kittykat22 Posted February 3, 2014 Posted February 3, 2014 So i have been dating this guy for about a month now and we've been on about 7 dates. Things are going great and we have a fun time together. The only downside is that he barely text/calls me. I have to initiate the conversation for him to actually text me. Granted he might not be a big texter, but if he liked me would he want to talk?
TaraMaiden Posted February 3, 2014 Posted February 3, 2014 Talk - or text? The two are completely opposite poles.....
Author kittykat22 Posted February 3, 2014 Author Posted February 3, 2014 is this also normal for the first couple months of dating? I'm just really bad at this stuff
TaraMaiden Posted February 3, 2014 Posted February 3, 2014 Next time you see him - talk to him about it. It may simply not be his bag.... How old is he/are you....? What is his job?
Zahara Posted February 3, 2014 Posted February 3, 2014 is this also normal for the first couple months of dating? I'm just really bad at this stuff 7 dates and a month of dating. If a guy is interested in you aside from having fun times when you are together, he's going to want to talk to you. He's going to be interested in getting to know you. He's going to want to keep communication open and get a momentum going. A guy that only communicates when it's time for fun is a guy that just wants to have fun. If you don't speak up about it, you are telling him that you are perfectly fine with the way things are. When you have expectations that aren't compatible, you end up with the short end of the stick. You got some good advice in your other threads. You can ask the question 20 different ways, and you'll get the same response. Speak to him as to how you feel and see if things change. The only way things can progress is if two people are invested in one another. Out of sight, out of mind doesn't quite fit the requirement. 1
TaraMaiden Posted February 3, 2014 Posted February 3, 2014 I've just checked your other threads, and the running theme is that basically you want reassurance that this guy is into you.... But you're not getting it. If you haven't got it by now, and he hasn't yet made you feel that he's really into you - then he's really not all that into you....
preraph Posted February 3, 2014 Posted February 3, 2014 ^what she said. I wouldn't judge anyone for not texting, but if he gave a crap, he'd be calling or emailing or texting or something. Remember these words: It is what it is. What it is is you have a guy who you are not satisfied with because he isn't communicating enough. So that's who he is and what he's doing, and you aren't happy, so that equals he is not the guy for you. For whatever reason. Move on.
Thegreatestthing Posted February 3, 2014 Posted February 3, 2014 (edited) Yes if he is into you,he will.if he doesn't indicates low interest,though sometimes I get busy. Edited February 3, 2014 by Thegreatestthing 1
tutrevealed Posted February 4, 2014 Posted February 4, 2014 Hi...does he call on the phone ? or is it no texting and no calling. Are you initiating all contact?
Fondue Posted February 4, 2014 Posted February 4, 2014 7 dates in 1 month? That's almost 2 dates a week. This guy is definitely into you. He's just not a big texter. Some people aren't into daily communication or texting as others. Not that it is wrong, just is what it is. You might want like it, he might not feel the same way. If this doesn't work for you, maybe you have to find a man more suitable to your communication standards. But you have to understand (along with everyone else, it seems), not being a big texter does NOT mean lack of interest. People keep confusing the two.
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