NYyanks819 Posted February 4, 2014 Posted February 4, 2014 Hey guys I am on day 27 of NC furthest I have ever gone, and just wondering if this is similar I feel the hardest part of NC is when you have a bad day, things don't go well etc is when you want to text, check social media see how they are etc. But when things go well let's say business or work is good, you have other women to talk to, or giving you attention then it is rather easy to stay away? Just want to see if this is the same.. On a side note I feel I am getting better and not thinking so much of the happy times with this person!
forever_lost Posted February 4, 2014 Posted February 4, 2014 For me, the hardest part is when I'm by myself and wondering what she is up to - doesn't matter if my day is good or not. It's actually worse when my day is good because I wish I could call her and tell her about it. It's absolutely the easiest when I'm with friends I'm comfortable with, especially if we are doing something active/immersive. Even chatting with them on social media has helped. 3
SadNLonley Posted February 4, 2014 Posted February 4, 2014 Hey guys I am on day 27 of NC furthest I have ever gone, and just wondering if this is similar I feel the hardest part of NC is when you have a bad day, things don't go well etc is when you want to text, check social media see how they are etc. But when things go well let's say business or work is good, you have other women to talk to, or giving you attention then it is rather easy to stay away? Just want to see if this is the same.. On a side note I feel I am getting better and not thinking so much of the happy times with this person! Wow, today has been 77 days of NC. I am getting better with it. Unfortunately, just 10 days ago I almost contacted him because I needed support and he was the first one I thought of to do that. Thank goodness I didnt, but I do find that when Im busy or concentrating on other things, I dont think about him as much. I think about him at bedtime when Im just laying in bed watching tv. The heartache isnt as bad as it was, so hopefully Im on my way to getting better.
Author NYyanks819 Posted February 4, 2014 Author Posted February 4, 2014 Yeah I agree by yourself is the hardest.. For example when I am out and about talking to other women, busy with my business etc I seem to not think about her. It is when I have that idle or free time like at night, etc when it is the hardest.
Author NYyanks819 Posted February 4, 2014 Author Posted February 4, 2014 I am also using dating sites as a way to cope, for example if I think of her etc Instead of checking her social media I will go on Ok cupid or something and message a few new women, even if I don't go out with them just to help cope with the void.. I think it is helping here and there
Tae Posted February 4, 2014 Posted February 4, 2014 Hi guys, it's my first post on this site... i was lurking on and off here for a while... Yeah, It's been 46 days of NC... It's harder on days when I am not at the gym. After a workout I feel the easiest and happiest. It's getting harder for me everyday now actually. Although my friends try to cheer me up, I am not motivated to go out and have fun with them. I never really enjoyed going out and drinking without my ex when I was in a relationship.
Tae Posted February 4, 2014 Posted February 4, 2014 I am also using dating sites as a way to cope, for example if I think of her etc Instead of checking her social media I will go on Ok cupid or something and message a few new women, even if I don't go out with them just to help cope with the void.. I think it is helping here and there Yea I started using POF, and I agree it helps me too sometimes
Author NYyanks819 Posted February 4, 2014 Author Posted February 4, 2014 Yeah I use both too, and at first I didn't want to because I thought my ex would see it and think how desperate I am but now I don't care it is not about them it is about me and moving on.. If it helps to fill the void then that is what I need to do. I actually look forward to going out on weekends, it really does keep me distracted with my friends by talking to other women etc.. it is just on Sundays I struggle since that is usually a relationship day..
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