cw4 Posted February 2, 2014 Posted February 2, 2014 Me (25) currently dating F (21) Met through some mutual friends and but didn't really talk at first when we briefly met (around twice). Got her whatsapp number and managed to get a first date with her after talking to her for a bit. Background: So my friend tells me she's one of those party type girls that likes to hook up. I'm indifferent to the thought as I actually like the girl and don't really care about making judgements. When I talked to her (this is before 1st date) somehow I managed to impress her enough to be somewhat interested in me despite not even exchanging more than 2 sentences in person. I didn't think much of having a relationship with her so I asked her to travel with me when she had time. I sorta just threw it out there not really expecting a response but she told me that she'd be down but didn't want to "play or fool around" anymore as her last relationship started this way and would much rather taking it slow. I say it's cool and didn't think much of it. So our first date was a few days after she got back from another country and she was jetlagged. When the time comes she messages me 30 min before when we were supposed to meet and said she couldn't make it as she just woke up. I was pissed but played it off cool, saying she can take her time. She insists it will take too long and told me she'd make it up to me next time. At this point I don't know if I did the right thing or was a dumbass but told her that I'd come pick her up and wait for her. She agreed. I arrive and waited for about an hour before she came down (at least the lobby was nice). We meet up and of course I'm sorta pissed/in a bad mood so I didn't really try to make conversation. The date was a bit awkward but it was expected since we hardly knew each other. I asked her simple questions and teased her a bit to try to keep it light hearted. At the end we parted both ways and I thought I was the biggest idiot. No kiss/hug or anything. Over the next few days we text and chat. I'm bored as **** so I threw out that we should get drinks on Friday (yesterday). She agreed, which was not something I expected. On the day she asked if we could get dinner instead. I agree. Now it gets interesting... So met up yesterday and the date actually goes quite smoothly. The conversation was 10x less awkward anad much more fluid. She was playing with her hair and necklace the entire night. We joked around and it actually felt quite fun. I asked her some personal questions to get to know her more and she told me all the bad things about her. How she's impulsive, doesn't like to plan, etc. I told her it's totally cool to be yourself and that I won't judge her for anything. Date end and we walk outside for a bit, with her walking quite close to me and bumping into me a few times (took it as interest). Interesting note: throughout the date she was suggesting that we do stuff in the future together. ie. she told me she wanted to teach me how to play poker since she plays it. Also suggested restaurants for next time we meet. I send her home at night and gave her a light kiss on the lips before I dropped her off. I didn't try to push my luck or anything as she had other plans that night so we said our goodbyes and parted ways. So when we text she usually takes awhile to respond (varies but can take a few hrs long). She's on her phone most of the time so I don't get why she wants to play these mind games. I also don't think she's trying to get free dinners from me because this girl comes from a very rich family. What do you guys take from this information?
zoso192 Posted February 2, 2014 Posted February 2, 2014 She likes the attention you give her. Whatever you do don't blow smoke up her ass and try and inflate that ego. Im from Miami and see these girls way too much. Honestly, don't try and make it too formal with her because shes still 21..she will appreciate if youre probably more flirty and keep it light and fun with her. I think this girl will welcome sexual advances from you as long as you don't come across as a creep. Sounds like she may have given you advances that you may have blown off..
zoso192 Posted February 2, 2014 Posted February 2, 2014 Sorry didn't mean sexual maybe more welcoming ie wrapping your arm around her, kiss on the cheek, that sort of thing..don't throw sex at her
Author cw4 Posted February 2, 2014 Author Posted February 2, 2014 She likes the attention you give her. Whatever you do don't blow smoke up her ass and try and inflate that ego. Im from Miami and see these girls way too much. Honestly, don't try and make it too formal with her because shes still 21..she will appreciate if youre probably more flirty and keep it light and fun with her. I think this girl will welcome sexual advances from you as long as you don't come across as a creep. Sounds like she may have given you advances that you may have blown off.. I can agree that she won't mind kissing/hand holding the next time I meet. Had to hold myself back at times... About the formal part... I suggested drinks but she insisted we go to dinner. Does that mean she's not comfortable yet "getting" drinks ie. may lead to something sexual? I figured it was more informal. Despite the change of plans, we still shared a few drinks over dinner.
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