Vittoryxe Posted February 3, 2014 Posted February 3, 2014 Hey, So, I overreact. I know this. The guy I've been seeing for a bit now didn't have any time to do anything all weekend, and I'm totally over-thinking and freaking out over nothing, I know. It's not that he didn't want to do something--he just had family stuff almost all weekend. We've been texting a lot, etc., but I really wanted to do something together. I'm just wondering if anyone else does the same thing--freaks out over nothing. I do a good job hiding it, but it's so distracting, and I'm wondering if anyone has ideas on how to I don't know, calm down? Stop worrying so much over nothings? Anything, really....this feeling sucks, especially since I know it's irrational.
newmoon Posted February 3, 2014 Posted February 3, 2014 do your hobbies or go shopping or talk with your girlfriends or whatever. why are you being clingy? he's texting you. don't be so dependent on your bf for entertainment. just get out and do things by yourself and you won't be bothered that he's busy. 1
MixedUpChick Posted February 3, 2014 Posted February 3, 2014 Take up some new hobbies or develop some new interests so you don't feel like you have to rely on him for your happiness & to keep you occupied. Having a significant other should enhance your life, not BE your life.
devilish innocent Posted February 3, 2014 Posted February 3, 2014 In a situation like that, I'd probably try to find something else to entertain myself with. Hang out with a friend. Take a road trip. Watch a movie. Read a book. Just try to find anything that's engrossing enough that your time passes more quickly. 1
d0nnivain Posted February 4, 2014 Posted February 4, 2014 Come up with better self talk. Logically work your way through it. For example: There was a BAD snow storm here today. I had to coordinate with DH to pick him up because one of our cars is in the shop. We texted back & forth over about 1/2 hour. I had a 2 hour drive to get to him without snow & traffic. When I passed certain landmarks at a faster pace then expected, I updated him. Over the next 1.5 hours I got no response & started to panic. I became increasing afraid that he had slipped & fallen on his short walk to the local train station & lost his phone or worse. I willed myself to breath & calm down. I reminded myself that emergency personnel would have answered the phone. Finally he called me with his e.t.a. He'd never realized I could be worried. It's easy to panic. But you can't just give in to it. 1
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