses me and that it hasn't been easy, but that he just needs to get through this to see what's on the other side. So nothing really new, still wishy-washy. I've got to keep moving on... but I suppose it's nice to know that he also struggles with this no contact thing. I don't think the convo opened the floodgates to more pain in this case.. it feels the same. However, it was a risk, if he had told me he was eloping to get married or something, then yea, that would've been bad! Right, sorry folks, I'll get back on the NC wagon now..
ithappenedagain Posted February 5, 2014 Posted February 5, 2014 Yep... He was just checking to see if he still had you on the hook.. You answered, so in his mind he can continue his actions - because he knows you are still there.. Don't be surprised to see more calls or texts from him in the future. No Contact means no contact Lesson learned!
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