Weightlesswings Posted February 4, 2014 Posted February 4, 2014 My boyfriend (of a year today) has been going through an extremely rough time and I really want to exaggerate how rough it has been. However, he's been really angry because of it and taking it out on me when all I do is try to help him and always be there for him. Today he spoke rudely to me and I told him there was no need to speak like that to me. I wasn't mean about it I calmly said it and he flipped out at me. He was telling me he wasn't rude and he threw my shoes towards me and said THATS BEING RUDE, after that I just said that I was leaving and going home In the middle of the street he went off at me, I've never been yelled at like that before in my life I was actually frightened and he kept going on while I was obviously tearing up and not even replying to anythjng he was saying. Then he flipped it at me for not seeing if he was okay after he cracked the ****s and yelled at me. And he'll crack the ****s because I haven't called him to see if he's okay now. But he shouldn't flip out at me like that so he should be the one calling me. All I said was no need to be rude. I have no idea what to do. He kept telling me that he's been through so much the last month but I just didn't like the way he spoke to me, and even if I took what he said the wrong way there is NO reason to flip out on someone who does everything right by you like that.
Author Weightlesswings Posted February 4, 2014 Author Posted February 4, 2014 No. That's another reason why he's been extra angry.
pickflicker Posted February 4, 2014 Posted February 4, 2014 No. That's another reason why he's been extra angry. Look, I really think you need to consider dating someone else. Or being single for a while. In 12 months he's been a pot-head, had anger issues, and been unsupportive when you needed him. And you're expecting a change to happen in a few months. Ditch him. There are better people, with far less baggage.
Author Weightlesswings Posted February 4, 2014 Author Posted February 4, 2014 Look, I really think you need to consider dating someone else. Or being single for a while. In 12 months he's been a pot-head, had anger issues, and been unsupportive when you needed him. And you're expecting a change to happen in a few months. Ditch him. There are better people, with far less baggage. I guess he doesn't realise and never will realise how lucky he is to have a girl like me.
pickflicker Posted February 4, 2014 Posted February 4, 2014 I guess he doesn't realise and never will realise how lucky he is to have a girl like me. It's been 12 months of fairly sh*tty behaviour. Plenty of time to get it together and change. How long are you going to wait?
Author Weightlesswings Posted February 4, 2014 Author Posted February 4, 2014 It's been 12 months of fairly sh*tty behaviour. Plenty of time to get it together and change. How long are you going to wait? I'm not going to wait for him to change anymore. He's had plenty of time to calm down and call me and apologise and he hasn't.
pickflicker Posted February 4, 2014 Posted February 4, 2014 I'm not going to wait for him to change anymore. He's had plenty of time to calm down and call me and apologise and he hasn't. Well, I think you just need to walk away. He's got issues. He needs to fix them, but right now, they are your issues too, and they don't need to be.
Eivuwan Posted February 4, 2014 Posted February 4, 2014 Beware, even if he apologizes the cycle will likely restart in the future. You're better off walking away. My boyfriend is going through a lot of stress too and he never flipped out on me like that.
Author Weightlesswings Posted February 4, 2014 Author Posted February 4, 2014 Beware, even if he apologizes the cycle will likely restart in the future. You're better off walking away. My boyfriend is going through a lot of stress too and he never flipped out on me like that. The things that have happened are pretty bad and I don't feel uncomfortable explaining them here. He's honestly never flipped out like this before and it's really hit me hard. Especially because I'm sitting crying in bed on our one year and he hasn't even tried to call me to see if I'm okay... I was driving home bawling my eyes out anything could've happened.
darkmoon Posted February 4, 2014 Posted February 4, 2014 (edited) I agree with him, then he threw the shoes to explain this - listen to him 100% or cut out another bit of the 100% but I bet you want to dictate to him about being rude you will lose him if you contradict him over this, I tune out those Alice In Wonderland "off with their heads" types too, prissy and self-righteous, friendly warning here just say "yes okay" to him Edited February 4, 2014 by darkmoon
Author Weightlesswings Posted February 4, 2014 Author Posted February 4, 2014 I agree with him, then he threw the shoes to explain this - listen to him 100% or cut out another bit of the 100% but I bet you want to dictate to him about being rude you will lose him if you contradict him over this, I tune out those Alice In Wonderland "off with their heads" types too, prissy and self-righteous, friendly warning here just say "yes okay" to him What.....?
nescafe1982 Posted February 4, 2014 Posted February 4, 2014 Anger like that is dangerous. I'd get some serious distance from him. Immediately. Don't put up with abuse. It gets worse.
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