EuTuBrute Posted February 3, 2014 Posted February 3, 2014 Maybe i need to vent but i'm having a really bad day. Quick background 10 months post BU after a 2.5 year relationship. I think reality has set in. First she is not coming back; and the thought of that really sucks. She wanted to get coffee 8 months post BU but it just ended up with her starting a text fight with me the day before we were going to meet up about something stupid on Facebook. Secondly, unless some act of god, i'm not going to find someone remotely like her. She was a beautiful girl... I know i'm being shallow but i seem to not attract anyone as beautiful as she was. Sorry for the rant, just it sucks in the dating world and i know we were a great couple, i think she just got board (maybe GIGS who knows). Being in love with someone who doesn't love you back just sucks. She was my everything, and having that stripped away from you is the worst pain ever.
sportzhl24 Posted February 4, 2014 Posted February 4, 2014 Hey man I know what you're going through. I lost my gf too, a very very beautiful girl. But you have got to realize that there are so many girls out there. And you will find one that will love you more than your ex ever did. Maybe she won't be as visually striking as your ex, maybe she will, who knows, but that doesn't matter. All that matters is that your ex doesn't love you anymore, doesn't want to be with you, and you DONT want to be with somebody who doesn't want you back. You've got to realize that relationships end all the time. Think about all the people on this site that have loved and lost. All the people who had wonderful incredible relationships with beautiful people, and then it all turns to ****. You are not alone. Take comfort in the fact that your situation isn't all that unique! So your ex was pretty. So what? Think about all the beautiful women out there in the world. You are going to be fine brotha. Stay strong and keep it real. This kind of thing happens to almost everybody in life. Nothing lasts forever. Stay true to yourself and heal.
Kevin_D Posted February 4, 2014 Posted February 4, 2014 Watch some porn. Seriously. This is what I always do. Why? Because you'll quickly realise there are thousands of super hot young girls willing to do really nasty stuff just to earn a few hundred bucks. Beautiful women are not rare. They are everywhere. And even though it may seem that they can get anyone or anything they want, that's usually not the case. What's hard to find, is a girl who is both beautiful and intelligent. And obviously your ex, just like mine, turned out to an idiot. Otherwise they don't leave because they are "bored".
imatradie81 Posted February 4, 2014 Posted February 4, 2014 Maybe i need to vent but i'm having a really bad day. Quick background 10 months post BU after a 2.5 year relationship. I think reality has set in. First she is not coming back; and the thought of that really sucks. She wanted to get coffee 8 months post BU but it just ended up with her starting a text fight with me the day before we were going to meet up about something stupid on Facebook. Secondly, unless some act of god, i'm not going to find someone remotely like her. She was a beautiful girl... I know i'm being shallow but i seem to not attract anyone as beautiful as she was. Sorry for the rant, just it sucks in the dating world and i know we were a great couple, i think she just got board (maybe GIGS who knows). Being in love with someone who doesn't love you back just sucks. She was my everything, and having that stripped away from you is the worst pain ever. Go to the gym mate, get fit, get tough, work on your confidence. Start dating other girls. I know its the last thing you feel like doing but it will help so much.
AlexfromBoston Posted February 4, 2014 Posted February 4, 2014 "unless some act of god, i'm not going to find someone remotely like her. She was a beautiful girl... I know i'm being shallow but i seem to not attract anyone as beautiful as she was." Well this one line says it all...you lost sight of who you are as a man. You are no longer the alpha male that drover her wild, you are now a beta male in her eyes. You lost your confidence. Why can't you find someone as pretty as her? Whats the problem? Too over weight? Bad skin/hygiene? Speech impediment? What is it? Hey, if you suffer from any of the above, you can fix it with some hard work and dedication. So basically it all boils down to this: with your attitude you will never re-attract your ex or any other women for that matter. So starting tomorrow, you are going to work on your confidence and your physical appearance. Now, in the interim, go out with friends and have fun. Talk to women, mix it up and work on your confidence. Go to the gym and work hard, change your wardrobe, clear up your skin and become testosterone-fueled alpha man that every women wants. Brush up on current affairs, politics, world news etc...and carry this knowledge as if it was a loaded gun. Now, after a few months of NC, working out and attracting other gorgeous women, ask yourself, "do I really want my ex back?" If so, then casually break NC and invite her for coffee or drinks...just to catch up. When you do meet up with her, remain calm, confident and wow her with your new look and style. She got sick of the monotony of it all...and quite possibly your lack of confidence. Break the cycle and be the man that she wants.
CelticGibson Posted February 4, 2014 Posted February 4, 2014 First of all: You can do nothing to force her to change her mind. What you can do, is follow the advice on this thread. Make yourself a prize for her. Let her see what she's missing but keep in mind that you must do this for you too. Anyway, you might just find that as you try to attract her again, you are attracting others and they might just blow you away too... Secondly: You know, there is going to come a day when looks won't matter as much as you think they do. You will learn that personality and that magnetic zest for life will be just as attractive as a cute face ever will be. Yes you were attracted to one aspect of this girl and you think that you need this in order to ever look at another, well you may be surprised. I fell for a girl who had only one breast because of cancer. It never even bothered me, I was so bowled over by her smile, her cheeky personality, her zest for life that I never once ever thought any less of her. I couldn't get enough of her. In fact she ended it with me, in the end so there you go. Beautiful packages do not always come skin deep... Keep that in mind for the future...
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