hea Posted February 3, 2014 Posted February 3, 2014 Hi guys! I just want some reassurance this is nothing. He split up with me because he felt he was no longer attracted to me. For three months HE text ME once a week with things like, I love you, miss you, don't understand why we didn't work etc, but still didn't want me. I've never begged or anything and been really mature about the situation. I told him I had been on a date and the texting stopped. It had been three weeks NC and tonight he just text me with how are you? I've replied and we've had a bit of chit chat, all pleasant and I said my battery was going so I'd best say bye so I did. Can you all ensure me this is nothing and he was just being friendly? These past few weeks no contact have been really good for me and I'm scared I'm going to overthink this. I don't now want to be spending hours over analysing it all when it means nothing. If he wanted me back he'd say right? I've deleted the messages already so I don't re read over and over again.
blackpajamas Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 He's ensuring he "won" the breakup. The fact he stopped when you told him you went on a date showed his true colors. He's just stroking his ego by texting you those things. Maybe he's feeling a little lonely, or just wants to bolster his self-esteem. Don't text this clown back. If he wanted to be with you, he'd be with you. 1
allcriedout1 Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 I've been reading on here that the "how are you" text is just a bread crumb. If he wanted to be with you he would flat out say it. Today is 10 days NC for me. My NC clock has started over several times. I am trying to remain strong.
Author hea Posted February 23, 2014 Author Posted February 23, 2014 Some of you may heave read some of my previous threads. My ex is two years younger and he split with me five months ago because he was no longer attracted to me. When he split, for three months after he initiated contact and always brought the convo back to us, that he still loved me, missed me, had a life planned for us. Anyway at new year I told him I had been on a date and he said after a bit of blabbing, he had finally realised we won't be getting back together. Even though he broke us up? Maybe a week after that he text with a bit of chit chat and then I heard nothing for three weeks, he text me to see how I was. a further two weeks NC and he text to tell me something about his job, I replied politely, once and that was it. That was on Tuesday. It has been 5 months since we split. Last night I got a big long text at four in the morning to tell me how sorry he was for everything he had put me through, and that he enjoyed the time we had spent together, but after speaking to his friend he realises he doesn't need to be in a relationship. WTF? What has that got to do with me? It was so out of the blue. And totally out of contex I don't understand it, So I asked him if the reason he split up with me because he wanted to be single. He said no. I asked him if he got back with me (we had previously split up for a year and he came back) because he wanted a gf. He said no. The reason for him splitting with me is still the same as it always has been, that he's not attracted to me. What the hell was the point of the apology then 5months on? Since he had continuously appologised when it happened. The dust had settled so there was no need for him to bring all this crap up again! Surely if you dumped someone, and still cared for them, you would stear clear. Or at least not bring the relationship up? We were really good together and he thinks so too. The only thing that's seems to be stopping it is that he's not attracted to me. Has anyone stopped being attracted to their bf/gf but still want to know them/be in their life? If I didn't want to be with someone that would be it for us being in each other's life. He keep reiterating that he wants to be friends and keep in touch. And by the sounds of it he would be hurt if I didn't. It makes no sense!! I'm so upset right now. I'd been ok for a few weeks but it's like he has broken my heart all over again. It's like he's dangling a carrot in front of a donkey and snaps it away at the last minute. Everything he describes us as a relationship, is everything I want. But then tells me he's not attracted to me.
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