daterhater Posted January 15, 2005 Posted January 15, 2005 I don't even know where to begin with this story. I feel as if I should talk about myself since I'm evidently the one ****ing everything up. I'm a 22 year old girl. I've had one boyfriend. He dumped me. I'm attractive. I'm intelligent. I'm creative. I'm not a whore. I want one boyfriend to love... not a bunch of guys to ****. I play in a joke band that I created when I was bored. At a show in August, in walked a guy I recognized from Spin magazine. He plays in a band that's fairly popular. He caught my set and loved it. After I played, he introduced himself to me and we talked the rest of the night about everything under the sun. Eventually we kissed. We exchanged numbers. I of course didn't think he'd use my number. I thought if anything, it would be a story to tell my friends. Hot band guy actually dug me for a night. Plus he was leaving for a mont long tour of the US the next morning. He actually calls. We're both really shy on the phone. The conversation was awkward, but I thought since we hit it off that first night while were uh... under the influence of the drink that makes you lose inhibitions... we could work our way up to that. He called pretty much every day while he was on tour. Anyway, he gets back from tour and plays a show that I go to. We go on a walk. I hug goodbye. I don't see him for two months after that because he went on a European tour. In December, I played another show at the same bar which he came to. I said hi, but tried to ignore him the rest of the night since I felt dissed when he hadn't called me in two months. That's when he went up to my best friend and asked her if I hated him, if she thought it would be okay if he talked to me. Now it's January and he's here recording an album in the town I'm living at now. His recording schedule is usually recording the moment they wake up and ending it after 12. I have school and work. So, the first night he wanted to hang out, he didn't call until 1 and I told him I couldn't hang out. The second night he called, I came over to his studio. We were both shy and quiet and nervous. I'm just an antisocial nerd who avoids people for the most part. He is in a popular band that has made a name for itself. I'd never been more nervous.... though the fact that he was too was comforting. We watched movies and held hands and eventually he kissed me. He was so loving in everything he did. I felt like someone he cared for... not just a girl he wanted to ****. That night I fell asleep on his chest. That was the last time I saw him. last night i thought we'd hang out, but he didn't call until 2am since his friends had wanted to tour the studio. i told him i was in my pajamas so i didn't go out with him. Tonight, I figure OF COURSE we will hang out. I put my clothes on and got ready for his call... his predictable after 12 call. i ask him if he wants to hang out. "i hadn't really thought about it." WHAT???? isn't that the rudest thing a guy could say? he called to say he was tired and that he'd call me if he couldn't fall asleep. i've never been a very confident girl. i feel like if it's been so long since we kissed and we haven't seen eachother, he probably doesn't like me all that well. MY QUESTION.... is he giving me hints that he doesn't like me? should i give up? is it too early to send him an e-mail tonight to explain a little bit about myself so he knows why i'm no good at relationships? where do i go from here?
moimeme Posted January 15, 2005 Posted January 15, 2005 I think this is probably the life of a gf of an entertainer; particularly of the sort of entertainer who has to spend days in recording studios and weeks and months on tour. If you want a relationship, you will likely have to learn to manage this sort of spotty on-again off-again contact. You don't see that many stories of music stars managing to sustain long-term relationships that are real healthy, doubtless due to the lifestyle.
Author daterhater Posted January 15, 2005 Author Posted January 15, 2005 Originally posted by moimeme I think this is probably the life of a gf of an entertainer; particularly of the sort of entertainer who has to spend days in recording studios and weeks and months on tour. If you want a relationship, you will likely have to learn to manage this sort of spotty on-again off-again contact. You don't see that many stories of music stars managing to sustain long-term relationships that are real healthy, doubtless due to the lifestyle. that is true. i could handle not seeing him very much if only i knew how he felt about me now. though it's probably too soon to ask him to explain his motives and feelings for me. i want to be supportive of his music and i understand he needs to work his ass of recording this next album that could make or break his career, but we have not told eachother about our feelings for one another nor have we discussed "us." i just don't know if i should ever discuss it or give up now and pass it off as him not liking me.
moimeme Posted January 15, 2005 Posted January 15, 2005 This is what I mean. Why not pass it off as him being busy rather than as him not liking you?
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