makaveli Posted February 14, 2014 Posted February 14, 2014 Just stop talking to him and erase him from your life. After enough time, you will still feel bad once in a while, but you will be moving forward in your life. You will be more wise. It's true that the ex may haunt your mind from time to time, but new relationships are always around the corner. Go out more, try to make more money, try to talk to other guys. Talk to your friends. Get back to the person that you were before you met your ex. Get your game back, feel sexy again, and approach any guy that interests you. You will feel a lot better over time.
Author allikowski Posted February 14, 2014 Author Posted February 14, 2014 I have been focusing in trying to better myself by focusing on working out and then putting all my time into my nursing classes it had helped and my friends have been great but I can't help but wonder if he will ever talk to me again do you think there is a chance that he will?
Zahara Posted February 14, 2014 Posted February 14, 2014 Well yesterday he told me to move on again and that he doesn't want to talk to me again. This is about the 5th time he's done this. I'm so sad and I feel so stupid falling for this game again.( What would be the point with talking to him again? Move on, OP. If you really want to talk to him, do it when you are indifferent and have moved on. Other than that, there is no point in having, expecting, hoping, wanting, etc. contact.
Author allikowski Posted February 14, 2014 Author Posted February 14, 2014 I still want him back not now of course not until I've fully moved on and a better person I'm open to talking to him again in the future I have no plans if contacting him now because I know it will hurt way to much and I don't eat to do that to myself
Zahara Posted February 14, 2014 Posted February 14, 2014 I still want him back not now of course not until I've fully moved on and a better person I'm open to talking to him again in the future I have no plans if contacting him now because I know it will hurt way to much and I don't eat to do that to myself And when you have fully moved on and have become a "better person", you would be well over him and not even wanting to go back but wanting to venture out and seek better for yourself. With being fully moved on and being a better person comes indifference. And trust me, you will want nothing to do with this clown when that happens.
Author allikowski Posted February 14, 2014 Author Posted February 14, 2014 Aha thanks so much! That made me laugh and feel better, I haven't gotten ready in a long time so I decided to today and seriously I already 20x better since after the breakup I would literally wakeup and leave the house for the day all my friends have told me I can do better so I really can't wait until the day I won't even think of him 1
Author allikowski Posted February 16, 2014 Author Posted February 16, 2014 So once again I miss my ex like crazy right now it's annoying how he still comes to mind a lot I've been nc for toes weeks now I do talk to my friends and family about it but does anyone else have other tips to forget him it's hard because my two co workers today love talking about there boyfriends together and I'm stuck in a room with them it's awful because it makes me miss him even more
Author allikowski Posted February 20, 2014 Author Posted February 20, 2014 So don't really want to go into details I have posted the full story on other threads I started. Pretty much me and my ex were dating for a year and he dumped me because he wanted to "work on himself" and due to my dad passing away from brain cancer I was to depressed to be there for him. Which now I realize is a really awful thing to breakup with someone for. So anyways I haven't contacted him in almost three weeks. I was on Tumblr blogging some things and he started blogging a lot of my stuff. Towards the end of the night I got anonymous message saying good night beautiful. I had a feeling it was him so I have this way of knowing who sends me these anonymous messages and it was him! So I checked my Facebook and phone to see if he actually messaged me and nothing! I am actually very annoyed that he did this. Before I would have messaged him but now I am so frustrated I mean he is the one who told me to move on. I've actually been feeling pretty good and happy these past couple of days and I stopped blogging "sad I miss you things" on Tumblr and started posting better things. I don't understand why he did that I mean I still really love him and miss him I dearly wish he would talk to me but I've accepted what happened.
Winter blue Posted February 20, 2014 Posted February 20, 2014 Unfortunately it means nothing material. He is just testing to see if you are still pinning on him. Some dumpers are very selfish they left you but don't want to see you move on. Take his words for real (if he asked you to move on) and give him just what he asked for, he wants you out of his life, he gets it. You should block him on social networks for your own sanity.
Author allikowski Posted February 20, 2014 Author Posted February 20, 2014 He did it for me to not even see it was him though. For some reason when I found out it was him I wasn't even happy just a bit annoyed. We left on good terms with each other so idk. I guess i'm just venting my frustrations with him. The thing is when we would talk he would constantly change his mind one day he wanted me the next he tells me to move on. I'm going to stay no contact I still have feelings for him but I don't plan on talking to him unless he messages me first and not confused. Honestly I feel perfectly fine even if he never does no contact has really helped me focus on me a lot and not depend on him so much.
Winter blue Posted February 20, 2014 Posted February 20, 2014 yup, he was blowing hot and cold on you, that only says one thing, he isn't as invested as you are into the relationship, he was confused and he probably still is. Generally speaking those people giving mixed singals to others are emotionally immature. Avoid at all cost.
Author allikowski Posted February 20, 2014 Author Posted February 20, 2014 Idk he was always more invested than me during the relationship to be honest. If I was sick he would bring me a get well kit or he would just bring me little things everyday. It's just after we brokeup he gave out mixed feelings. He blamed it on other things but I know it's because his parents don't like me very much, but his parents don't like anyone. I mean I have a job, a car, i'm in nursing school , I was always polite with them, I tried bringing them flowers just stuff like that to no avail. He told me he wants me but not until he doesn't have to rely on his parents since hes in school also and is still using their support. Eh it's all just very irritating the more I think about it and remember everything he said when we broke up with a clear mind.
Nicki73562 Posted February 20, 2014 Posted February 20, 2014 I feel bad you are going through this. I went out with a guy who didn't really love me and was using me and stringing me along. It hurt but after years of being let down we decided NC. It hurt but I am glad we did. Then I got in a relationship with someone else and we broke up and that is what I am here for as well to support others. Hang in there.
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