signal Posted February 3, 2014 Posted February 3, 2014 My gf told me on 10th jan she was seeing some one else. I went NC. She called me on the 15th I ignored. She text me on the 16th saying are we not going to talk even as friends, I ignored. This past week she has been texting my sister saying she's confused, she still loves me and misses me but still seeing that other person. She told my sister it was my fault for the break up, arguments ect I have gone 24 days NC I'm tempted to contact her after she messaged my sister What shall I do
lauri Posted February 3, 2014 Posted February 3, 2014 My gf told me on 10th jan she was seeing some one else. I went NC. She called me on the 15th I ignored. She text me on the 16th saying are we not going to talk even as friends, I ignored. This past week she has been texting my sister saying she's confused, she still loves me and misses me but still seeing that other person. She told my sister it was my fault for the break up, arguments ect I have gone 24 days NC I'm tempted to contact her after she messaged my sister What shall I do I love how she tries to reach out to your sister to justify her actions by trying to push the blame on you. Man,, she is just feeling guilty and hoping that you will turn around and tell her that its okay. All this will do is relieve her guilt and let her enjoy her time with the guy she was eyeing before she broke up with you. In my opinion, let her live with what she did and stay NC. All I know is this, talking to her will bring u minimal benefit. If you dont believe me, you can talk to her and see how fast she will disappear after she feels like you are cool with her breaking your heart and dating a new guy. Shes lost interest in you and there is nothing you can do yo bring it back up at this point. Focus your time and energy on someone who isn't out for themselves and can take responsibility for her actions. 2
herself Posted February 3, 2014 Posted February 3, 2014 agreed, I would never contact her again. Going through your sister is tacky when your action of ignoring her should have showed you were healing & not willung to feed off her breadcrumbs. She just wants to relieve her guilt & if you were such a bad guy per her blaming you...why is she bothering you then? And "Im confused" is code for...I want you to keep the door open for me to pop back into your life if it doesnt work out with the new guy & I can feel less bad about having sex with someone else then coming back to you...cause like I said, I was confused. She is proving her disloyalty to her new man, just as she was disloyal to you & she WILLdo it again cause shes disloyal & insecure which is also why she is shocked you arent speaking to her or begging her back. Your doing so great ask Your sis to block.her & you block her number & emails. You dont want to sleep with her after she banged some other duse. Yuck! Did you a favor! Next! 2
movingonnow1 Posted February 3, 2014 Posted February 3, 2014 I love how she tries to reach out to your sister to justify her actions by trying to push the blame on you. Man,, she is just feeling guilty and hoping that you will turn around and tell her that its okay. All this will do is relieve her guilt and let her enjoy her time with the guy she was eyeing before she broke up with you. In my opinion, let her live with what she did and stay NC. All I know is this, talking to her will bring u minimal benefit. If you dont believe me, you can talk to her and see how fast she will disappear after she feels like you are cool with her breaking your heart and dating a new guy. Shes lost interest in you and there is nothing you can do yo bring it back up at this point. Focus your time and energy on someone who isn't out for themselves and can take responsibility for her actions. Exactly what I was thinking...wow reminds me of my ex completely...all she did was push the blame off onto me and I actually started to believe her. Don't fall into this trap - its 100% her fault. agreed, I would never contact her again. Going through your sister is tacky when your action of ignoring her should have showed you were healing & not willung to feed off her breadcrumbs. She just wants to relieve her guilt & if you were such a bad guy per her blaming you...why is she bothering you then? And "Im confused" is code for...I want you to keep the door open for me to pop back into your life if it doesnt work out with the new guy & I can feel less bad about having sex with someone else then coming back to you...cause like I said, I was confused. She is proving her disloyalty to her new man, just as she was disloyal to you & she WILLdo it again cause shes disloyal & insecure which is also why she is shocked you arent speaking to her or begging her back. Your doing so great ask Your sis to block.her & you block her number & emails. You dont want to sleep with her after she banged some other duse. Yuck! Did you a favor! Next! She is disloyal to her man and was disloyal to you. Why is she even contacting your sister? I think she is getting desperate to get you to talk to her. The games some women play man... She is itching to play some games with you and rope you back in. The first one right now is by her talking to your sister and hoping you will be weak and crack. Be STRONG and have SELF CONTROL. I promise you if you do you will be way better off than talking to this girl.. 1
lauri Posted February 4, 2014 Posted February 4, 2014 Thank you all for the advice No problem. Maintain NC and if things happen again or you have hedges post on here
Author signal Posted February 9, 2014 Author Posted February 9, 2014 Aprox 29 days no contact.(7/8 year relationship) I logged on to her email account we both have the same password obviously she didnt change hers yet - she has booked a night out for 2 on valentines day to an evening show and new jewlrey. I'm heartbroken, broke down to my mum Tonight which was awkward. I'm embarrassed, scared and broken. At this stage I believe the good guys finish last
BodyBuilder101 Posted February 9, 2014 Posted February 9, 2014 agreed, I would never contact her again. Going through your sister is tacky when your action of ignoring her should have showed you were healing & not willung to feed off her breadcrumbs. She just wants to relieve her guilt & if you were such a bad guy per her blaming you...why is she bothering you then? And "Im confused" is code for...I want you to keep the door open for me to pop back into your life if it doesnt work out with the new guy & I can feel less bad about having sex with someone else then coming back to you...cause like I said, I was confused. She is proving her disloyalty to her new man, just as she was disloyal to you & she WILLdo it again cause shes disloyal & insecure which is also why she is shocked you arent speaking to her or begging her back. Your doing so great ask Your sis to block.her & you block her number & emails. You dont want to sleep with her after she banged some other duse. Yuck! Did you a favor! Next! Agreed with this poster in this situation.
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