LEEVIT2F8 Posted February 4, 2014 Posted February 4, 2014 I'm 40 she is 25 and a real stunner. The age gap is a non issue. I date mostly women in their mid 20s and she prefers older men. It is a new weekend thing, she lives 2 hours away and we text and talk on the phone throughout the week. I ran into her randomly and mentioned I was going to be at an event the following weekend. She showed up and we chatted all day. By the evening we decided to have a few cocktails and she asked if I would like to share a hotel room. We had an amazing time that lasted until Monday morning. She actually wanted to stay longer but I cant allow that as my children were home. I forgot a shirt in the hotel so she picked it up for me. We text and talk on the phone for the next week. I was busy the next weekend so she came in this past weekend to bring me my shirt and hang out. The weekend is amazing and we have a great time! As our conversations just keep getting better we both comment how we have never related to anyone ever like we do to each other. Physically, we can not keep our hands off one another. Just probably the best 72hours I remember in a long time! We are both guarded and have a reputation for being popular with the opposite sex. And we agreed the first weekend that its a casual thing and we are perfect for each other because neither of us can sustain a relationship. We joked about how other people always fall in love with us but we never can feel the same. Literally, she is the female version of me on a million different levels. Things remained super fun and light for much of last weekend. But a few conversations started to get dangerous. And I have started to really like her on a level I didnt think was possible again. Ill give you some examples of things said and done that make me think this could be something more then another weekend girlfriend. 1. She always contacts me first. She is super beautiful so I always make her wait a little. That works amazingly and she is definitely craving and competing for my attention. 2. Last weekend out of the blue she mentions and I had stroked her face in the morning and said that she never needs to wear makeup because she is truly beautiful just waking up. She said it really was surprising coming from me and it was the best compliment she has ever received. 3. We hung out during the superbowl just talking and enjoying eachother. After the game was over she is smiling ear to ear looking at me. I asked her what she was grinning at. She said, "The sexiest man alive, I waited all night and you never once even looked at the game, I cant believe it!". Then jumped out of her chair and attacked me on the spot. Girls help me out this felt like some kinda weird test you do occasionally. 4. 9am Monday morning as shes driving back home to work I get the text... I miss you already! 5. She told me she was going to miss my shirt. Later in the conversation she admitted to sleeping in it these past few weeks. <DANGER> 6. She does the lean in put her head on your shoulder/chest and take a deep breath thing. I think the girls will know what Im talking about here. Its that super contented cuddle sigh thing you all do from time to time. And this can happen even randomly while just talking. But all that said there are mixed signals too. Like at one point she said "dont look at me like that, I know that look". I told her she could be real trouble for me. She went on to describe me and say if that guy looked at her the way I just did it could be real trouble for her. And that she didnt like me at all. Flirty but a definite warning too. She knows the attraction game and she is quite possibly the devil. Ive literally never met anyone as challenging or that I clicked with on this level. The problem is one or both of us will run soon. And we are so much alike and shared some pretty significant character flaws. Im really good up until this point but past it no one is worst except possibly her. Last time I felt like this about someone I said screw it and went for it. We spent 14 year together, traveled the world, and had 2 children. And as our mutual friends say this is two trains heading right for eachother. So what is she really up to? How do I proceed without scaring her off or running away myself? This is one of those things where we will push/pull and hot and cold eachother to death. No one is probably ever going to say what they feel first. One last thing. She has been telling for 2 weeks how unhappy she is at her new law firm. I know she still has her house here. And she keeps asking me what I think she should do. I feel like she asking if I want her to move back to town. But you know I haven't opened myself up in a long time so maybe Im just seeing stuff that isnt there and over thinking. What do you think?
ja123 Posted February 5, 2014 Posted February 5, 2014 I think you're squirming because you really like her and do not have your usual sense of "control": scary and dangerous territory, no? But, I say keep going with it: allow yourself to feel uncomfortable. You never know what might happen: no pain, no gain. Good luck!
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