into my third month bu

[btvdts]

its been a little over 3 months now since she broke up with me. I moved from Texas to North Carolina a week later after the bu. I have not heard a thing from her since I left and I haven't tried to contact her/ or do the social media stalking. now a days I find myself thinking less and less of her. I guess I'm lucky because I know many people here have run in's with their ex's or have memories all over the place where they live. I would like to say that though that's true, everyone believes their pain is the worst. why? well when I first got here, I kept thinking to myself, wow I have nothing here to remind me of her, yet she was still everywhere for me. well.. the absence of her. even though I knew I wouldn't see her anywhere, my first few weeks consisted of me cowering away from the world. I would just leave my apartment when I had to. I think a lot of people do that though. I would always hope that whenever my phone buzzed, that it would be her. I don't do that anymore. because I "lost" myself in the relationship, it was difficult at first for me to get back on my feet especially since I didn't know anyone around, but with time I realized I was only miserable because I wouldn't do anything about it. slowly I started to put my life back together(still doing that by the way, its a slow process). I've gone out a couple of times(not dates) just with people I've met and been trying to do what makes me happy. yes, it still saddens me to this day how things ended. I no longer know the girl whom I loved whole heartly, and honestly I have not forgiven her yet for the treatment in the end but I know someday I will...the day I go indifferent I assume. to wrap things up... wounds heal, emotions fade, and someday, they will become a thing of the past... I'm 28, shy, average looking, and don't have my life together(did military for 10 years now college). point of that is that women aren't lining up to date me, and I may get a few more down the road, but i'll never know unless I make myself available..

[notthathard]

Nice, the third month was the best for me. It's where I got to indifference.

 

Don't make your self sound so average dude. I guarantee your not. Work on that shyness as it's probably the only thing that is holding you back from finding your dream woman, which your ex wasn't.