Love vs depression

[GNT]

Hey all.

 

I know that depression is difficult but I would appreciate some advice. I'll keep this as basic as I can.

 

I had been dating my boyfriend for just over a year when out of the blue two weeks ago he ended it. His reasons were that he felt he wanted to be on his own and that he didn't want anyone to rely on him or worry about him but at the same time his feelings hadn't changed. He's been suffering from depression for many years and stopped taking his tablets in September. He has now decided (thankfully) that he does need to start taking anti-depressants again to try and help him. I was totally confused as to why he ended it because just the weekend before (less than 5 days before our break up) we had spent a wonderful weekend away together in the country and he talked about and disccussed our future together.

 

Many of my friends and his friends have different views on this but one particular friend who lived with him for a while said that sometimes he gets like this where he pushes everyone away so that have me some hope that mate he just needed some space and time.

 

We spoke on the phone a few days ago. We spoke further about our relationship and we discussed what we should do. When he said he didn't think anything had changed, I asked him why. On my first attempt he don't reply, on my second I asked him bluntly if it was because his feelings had changed and he didnt care about me anymore he said that wasn't it . The conversation continued and he said something that made me think and I said just be totally honest with me, it's because you don't care about me anymore isn't it? And he replied 'I guess so, yes'. It was the answer I needed to be able to cope but I am totally lost and confused as, as I said in the new year and on our weekend away he was discussing the future.

 

What do people make of this? He has obviously broke my heart but I do worry about him still and he still wans to be friends, to see me from time to time and talk to me. Thoughts would be great please as I am totally lost right now.

 

Thanks

 

GNT

[sportzhl24]

It sounds to me like he just wants out. I'm really sorry. Obviously you still have feelings for him so like everybody else will tell you on here, go NC. Just give him all the space in the world. I feel like that is the only thing that will improve your situation. Do not be friends with him. Trust me. Friends with an ex is like living in the sahara desert. That s*** sucks yo. Just take time to heal and focus on yourself and your own life. Let him figure his s*** out on his own. He has some issues so just give him space. You are going to be ok. Remember that

[pickflicker]

You need to go no contact. If you still love him and he doesn't want a relationship, then you need to go full-on no contact and cut him from your life.