ThatBwoii Posted February 2, 2014 Posted February 2, 2014 ok, so here goes we was together for 8 months, all was fine, arguments as usual, the usual stuff. after 1 month into the relationship she went out with her friends and cheated (a kiss with a ex) which i did not find out till about 6 months later when she finally had the courage to tell me... hurt like hell but i kept my cool. now we have broken up again, i want to tell you all that i have kept my cool and i have not said anything bad to her or over reacted, i feel all of the emotional pain and feel like its driving me insane, but i have not contacted her and i am still in the game, basically i went to see her just before the breakup thinking that everything was normal. i noticed that she was being indifferent with me and i wondered why, the night before she had gone out with her friend for a takeaway and a movie (which i dont believe) anyway, she was being indifferent, i kept asking her what was wrong but she wouldnt tell me, then she told me she wasnt sure if she wanted to be with me but still loved me to bits and wanted to always be there for me. at that point i left, i phoned her shortly after to end it. anyway, since then i have been very tough i havent contacted her, she has contacted me first a few times, asking why i hated her etcetc, gave that a few days to text back and basically told her that i wanted to look towards the future, few days later she text me asking how i was doing, again i ignored for a bit and she sent me a text saying " you were fine with me before why are you ignoring me not fair" again, i gave it a few hours and i sent a text back saying " im not ignoring you & im fine how are you" then she text back saying that she was fine etcetc, so i put a smiley face and that brings us to now, i think i have been very strong with all of this and the ball is still in my court, i havent made the common mistakes and i am keeping my cool. What do ya'll think ? Any replys much appreciated .
TaraMaiden Posted February 2, 2014 Posted February 2, 2014 (edited) If you've broken up with her, quit breaking No Contact. It's puerile, pointless and actually serves no purpose but to keep ripping the wound open a little, every time. Delete/block her number, block her on FB, block her emails, and then - move on. Concentrate on your progress, not her little digs and constant pokes, which actually, only serve to hinder, not help. Read the No Contact Guide in my signature/link, and learn how you're supposed to do it. This is just prolonging the agony and doing nothing for you. And - sorry, just to add, just what strength do you suppose you have? because by continually breaking No Contact, you're actually making yourself weaker. Watch your heart. Edited February 2, 2014 by TaraMaiden 1
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