Mawz Posted February 5, 2014 Posted February 5, 2014 I went on a date with a great guy. We texted back and forth so I asked him to see a movie with me. He agreed but told me he was going to be out of town. However, he said he wanted to go with me the following Friday. He texted me on Thursday and said he couldn't because his flight was delayed, so he wanted to reschedule. I texted him a day later and said "oh ok, it's fine." Does it sound like I rejected him? And should I text him again...? I like him...
TXGuy Posted February 5, 2014 Posted February 5, 2014 it does not sound like you rejected him. You replied appropriately. Let him come back with the reschedule date. This is one of the rare times I'd suggest you wait for him to make the next move.
imatradie81 Posted February 5, 2014 Posted February 5, 2014 If that were me and you took a day to reply and said that I would think you were pi$$ed and being a bit rude for no reason. I probably wouldn't message you again.
winny Posted February 5, 2014 Posted February 5, 2014 I think more than the actual cancellation or reschedule, you should be thinking about the reason behind it. This guy didn't blow you up. Seems as though as soon as he got to know about flight delay he made sure to inform you. So you could have replied bit promptly saying - it's okay and talk to you when you are back. So has he not responded back to you or initiated any texts till now?
Author Mawz Posted February 5, 2014 Author Posted February 5, 2014 No. He hasn't responded to me...the reason I feel like he blew me off was because two hours before he wanted to reschedule, he wanted to confirm with me about our date. I kind of assumed that he was most likely lying and that's why I took a day to respond.
SmartDude Posted February 5, 2014 Posted February 5, 2014 No one in this modren era is going to like my opinion on this. I don't care. Texting should not be used for certain types of communication. It is fine for short informative messages that do not rely on interpretation of meaning. Using the phone to actually talk takes more effort yes. Phone calls are much more effective for real communication. Critical communication needs to happen over the phone. 1
soccerrprp Posted February 5, 2014 Posted February 5, 2014 No one in this modren era is going to like my opinion on this. I don't care. Texting should not be used for certain types of communication. It is fine for short informative messages that do not rely on interpretation of meaning. Using the phone to actually talk takes more effort yes. Phone calls are much more effective for real communication. Critical communication needs to happen over the phone. I think that MOST people would agree with you. I think OP made the mistake of ASSUMING that he was lying and then waited a day to respond to something simple. In this case, I don't see a problem with texting. This was not a case of misinterpretation of text.
Frank2thepoint Posted February 5, 2014 Posted February 5, 2014 I kind of assumed that he was most likely lying and that's why I took a day to respond. He also probably thinks that you assumed he was lying, even though he was forthcoming with communication. Whether he was lying or not (which cannot be determined) you responding a day later sent the message that you are not interested in what he has to say. So basically, it's seen as a rejection. 1
Andy_K Posted February 5, 2014 Posted February 5, 2014 I kind of assumed that he was most likely lying and that's why I took a day to respond. Whether you realise it or not, this sort of passive aggressive behaviour is what guys think of as game playing. What's the point? What were you hoping to achieve? You either like him, believe him, and reschedule, or you think he's lying and go find someone else instead. Hovering somewhere in the middle just leaves you in an awkward mess.
40 Fonzarelli Posted February 6, 2014 Posted February 6, 2014 The day to respond killed it. A girl recently did that to me and I cut her off. 1
pickflicker Posted February 6, 2014 Posted February 6, 2014 Yeah, you should have replied straight away.
kaylan Posted February 6, 2014 Posted February 6, 2014 The day to respond killed it. A girl recently did that to me and I cut her off. This. When a girl takes her sweet ole time to respond to me, it shows lack of interest. After which I either slowly stop talking to her, go ghost, or only decide to hang out if shes the one pushing for it and planning it.
BOREDouttaMymind Posted February 6, 2014 Posted February 6, 2014 I am so glad I grew up in the 80s where the most advanced piece of technology was the Speak N' Spell.
Frank2thepoint Posted February 6, 2014 Posted February 6, 2014 The day to respond killed it. A girl recently did that to me and I cut her off. This right here is golden, like sun in your eyes golden. Every LS member that create countless threads on trying to dissect the hidden meaning of why the person of interest is taking long to respond, especially more than 24 hours, this is the mentality and behavior that everyone should incorporate into their daily routine, nay, into the core of their being. Drop the person, delete their number, and never look back. Respect is more important than how pretty the other person looks while you are praising them on the pedestal you've placed them on. 1
Author Mawz Posted February 7, 2014 Author Posted February 7, 2014 He texted me out of nowhere the other day so I responded, 'you owe me a dinner!' His response was 'no I don't, we owe it to ourselves to go get dinner' His response confuses the hell out of me. Is this a positive one or a negative one??
Emilia Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 He texted me out of nowhere the other day so I responded, 'you owe me a dinner!' His response was 'no I don't, we owe it to ourselves to go get dinner' His response confuses the hell out of me. Is this a positive one or a negative one?? It was a joke .... 2
Frank2thepoint Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 He texted me out of nowhere the other day so I responded, 'you owe me a dinner!' I already pity this guy. 1
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