VirginiaBob Posted January 15, 2005 Posted January 15, 2005 One woman that I asked out called and cancelled our first date beforehand (she had a valid excuse, supposedly) so I figured that it was her way of saying no and I wouldn't ever hear from her again, right? I have no problem with that since I am keeping a large pool of women available for me right now. But then she contacts me by phone later that week and asks me out for a date, apologizing for cancelling the first one. So I get up this morning and put some time aside for her for our lunch date that I could have spent with someone else, and I call her up to find out the more specific plans (where we will actually meet) and she is not there. I left a message and no callback. No cancellation call in advance either, of course. If she isn't interested, I'm absolutely indifferent, but why would she call me up for another date and then blow me off? I would have had no problem if she she cancelled the first date and I never heard from her again. Is this just a case of her being inconsiderate? One cancellation, I could understand, but 2 without any phone call on the 2nd one, that's just silly.
alphamale Posted January 15, 2005 Posted January 15, 2005 Well VB, welcome to the wonderful world of females. I would call the biatch and tell her off, say you cancelled other plans for her and that she is a kunt.
Merin Posted January 15, 2005 Posted January 15, 2005 This isn't the "Wonderful World of Females" This is the "Wonderful World of ****ers" VB This girl obviously is an inconsiderate ****er.. IF she calls again, UNLESS someone had died or she was tied up naked in a closet.. well on second thought.. yeah.. UNLESS someone had died I would tell her you're not down for BS games, wish her luck and not give it another thought.
BoatingBabe Posted January 15, 2005 Posted January 15, 2005 Originally posted by Merin VB This girl obviously is an inconsiderate ****er.. IF she calls again, UNLESS someone had died or she was tied up naked in a closet.. well on second thought.. yeah.. UNLESS someone had died I would tell her you're not down for BS games, wish her luck and not give it another thought. I agree...I hate inconsiderate people. My cop is startng the bull**** games too now...doesn't call when he says he will...but then calls out of the blue, and expects me to drop everything to see him...Not gonna happen...so I'm thinking of throwing him back...Only thing that sucks is we made plans to go away next month, Not just he and I, but a group of us. So I guess I can act like I give a **** until the trip is over and then blow him off for good.
_Saffy_ Posted January 15, 2005 Posted January 15, 2005 maybe she read the post about dating fugly women and changed her mind
Mustard Bomb Posted January 15, 2005 Posted January 15, 2005 VB, She's just not into you. Next her, and move on. If you are a tiny man, tell her off. If you a larger man, just move on and figure it's her loss. You've got lots of women, if you are a true alpha man, and cannot waste ten valuable minutes telling off this loser chick.
Groovy Posted January 15, 2005 Posted January 15, 2005 This is not a woman's behavior only. I agree, it should never be tolerated. I wouldn't tolerate in a friend why should I in a date? Unfortunately society is just rude. I have rules. They cancel once with warning they get another chance. But if they do it twice, it is over. The last guy I dated for a few weeks did it twice and I said I need to be with someone who respects my time and appreciates me so have a nice life! If a guy cancels with no notice, he never gets another chance unless there was a car accident or some other very valid story. Sorry that happened, that sucks.
agnf666 Posted January 15, 2005 Posted January 15, 2005 Originally posted by _Saffy_ maybe she read the post about dating fugly women and changed her mind Maybe she thought that she was the fugly one. You never know who is on these forums.
moimeme Posted January 15, 2005 Posted January 15, 2005 Gee. A guy who prides himself on jerkdom complaining when a woman behaves like a jerk. Now, by your philosophy, you will continue to slaver after her and ache for her attention since she treats you like dirt. No? So maybe being treated like garbage by a jerk is not what people want? Ya think?
agnf666 Posted January 15, 2005 Posted January 15, 2005 It sounds like that's the kind of relationships he's into the. I always went with relationships are 50/50. The both of you are suppose to put half the effort into it. VB forget about her there are more fugly women in the world that are just waiting for you....
Mustard Bomb Posted January 15, 2005 Posted January 15, 2005 Originally posted by VirginiaBob Is this just a case of her being inconsiderate? . It's peculiar, and challenging in a good way. You're a bit of test to posting prowress. I would advise any woman not to be with you, but in this instance, you were correct and polite, and she was silly. I maintain that you should NEXT her. Seriously, women tend to treat men this way, or at least I do, when I could not care less what they think of my manners. It's a dreadful bet. Your odds are very bad - Move on!
HokeyReligions Posted January 16, 2005 Posted January 16, 2005 Since you have such a large pool from which to choose, forget about her and cast your line again. That should'nt be too difficult for you.
Groovy Posted January 16, 2005 Posted January 16, 2005 I haven't ever treated any that way. If I am that disinterested than I have no plans with them.
Author VirginiaBob Posted January 16, 2005 Author Posted January 16, 2005 Yea, I guess that's the point - why bother calling me and rescheduling plans? Truth be told, I don't even know her well enough to even say that I'm interested in her, so it doesn't really matter too much at this point. Oh yea, and to those the criticize me for keeping a pool of women available to date, what's the big problem with that? I haven't made any commitments to them, so why should I choose just one? This is my testing period basically to see which one rises as the cream of the crop.
Groovy Posted January 16, 2005 Posted January 16, 2005 I don't see anything wrong about that. I'd say you've been plenty rude to people including myself though.
whichwayisup Posted January 16, 2005 Posted January 16, 2005 VB, don't give this woman a second thought...If she calls you in a week or so and gives you a good excuse of why she stood you up...Then maybe consider going out with her again. But in the meantime, date away, have fun and you never know, you may really click with one of the ladies and it will be wonderful!!!
Author VirginiaBob Posted January 16, 2005 Author Posted January 16, 2005 She called me today right after I got home from church. Her excuse was that her cell phone carrier just changed and in the process, it got turned off while changing and she apologized alot. I talked to her for awhile after that - just small talk. She asked what I was doing this week, and I told her I have class on Mon and Wed night, and didn't really discuss the other days with her. At the end of the conversation, she said she was going to call me again tonight after she gets home from work - yes she is working on Sunday. I don't know if I should blow her off or what. The only problem is that we really click in our conversations we have on the phone more than I have with anyone else I am dating, but I don't want to lose any more self-respect over this either. In light of these recent events, any advice?
jellybean Posted January 16, 2005 Posted January 16, 2005 Aw...she sounds like she really likes you Bob! And heck, that's very possible ya know - her waiting by the phone yesterday for your call to discuss the arrangements for the date - but little did she know her phone was out of service. I say : give her the benefit of the doubt, and another chance. I don't expect others to agree with me, tho
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