yokel Posted February 2, 2014 Posted February 2, 2014 Yeah so I just got dumped by my girlfriend. We agreed to still be friends, and no hard feelings exist. However, on my birthday, she gave me a picture of us together and I kept it. This probably sounds like an enormously stupid question but what do I do with it now?
TylerDurdenn Posted February 2, 2014 Posted February 2, 2014 Cover it in petrol and throw a lit match onto it. 2
Eternal Sunshine Posted February 2, 2014 Posted February 2, 2014 Gather it up with any other momentos you have and tear it into a 1000 little pieces. People say keep them but when I was leaving my ex's place (where we lived together).....I gathered every gift he or his parents ever gave me and left it in a pile in his room
ktya Posted February 2, 2014 Posted February 2, 2014 If you dont think that theres a chance youll get back together chuck it. I kept a box of momentos and cards from my ex fiancee for a year and it did nothing fornme except to lure me to look through it when i was lonely or sad, which made me feel lonier and sadder. She pissed me off and i threw all of it in the garbage and sold the engagement ring and i felt great afterwards.
soccerrprp Posted February 2, 2014 Posted February 2, 2014 Yeah so I just got dumped by my girlfriend. We agreed to still be friends, and no hard feelings exist. However, on my birthday, she gave me a picture of us together and I kept it. This probably sounds like an enormously stupid question but what do I do with it now? I would toss it. I can't help thinking that she's rubbing the break-up in your face. Why give a picture of the two of you????! Cruel....
SYLLPalmer Posted February 2, 2014 Posted February 2, 2014 To this day I regret tossing a pic I had of my first love laughing. I tossed it during the healing process but after I healed I regretted it. Twenty seven years later and I can still see the photo in my mind clearly. You could stick it in a dictionary and one day you will find it and it will make you smile. 1
newmoon Posted February 3, 2014 Posted February 3, 2014 you put it in a box or bag or whatever with everything else associated with the relationship and you move on. 1
Syreeni Posted February 3, 2014 Posted February 3, 2014 I would toss it. I can't help thinking that she's rubbing the break-up in your face. Why give a picture of the two of you????! Cruel.... Agreed. I would never think that was an appropriate gift. Its just so...revengey. If you must keep it..put it away out of sight. Part of me wants to say don't give her the satisfaction of seeing it displayed. I only say that because it seems like such an odd thing to give, that there has to be an agenda behind it. Unless she wants you back...then it makes sense. But since you are saying "What do I do with it?" That option is looking slim to none. And I still wouldn't display it because it might give her hope. Wow! We womenfolk are a complicated mess of overthinkers. And I think I might be their President Meanwhile, I keep momentos. When I do put them away, I don't look back. I see it as boxing up the relatonship, time to move forward. Sort of a last look through the emotions and a finality. But I can't bring myself to get rid of them entirely. Its all a part of me, my past, even the negative memories. Someday when I'm a very old women, it will be interesting to find them and reevaluate my feelings from that period of my life. Some of the memories are painful. Some too fresh. But they will not always be that way. Most of them anyways. Some of those feelings get carried with you, no box or trash bin can makes a difference in that. A lot of people don't keep a single photo. To each his own. What should you do with it? Whatever makes you feel most comfortable. Perhaps you already know what that is but are concerned you will regret it later? In that case...put it out of sight and decide later when it's more clear.
Author yokel Posted February 3, 2014 Author Posted February 3, 2014 I would toss it. I can't help thinking that she's rubbing the break-up in your face. Why give a picture of the two of you????! Cruel.... just clearing up that my birthday was before the breakup
soccerrprp Posted February 3, 2014 Posted February 3, 2014 just clearing up that my birthday was before the breakup Ah, okay. In the end though, do you want to keep a picture of the two of you as a constant reminder of times gone by? If you are trying to move on, i'd get rid of it. If you have no intention of ever looking at it again, I'd get rid of it.
pteromom Posted February 3, 2014 Posted February 3, 2014 I'd put it away in a box somewhere you won't see it, and see how you feel about it a couple years from now.
FitChick Posted February 4, 2014 Posted February 4, 2014 I save photos and put them away. Years later I might look at them and wonder "What was his name?" It's part of my history.
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