purplesoccer34 Posted February 5, 2014 Posted February 5, 2014 I dated this guy in my senior year of college and our relationship lasted a year. This was my first ever relationship (I know, I was sort of a late bloomer haha). It's been 6 months since we broke up. I broke up with him, because toward the end of the relationship we were arguing a lot over the silliest things. It felt like we had an argument almost everyday over something very trivial. Another reason was that he was becoming very close to one of his female friends, and I couldn't trust him. He would tell her things that he would never tell me. Even though it's been 6 months, I still think back to my senior year of college and how happy I was all the time. I really enjoyed going to school because I knew that I would see him and the rest of my friends. I don't have any of that anymore--I don't see my friends as much as I used to, and this guy is no longer in my life. All I know is that my ex is currently dating the female friend that he got very close to--and for some reason, it's killing me. Especially since he was one of the sweetest and most caring guys I had ever known. I'm not sure if I actually miss him, or if I miss the idea of being in a relationship. Even though we had many unhappy moments, I only think back to the times when things were amazing between us. I think back to when he used to be my best friend, all the sweet things he has done for me, and how his current girlfriend is now getting all that attention. It feels even worse knowing that I was the one who broke up with him. I do see him every now and then, and every time I do, the feelings sort of come back, but they're not overwhelming like they used to be. It could be just me feeling nostalgic, because if I could go back to my senior year of college again, I would do it in a heartbeat. Now that I'm not in college anymore, I'm not surrounded by friends everyday like I used to be, so could I just be feeling lonely? I'm starting to wonder if this feeling will ever go away. Will dating someone else actually help? Especially if I really like the new guy.
SCJACK Posted February 5, 2014 Posted February 5, 2014 I kind of feel the same way... I feel very lonely.. This is my last semester as a senior in college and I just got out of a bad breakup... she broke up with me and I had no closure with so many questions that I will never be able to know the answers to.. I'm hitting that point in college where the friends I had are already graduated and working. And I realize people are being stripped away from me left to right and I don't see them anymore or not often either. And the only girl who I really cared about and put so much effort to trying to make her happy just leaves me like that. She was very cold to me, and it just seems like she doesn't care about me anymore.. everyone it seems is leaving me.. and i'm having a hard time to cope with that. Unfortunately I don't have any girl friends to talk to at the moment who I would be merely interested in... :/ Once I start work, I hope it's not as lonely as it is now..
what_a_blonde Posted February 5, 2014 Posted February 5, 2014 I dated this guy in my senior year of college and our relationship lasted a year. This was my first ever relationship (I know, I was sort of a late bloomer haha). It's been 6 months since we broke up. I broke up with him, because toward the end of the relationship we were arguing a lot over the silliest things. It felt like we had an argument almost everyday over something very trivial. Another reason was that he was becoming very close to one of his female friends, and I couldn't trust him. He would tell her things that he would never tell me. Even though it's been 6 months, I still think back to my senior year of college and how happy I was all the time. I really enjoyed going to school because I knew that I would see him and the rest of my friends. I don't have any of that anymore--I don't see my friends as much as I used to, and this guy is no longer in my life. All I know is that my ex is currently dating the female friend that he got very close to--and for some reason, it's killing me. Especially since he was one of the sweetest and most caring guys I had ever known. I'm not sure if I actually miss him, or if I miss the idea of being in a relationship. Even though we had many unhappy moments, I only think back to the times when things were amazing between us. I think back to when he used to be my best friend, all the sweet things he has done for me, and how his current girlfriend is now getting all that attention. It feels even worse knowing that I was the one who broke up with him. I do see him every now and then, and every time I do, the feelings sort of come back, but they're not overwhelming like they used to be. It could be just me feeling nostalgic, because if I could go back to my senior year of college again, I would do it in a heartbeat. Now that I'm not in college anymore, I'm not surrounded by friends everyday like I used to be, so could I just be feeling lonely? I'm starting to wonder if this feeling will ever go away. Will dating someone else actually help? Especially if I really like the new guy. Yes, it will absolutely help. You're just feeling lonely right now and like you said, nostalgic and missing the "good times". The fact that you broke up with him says that at some point, you were completely fed up with the relationship for multiple reasons and could no longer see it going anywhere. Thats great that you did that and stood up for your own happiness, but now you have to continue to own that and try very HARD to remember the exact reasons you broke up. I think its very normal to think back to old relationships and miss that person, especially when you see them moved on. However you need to actively work to get out and start meeting new people because if not, you're going to stay stuck in this pit of thinking about the past and suddenly wanting it back, when really... you know its not the best for you and ultimately you probably wouldn't be happy to have HIM or the old drama back. Go out and meet yourself a new boy toy to take your mind of this. Or try online dating and see what is out there just for a month or so.
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