My dumper ex sent me a text which I don't know how to interpret

[xtashax3]

Just over a week ago my boyfriend broke up with me completely out of the blue. He said he doesn't love me anymore and just doesn't feel the same. I was devastated but this is the 3rd time he has broken up with me. From previous experience I knew not to cry and beg and I have barely spoken to him since. I don't regret at all getting back together with him as we had been happy together for 2 years after the last break up. I told him when we broke up that if he changes his mind about us to let me know and we could try and work it out.

Last night he sent me a text at 3 in the morning saying "Breaking NC. Miss talking to you. I keep looking at your reddit posts. We can't talk I shouldn't text... Ahhh ****. Just letting you know"

His message has really upset me because I want it to mean that he is regretting the break up and he isn't happier without me and he is realising what hes lost. But I think in my heart I know it just means he misses me.

 

I would love to get back together and I don't really know how I should have interpreted that message.

[TaraMaiden]

You interpret it by ignoring it, deleting it, blocking his number and deleting him off your 'phone.

There are apps you can get which also block texts, because blocking a number doesn't always do it.... but if he's your ex, he's yanking your chain, and basically saying "notice me, notice me, notice me!!" and going for the Ego-feed.

 

You have to take the bull by the horns and kick him to the kerb. Give him no way to get to you.

 

Read the NC Guide in my signature.

 

Follow it to the letter.

 

THAT'S how you do it.

[jphcbpa]

ignore.

 

once is a fluke, twice is a coincidence and three times is a pattern.

[acrosstheuniverse]

He is just messing with you. Ignore it completely. My recent ex rang me the night he left me sobbing down the phone 'I don't know if I've made a mistake', I told him that I wasn't a person that could help him with that anymore and not to get back in touch unless he was begging me for a second chance, and that even then I didn't know how I'd feel. He didn't, it was just the shock of losing someone from his life he'd spent so much time with.

 

If he wanted to be with you he'd be making it abundantly clear, trying to see you, apologising like crazy. Not sending you a text. But from what you've said about multiple breakups I'd be wary of getting back together even if he did that. He is probably just testing to see if you are still missing him, to see if he COULD get you back, even though he doesn't want you anymore. Ignore.

[DontWorryBHappy]

Don't respond to that. He basically told you not to directly by saying "We shouldn't talk." He knows his message is lame, and he thinks you're going to respond (that's why he sent it at all). Have you always responded in the past after a break up when he's texted? Well this time, don't. I would go as far as saying: Don't respond to ANYTHING he sends for at least a month. You need time to reflect on why break ups keep happening with this guy and why he always initiates them. And he obviously needs to time to get himself together. You both need that time. I know it's hard (I promised not to say or respond to a word from my ex for a month but I occasionally have the urge to say something still….). But keep moving.

[pickflicker]

Nothing to interpret. Delete, ignore, and forward.

[seekingpeaceinlove]

Rather than trying to evaluate a worthless txt msg you should evaluate yourself and figure out why you would "love to get back together" with someone who has now chosen to leave you for the 3rd time.

 

My ex broke up with me numerous times before the final blow. I loved him and hung on to him hoping that I could inspire him to change somehow if I put in enough effort. WRONG.

 

I should have loved myself enough to say, " Peace out," the first time he broke up. After that first time he held all the power in the relationship. I felt like he had one foot out the door the whole time and I didn't have enough self esteem to realize that I deserved better.

 

This is not the right man for you and you need to repeat this to yourself over and over again. Love yourself. Your ex has chosen time and time again to leave you. Don't let him come back and break your heart all over again.

 

Block him and go NC. Accept that this is not the right man for you. The right man will choose to stay with you always.

 

Take this time to heal and strengthen yourself. Love yourself enough to never allow anyone else to put you through the emotional wringer again.

[ithappenedagain]

Sounds to me like that was more of a ''drunk text'' as opposed to his heart really talking.. you know?

[BC1980]

Just the fact that this is the 3rd time he has broken up with you says it all. Let this go completely.

[Inviv_girl]

Why do you want to go back to someone who doesn't love you anymore?!?

 

He will leave you again and worse..

 

You deserve better and stop interpret anything about that stupid text. It doesn't mean anything good.

 

He just want to know if you still bite his hook and be his doormat.