nebulae Posted February 2, 2014 Posted February 2, 2014 What do you usually do? I'd love to have a valentine this year, never had one.
Grumpybutfun Posted February 2, 2014 Posted February 2, 2014 We do what we do everyday. We know that gestures are special when you do it on a Tuesday for no other reason than to see your lover smile. Don't put too much emphasis emotionally on this holiday as very few women get what they want on this day and most men find it burdensome and actually resent it. I hope you are going to do something for yourself to distract you from this unbelievable pressure you have put on yourself to find a man. Sometimes when we want something too much it becomes an obesession and obsessions aren't healthy. Go to a spa, get your nails done, hang out with your single friends, go hiking, take a drive along a coast...just don't make yourself depressed over your idea of what you think Valentines Day should be. Love should be celebrated everyday, especially love for yourself. You are enough just as you are, Grumps 3
just bird Posted February 2, 2014 Posted February 2, 2014 The best Valentine's day I ever had was spent with two good friends. We were all single and so we decided to go out for a meal together. We had one friend in our friendship group who had a boyfriend, and we didn't allow her to come out with us. She was a bit put out by this! We all got dressed up, bought and exchanged gifts, and toasted our love/ appreciation for each other. We caused a bit of curiosity in the pub we were eating in, but it was so much fun. Amusingly, many of our friends who were coupled up were so envious of our evening out! My advice would be not to buy into the media spin on Valentine's Day. If you wish to mark the day then do something empowering, do something you love doing, treat yourself, and/or spend time with the friend who makes you smile, the family member you feel most close to, or cuddle up with a pet whose love is unconditional (and not dependant on needing a 'special' day to say it).
Disillusioned Posted February 2, 2014 Posted February 2, 2014 For me, Valentine's is nothing more than the day before I get to score some cut-rate candy from the 99¢ stores. 1
Targetlock Posted February 2, 2014 Posted February 2, 2014 I'm probably gonna try and forget it doesn't exist, as for me it is the most loneliest day of the year with society constantly reminding you you are alone as well as everyone around you with their relationships. And no I've never had a romantic valentines day of any kind, sent cards and never received one and always alone. Hope everyone else has some luck.
Author nebulae Posted February 2, 2014 Author Posted February 2, 2014 We do what we do everyday. We know that gestures are special when you do it on a Tuesday for no other reason than to see your lover smile. Don't put too much emphasis emotionally on this holiday as very few women get what they want on this day and most men find it burdensome and actually resent it. I hope you are going to do something for yourself to distract you from this unbelievable pressure you have put on yourself to find a man. Sometimes when we want something too much it becomes an obesession and obsessions aren't healthy. Go to a spa, get your nails done, hang out with your single friends, go hiking, take a drive along a coast...just don't make yourself depressed over your idea of what you think Valentines Day should be. Love should be celebrated everyday, especially love for yourself. You are enough just as you are, Grumps Thank you, you're right. I'm going to be my own valentine this year and buy myself valentines stuff:D 2
d0nnivain Posted February 2, 2014 Posted February 2, 2014 The only thing I have consistently done every Valentine's Day is eat chocolate. 1
JDPT Posted February 2, 2014 Posted February 2, 2014 I plan on buying flowers, a nice card, and perhaps a box of chocolates to the woman who has truly been there for me through it all, my mother. 5
Confuddled1983 Posted February 2, 2014 Posted February 2, 2014 I normally buy myself a small treat and a takeaway but this year I'm going to buy gifts for me and my little boy, maybe some new PJs and slippers, then we can get dressed in them and chill out watching cartoon films together - I'll make us a nice Valentines day picnic and spread it out on a blanket on the floor. I'm really looking forward to it. There's no one in the world I love as much or who I would rather spend time with 3
Smthn_Like_Olivia Posted February 2, 2014 Posted February 2, 2014 I've never been crazy about Valentine's Day. It's always just seemed like an overhyped day to waste money on overpriced useless things (flowers, candy, stuffed animals). Show me you love me every day. My guy hates the day as well, and since his anniversary with the ex is on Valentines Day, it's a holiday we have officially voided. 1
glimpse Posted February 4, 2014 Posted February 4, 2014 I'd love to have a valentine this year, never had one. Just put yourself out there and ask. No one does grand gestures nowadays. I'm sure whoever you choose will be delighted and genuinely surprised that 'no' wouldn't be in their mind.
Teraskas Posted February 4, 2014 Posted February 4, 2014 Seeing as this my second 'Forever Alone Day' in a row now, I'm just going to treat it as I would any other day. Doesn't mean that having public displays of affection as well as other romantic gestures being shoved into my face by society will make it any easier, despite my efforts to proactively end my single status...
acrosstheuniverse Posted February 4, 2014 Posted February 4, 2014 I'm just not into Valentine's Day, the overhyped commercialisation leaves me cold. It's more special when someone does something for you on a random day, 'just because'. This year I'll be at a gig six hours away watching my favourite band in the world play an arena gig with a couple of friends, having a blast, I just got into a new relationship (like, 2 days new) and I'm sorta glad I'm nowhere near him so that neither of us feel pressured or obligated to conjure up some fake crap! Last year I was single and had a nice meal with two of my best friends (a guy and a girl) at the guy's apartment. That was lovely. When I'm in relationships we normally just cook for each other or go out for a meal someplace cheap. I'm happy to skip it altogether though.
El Brujo Posted February 5, 2014 Posted February 5, 2014 This pretty much sums up my true feelings toward Valentine's Day... https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=499420110179757&set=a.116907151764390.18992.100003353179330&type=1&theater
Tayken Posted February 5, 2014 Posted February 5, 2014 Most of the guys that go all out on this day.......have things on their mind for later on that evening. Again, wait a day after, and everything becomes half price or 70% off Oh...and that includes the sex too
kart180 Posted February 6, 2014 Posted February 6, 2014 I hate the day as a single bachelor. The commercials on tv also make it worse. I hope that I will find a nice women. All I ask it that she never used tobacco and sober for at least 2 years. Thats it. I am open to dating any women from any background. I am trying to go out there but scared of the loud bar environment.
pickflicker Posted February 6, 2014 Posted February 6, 2014 I hate the day as a single bachelor. The commercials on tv also make it worse. I hope that I will find a nice women. All I ask it that she never used tobacco and sober for at least 2 years. Thats it. I am open to dating any women from any background. I am trying to go out there but scared of the loud bar environment. So, she can't drink, and has never, ever smoked. I don't smoke, I find it disgusting, but like most people on Earth, I have tried it in my youth. You realise you might be asking for the impossible, right?
Tayken Posted February 6, 2014 Posted February 6, 2014 So, she can't drink, and has never, ever smoked. I don't smoke, I find it disgusting, but like most people on Earth, I have tried it in my youth. You realise you might be asking for the impossible, right? A lot of people haven't tried smoking....I still think smokers are in the minority really Kissing a smoker or ex smoker is just so.....yucky
potsticker Posted February 6, 2014 Posted February 6, 2014 I usually don't notice for at least half a day, then shrug and go my merry way. 1
pickflicker Posted February 6, 2014 Posted February 6, 2014 A lot of people haven't tried smoking....I still think smokers are in the minority really Kissing a smoker or ex smoker is just so.....yucky Full time habitual smokers, yes. Most kids try it, at one point or another. People who have tried it, even once, far outstrip those that don't - sorry. Perhaps in the next 30 years, there will be a generational change, but trying a ciggie is still very much a right of passage. And if they're an ex smoker, they're not smoking any more, so I don't get where you're coming from...
somedude81 Posted February 6, 2014 Posted February 6, 2014 Odds are I'd end up watching a movie by myself and really missing my ex. This was supposed to be the first valentines day I'd spend with a girlfriend. She completely ruined that for me.
MissTrudy Posted February 6, 2014 Posted February 6, 2014 (edited) I always had platonic celebrations growing up, from elementary school to college. My parents would send me chocolates and cards and things like that, and my friends (both male and female) would get together as a large group and go out to a fancy dinner then have a party. It was always fun and never about relationships. Just people having fun with the (large group) of people that they love. That said, I've always wanted to see how everyone else (in relationships) celebrates Valentine's day though. I feel like if I can go all out just once I wouldn't have the desire to do it again necessarily, it's like a bucket list thing. Like going out and getting wasted for New Year's (at least that was a once in a lifetime thing for me, as I am not much of a partier ). This year is going to be a bit tough. All of my friends (this is a different group of friends than the ones I used to celebrate with, as those friends are now dispersed across the world) are in relationships and some of them kind of rub it in my face, whether it's intentional or I am hypersensitive I don't know. My family live far away and even though we exchange gifts I will be spending the holiday (the whole weekend actually) alone. At least I can cook a romantic dinner for myself with all of the good ingredients that will be available at the store Edited February 6, 2014 by MissTrudy
David87 Posted February 6, 2014 Posted February 6, 2014 This Valentine's day I hope I will be single and alone, because currenty i'm dating two girls at a time, and I hope it will blow up in my face soon because I still think about my ex allot.
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