Groovy Posted January 15, 2005 Posted January 15, 2005 I previously made a post my ex contacted me and we didn't date but a few months. I waited a few months to have sex and then he sort of bailed on me. He premature ejaculated and sex was poor. He calls, 5 weeks later. I wasn't going to call him but decided to just to ask what he wants and why he is calling me over a month later, just to see what he says. I'm actually more amused than anything. I would've looked past the 4 minute shag if he were nice to me! I know it is either he is A) Guilty and wants my friend off his back to call me like he should have in the first place B) Is thinking he made a mistake by leaving or C) Is horney and wants some action. But C makes little sense when he knows I am kind of religious and have not had sex for 1 1/2 years before my (dissapointing) time with him. Most of my ex's and I are friends. But he just left a message on my machine to say "let's be friends" and NOW he's calling! If I jumped his bones I'd assume C, men are pigs. (Sorry!) I am curious to hear from guys who have called a women back over a month later in a situation of meeting someone like me. The only guy I did it with before was ONCE in my life I went to bed too soon with too much booze with a guy for glorious sex and we dated a few weeks. Do you guys even try to nail good girls like me with booty call despite I made you wait months, and only when I am told a few times we are exclusive and in a relationship!
Mustard Bomb Posted January 15, 2005 Posted January 15, 2005 B, mostly as a result of C. You deserve way better. I don't care if we grumbled in the superlative thread. Even if he is sincere, you did not care for him, which automatically makes him inferior and useless. Who cares what he wanted? Why revisit pointless ghosts? The religion question is immaterial to me - it has to do with personal pride, and you have made your boundaries clear to him. Should he choose to invade those boundaries, it is a sign of disrespect. Take chaste umbrage.
Author Groovy Posted January 15, 2005 Author Posted January 15, 2005 Well I called him, just to get things off my chest. If I don't let him kiss me or screw me, I have nothing to lose emotionally. I asked why he even felt a need to call me 5 weeks later and why he has not called me when he should have. He said he didn't know. That it's not that he met someone new or anything. I told him I just felt like he doesn't know what he wants and has unrealistic expectations. I asked if he's changed what he wants from last month and if next month will be different. He went on and on about my expectations. I said look, I am not the one who bailed on you. That I do have unrealistic expectations but am trying to change that. I find that a very poor excuse to break up with me!!! All he had to do was have a conversation with me instead of bailing with a voice mail break up. I told him I never expected anything from him but to act like a friend. That I was very angry with him. He told me he respected that. But then he started dirty talking about spanking my a$$ when I told him to shut up about my expectations!!!! I laughed and said excuse me? Sorry but you are lucky you have even had a phone conversation with me after what you've done. That won't be happening. I am thinking answer C is correct. But if he wants to hang out, fine... he can buy me dinner and I give him a friendship offering to mend the broken bridge. Give him sex, hell no!!! And since I rained on his parade of dirty talk I don't think he will be calling me again. But maybe I am wrong. Time will tell and I am not worried about it. BTW Mustard Bomb, no offense taken at any of your posts.
Mustard Bomb Posted January 15, 2005 Posted January 15, 2005 No, it's all cool. People are going to disagree based on their cultures and experiences, and a thousand other whatnots. All that's immaterial to your situation here - of which you have complete control! You so did the completely right thing.
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