I am very down and hard on myself...and i need someone to help me lighten up

[SmilingMartin]

Hey,

 

As of yesterday I have been really hard on myself and I have been very down and just on the verge of just breaking down. I guess there are 3 reasons why this is.

 

1) Yesterday my band had a concert. We played with 3 other bands. When my band got on stage we just did terrible. We didnt play our 100% and i felt that we were playing to our best. The audience loved us and said that we did a good job, but the band members know that we didnt and now we are very dissapointed in ourselves. We've played 5 other shows and we were very happy with our performances. I am just dissapointed in myself and i am being very hard on myself

 

2) I really miss one of my best friend (Girl) we went from being best friends to being more than friends to not talking at all. She doesnt even call just to say hi or to ask how i have been doing. This just bums me out

 

3) The same girl that i am missing did not even bother to show up at my concert.

 

I dont know why i am being hard on myself and why i am very down.

 

Could someone please help?

[Merin]

I know you said that your entire band was disappointed in the performance.. but I do wonder if your performance that evening was effected by the fact that this girl didn't come to see you play

 

While I also haven't any idea why you and your friend are no longer speaking.. I would also point out to you that IF you're not calling her to say hello, or see how she is.. for all you know she could be feeling the same way about you and wondering why you no longer call her.

 

So with that said.. my advice is to call her and tell her you've missed her and wonder how she is.

 

Good Luck

[Zoot]

Your career choice performance has nothing to do with your love life. Separate it or you will never see any dreams come true. The band may not have been perfect or to your expectation. This has NOTHING to do with a 'girl' showing up. MOVE ON and follow your dreams. Work on your dreams and talents. One day maybe she'll hear you on the radio and know she missed the good deal.

[jesusfist]

well for no.1 the saying i love "even monkeys fall from trees", and the others i cant help you there but to cheer yourself up look for the "benny hill tv show theme song" < god damn hilarious

[whichwayisup]

Just say...OK well we feel we didn't have a great show...Maybe the energy just wasn't there...BUT the next shows IT will be. Everyone will put in 101% and it will be great!

 

I know it is hard to let go of someone that you really want to be in your life. Maybe she is going through some things and can't handle the friendship right now. Just let her know you are there for her and when she is ready to talk you will be her friend. Until she comes around again, try your hardest to keep busy...If you find yourself thinking about her more and more, write about it!!! You're in a band! What a perfect way to deal with emotions of being hurt.

 

Hope this helps. Hang in there! Break a leg for your next show!